Question about returning to school

[NotSoNew]

Grants are difficult to obtain, loans are limited and have to begin to be repaid while you are in school, Why can't your family help you now?


little of point but did want to clafiy a little since I went back to school after my divorce, grants are generally not that hard to come by especially as a returning adult with dependents and many student loans do not kick in for repayment until 6 months after you cease attending school- there are some loans that you can pay the interest on while you are going to school but that is an OPTION....

ditto that, i got loans and scholarships for my entire education and didnt have to repay any while in school.

 

[bononos]

I think CJane should look into this for the fall semester.
Hopefully her case will be over by then.
All these changes in the midst of the current issues might look bad.
Her BF being gone now, loss of jobs, etc...
It is good to go after that degree and advance your earnings, but not this second.

 

[CJane]

In the normal course of things you would have done this sooner, just like last summer when you were trying to find a way to get on welfare for the older children when the burden was caused by your pregnancy with your bf's child. You knew he wasn't going to be there, why shouldn't he pay support form day one? Why did you wait so long to apply? Unless???

You're tiresome. I was not trying to find a way to get on welfare. I already knew I qualified for it. I was wondering if applying for it would affect custody. I chose not to go that route, so it's irrelevant.

Unless what? I didn't know he wasn't going to be here - otherwise why would I have been asking about him being home when the GAL visited?

And I've repeatedly said that my pregnancy cause no 'burden' on me or anyone else. I have health insurance. There were NO costs associated with this pregnancy that wouldn't have been there in the course of normal life. Fewer probably because I didn't have to buy tampons for almost a year.

Arrangements can be made for ill children, or FMLA if you qualify. You said child care for the infant cost $200 per week in this thread?

And child care WILL cost me that when I can no longer take him to my office. Is that that hard to grasp?

My company is not obligated to honor the FMLA. And while arrangements CAN be made for ill children (leaving them with family, etc) I'm not going to leave my ill child with someone else and dump the responsibility on them. I didn't when I was married and working (my ex still to this day has never stayed home with a sick kid - if they're sick, I stay home from work regardless of whose day it is).

Really?

According to the from 14 that I've already filled out. If they impute my current income, there will be no change whether I'm working or not.

Grants are difficult to obtain, loans are limited and have to begin to be repaid while you are in school, Why can't your family help you now?

No they're not! What planet are you on? A single mother, low income, returning to school... there are grants abounding. And federal loans are deferred until 6 months after graduation. I've been to college before. I know that grants/loans are the way to go. BTDT.

Do you know that my family ISN'T helping me now? I believe I've posted repeatedly that they're paying my legal fees.

I said these were questions you didn't want to ask, but they are questions that you will have to deal with when the gloves come off. $100 per month is a lot when you have no income.

THey're questions I'm not concerned with the answers to at this point. I'm not concerned about dealing with them, they're not issues that I feel need addressed in THIS thread when all I'm asking about is my current custody situation and whether or not going to school instead of working would affect that. You're a master of the accusatory hijack though. Almost as good as IAAL.

Keep your eyes closed then.

No, please, educate me how the judge is going to think I'm manipulating the system. Especially considering when I was getting divorced, after being a stay at home mom for 5 years, I got a full-time job and didn't ask for child support. And when I got laid off from that job, I sold eveything that I could so that I wouldn't have to go on welfare until I found another job. And even though I make less than the poverty level, I manage to clothe, house and feed my kids 60% of the time with no child support and without accepting a dime of state help. And now, in case I lose my job, I'm looking into completing my education because I know - through investigation - that there aren't any open jobs in my current profession. Sounds like total manipulation of the system to me. You MUST be right about me after all.

I suppose I could put an ad up on www.sugardaddy4me.com and just make sure I don't whore myself out while the kids are home.

 

[Ithildriel]

At this point, it doesn't sound like she has lost her job yet. If she is afraid of it, unless she has used up all her time, she should be able to go to the childs doctor and have them invoke family medical leave act for this week of caring for her contagious child. The employer may not be happy she wasn't at work, but would have no legal grounds to terminate based on her caring for the child. At the very least, it should by her job some time until he gets documentation to fire her.

