Questions about divorce, kids and child support

[kyky]

If you are having all these worries about divorce, then you shouldn't be proposing or setting any wedding dates. Live together for a while. Get to know and trust her. That's the only way to get more confidence about your relationship and what the future will hold. You are scared because you don't know her well enough to marry her. Find out if there's another type of visa she can get for a year or so before you move forward with wedding plans. And don't get her pregnant yet either! I don't think she'll be able to work with any other type of visa but it's more important for you to get your feelings straight before you make it legal.

If you don't sponsor her, someone else will have to. And of course compared to sponsorship, the possibility of alimony/child support is not nearly as scary.

Honestly, I'm scared of how the law is stacked against me. I mean, if I would beat her or do something absurd, then sure. But we're talking here falling out of love (which happens so damn often in our society) and BAM a divorce (you don't know if the same marital bliss will continue forever and ever). But this blood-sucking just doesn't end with the divorce or even a few years later. And if I don't make the cash and pay her, the burden doesn't lessen over time.

What the ****? Who makes such laws?

 

[Proserpina]

Honestly, I'm scared of how the law is stacked against me. I mean, if I would beat her or do something absurd, then sure. But we're talking here falling out of love (which happens so damn often in our society) and BAM a divorce. But this blood-sucking just doesn't end with the divorce or even a few years later. And if I don't make the cash and pay her, the burden doesn't lessen over time.

What the ****? Who makes such laws?

Because the American (and non-American) taxpayers don't want to be footing the bill to support the sponsored immigrant if they need welfare.

And really - you need to watch your language here.

 

[kyky]

Because the American (and non-American) taxpayers don't want to be footing the bill to support the sponsored immigrant if they need welfare.

You can always deport the person.

And really - you need to watch your language here.

No disrespect intended, was just shocked at how messed up the laws in our country are. Also, since this is a forum that I tend to let loose more often than in real-life. I'll be more civil.

 

[ecmst12]

If you don't want to be obligated to support her, then you need to look into some other way of getting her permanent residency. Your immigration attorney should be able to give you some options there.

Who sponsored you before you became a citizen?

 

[kyky]

If you don't want to be obligated to support her, then you need to look into some other way of getting her permanent residency. Your immigration attorney should be able to give you some options there.

I don't mind sponsoring her and supporting her while she's here as my wife. The issue that I'm having with is sponsoring and supporting her while she's here as my ex-wife.

Who sponsored you before you became a citizen?

My great-grandpa. He's dead now.

 

[Proserpina]

You can always deport the person.

No, no you can't.

That's not how it works.

No disrespect intended, was just shocked at how messed up the laws in our country are. Also, since this is a forum that I tend to let loose more often than in real-life. I'll be more civil.

Thank you - because you're asking some sensible and very important questions, and I'd hate to see you banned

 

[Proserpina]

I don't mind sponsoring her and supporting her while she's here as my wife. The issue that I'm having with is sponsoring and supporting her while she's here as my ex-wife.


My great-grandpa. He's dead now.

Test the waters.

Talk to her. Have a conversation based on the premise that she WILL be naturalizing within a few years of landing here. And she'll be working too, right? Earning those valuable SS quarters?

If she waivers, if she's hesitant...that's a big red flag for you.

(Of course, this doesn't guarantee that she won't lie to you)

 

[ecmst12]

Hence, the living together for a year or so before you get married or commit to sponsorship. By then you should have a pretty good idea whether you can trust her or not.

I really believe that you can't know whether you should marry someone before you live with them, you never REALLY know what you're getting into before that. If you don't do that step first, you're really leaving it up to luck.

 

[kyky]

Hence, the living together for a year or so before you get married or commit to sponsorship. By then you should have a pretty good idea whether you can trust her or not.

I really believe that you can't know whether you should marry someone before you live with them, you never REALLY know what you're getting into before that. If you don't do that step first, you're really leaving it up to luck.

How can I get her over here without doing that? What are my legal options? Religious weddings are one thing, but they don't hold much water in a court of law.

 

[kyky]

No, no you can't.

That's not how it works.

Well aware that that is not how it works. Was merely voicing it as an alternative to the current system.

 

[Proserpina]

How can I get her over here without doing that? What are my legal options? Religious weddings are one thing, but they don't hold much water in a court of law.

Is there any reason she cannot obtain a B2 visa herself?

(Ukraine doesn't participate in the VWP so that's not an option)

 

[kyky]

Is there any reason she cannot obtain a B2 visa herself?

(Ukraine doesn't participate in the VWP so that's not an option)

What is a B2 visa?

 

[kyky]

I take some solace in these statistics.

Mail-order bride - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[ecmst12]

I know you know how to google...

I don't know anything about immigration except what I've learned from Proserpina, who knows a lot

 

[kyky]

Also, lets say things do take a really bad turn and yes I divorce and I have to support her, can I ever leave the country for whatever reason?

I know you know how to google...

I don't know anything about immigration except what I've learned from Proserpina, who knows a lot

Sorry, tired, can't think straight. Just bothered inquiring as to what I was getting into and nearly pooped my pants.