Scheduling Issues Before Custody Hearing

[stealth2]

Okay, I realize that is legally true. But as a mother, whenever you have to sit around and do nothing while your baby screams his head off, it is heartbreaking. I know my job is to encourage his relationship with the child. I know this very well. But my top priority is to do what is best for my baby.

Remember, this is also DAD's baby. Not just yours. Dad should be given the opportunity to figure out what works for him. Because what works for you may not necessarily work for him when it comes to soothing, etc. Fathers generally have very different ways of interacting with their children than mothers do. Neither better nor worse, just different. If you can't bear to listen to how he does it, then perhaps you should leave while he is with his son.

The child is an infant. I can't explain to him that during certain times, he has to be with Dad. I have to just allow the child to believe that during certain times, Mommy abandons him. I will always abide by the law and court orders. I will always encourage Dad's relationship with child and work with him as best as I can. Ya know, that's all I can say anymore.

Well, no. Hundreds of thousands of infants go to daycare, etc. ever day and do not believe Mommy abandoned them for some period of time. That's just foolishness. Sorry.

 

[catechismia]

I understand. Thank you all for your opinions and points of view.

 

[Just Blue]

Okay, I realize that is legally true. But as a mother, whenever you have to sit around and do nothing while your baby screams his head off, it is heartbreaking. I know my job is to encourage his relationship with the child. I know this very well. But my top priority is to do what is best for my baby.

The child is an infant. I can't explain to him that during certain times, he has to be with Dad. I have to just allow the child to believe that during certain times, Mommy abandons him. I will always abide by the law and court orders. I will always encourage Dad's relationship with child and work with him as best as I can. Ya know, that's all I can say anymore.

That is just a twisted POV.

 

[ecmst12]

I have to just allow the child to believe that during certain times, Mommy abandons him.

I assure you, your child does not see it that way. He sees dad every day, so dad is as important to him as you are - which is as it should be. You don't have to be with him every minute of every day in order for him to not feel "abandoned".

 

[CJane]

I assure you, your child does not see it that way. He sees dad every day, so dad is as important to him as you are - which is as it should be. You don't have to be with him every minute of every day in order for him to not feel "abandoned".

No. Kidding.

Gawd, my youngest started going to daycare at less than 6 weeks old, so that I could commute more than an hour each way to work and work 10 hour days. He's 7 now. I assure you, at no point during his life has he ever felt as if I've abandoned him. And he's never seen his father.