Like Bononononononons said, there have been a lot of major life changes for CJane recently. Why rock the boat with the looming court date? Why even take the chance, when it is completely unnecessary?

 

[Silverplum]

**************.Like Bononononononons said, there have been a lot of major life changes for CJane recently.

I've been thinking about that, CJane, and wanted to let you know that I see you're going through a lot and I hope you are doing well and feeling strong.

 

[CJane]

At this point, it doesn't sound like she has lost her job yet. If she is afraid of it, unless she has used up all her time, she should be able to go to the childs doctor and have them invoke family medical leave act for this week of caring for her contagious child. The employer may not be happy she wasn't at work, but would have no legal grounds to terminate based on her caring for the child. At the very least, it should by her job some time until he gets documentation to fire her.

Like Bononononononons said, there have been a lot of major life changes for CJane recently. Why rock the boat with the looming court date? Why even take the chance, when it is completely unnecessary?

No, I haven't lost my job. I'm simply exploring options, just in case. And regardless of anything else (the baby being sick, whatever) jobs in my field are NOT secure. They're leaving this area at an amazing rate, and aren't coming back. So, even if I keep this job, I'm not going to feel secure there ever. I need to know whether or not entering school instead of working at a future date will be enough to bring custody back into question.

It seems that no, it won't.

I'm returning to work on the 20th. Trial is the 27th. I wouldn't be enrolled by then anyway.

 

[CJane]

I've been thinking about that, CJane, and wanted to let you know that I see you're going through a lot and I hope you are doing well and feeling strong.

I am, actually. Especially after SMom showed her a$$ in deposition on Monday.

If there's one thing I do quite well, it's to keep on keepin on no matter what the bastages throw at me.

 

[Ithildriel]

My misunderstanding....carry on.

 

[CJane]

My misunderstanding....carry on.

I just re-read my post. It sounded much snarkier than intended, and I apologize. I was essentially trying to say that you're right, I'm still employed and simply wondering about legal ramifications if that changes.

 

[Ithildriel]

I just re-read my post. It sounded much snarkier than intended, and I apologize. I was essentially trying to say that you're right, I'm still employed and simply wondering about legal ramifications if that changes.

No apology necessary, but thank you anyway. I did go back and reread your first post, and saw that you were asking about down the road, not the current court date, that was my misunderstanding.

Have you ever (or lately) taken this test?

http://www.cliving.org/lifestresstest.htm

I'm betting you would be off the charts!

 

[CJane]

No apology necessary, but thank you anyway. I did go back and reread your first post, and saw that you were asking about down the road, not the current court date, that was my misunderstanding.

Have you ever (or lately) taken this test?

http://www.cliving.org/lifestresstest.htm

I'm betting you would be off the charts!

Well, considering the highest score is 300 and I got 689...

It's amazing that I'm able to get down to only smoking 5 cigarettes a day and I haven't become an alcoholic yet.

 

[weenor]

Grants are difficult to obtain, loans are limited and have to begin to be repaid while you are in school, Why can't your family help you now?


little of point but did want to clafiy a little since I went back to school after my divorce, grants are generally not that hard to come by especially as a returning adult with dependents and many student loans do not kick in for repayment until 6 months after you cease attending school- there are some loans that you can pay the interest on while you are going to school but that is an OPTION....

Repayment can also be deferred longer depending on the amount of loans and your income...I graduated in 1998 and didn't start paying my federal stafford loans until 8/05- sure the interest adds up but you what you have to do.

 

[SITLYNNE]

Well, considering the highest score is 300 and I got 689...

It's amazing that I'm able to get down to only smoking 5 cigarettes a day and I haven't become an alcoholic yet.

I scored 966 CJane.
Don't smoke or drink. Wonder why I'm having trouble eating and sleeping?

 

[bononos]

I scored 966 CJane.
Don't smoke or drink. Wonder why I'm having trouble eating and sleeping?

Why can't I get it to work?
I hit total and nothing.

 

[CJane]

Repayment can also be deferred longer depending on the amount of loans and your income...I graduated in 1998 and didn't start paying my federal stafford loans until 8/05- sure the interest adds up but you what you have to do.

I hope you lost custody of your kids for being such a deadbeat! There were other options ya know! Think.