terminating rights

[TNBSMommy]

How can you want to wash your hands of a baby and leave them in that situation? This is your own flesh and blood!!(assuming paternity tests determine the baby is yours) Could you honestly sleep at night knowing you have a child in the situation you described, being 100% raised by the type of people you described, and just go on living your life happy YOU don't have to be exposed to it?? I'm really not trying to be mean... And I am saying all this as nice as I possibly can... I, as a parent, know I could not pretend I don't have a child being raised by alcoholics and drug addicts growing up to live an unimaginable lifestyle, and sleep at night.

 

[youdontknowme]

How can you want to wash your hands of a baby and leave them in that situation? This is your own flesh and blood!!(assuming paternity tests determine the baby is yours) Could you honestly sleep at night knowing you have a child in the situation you described, being 100% raised by the type of people you described, and just go on living your life happy YOU don't have to be exposed to it?? I'm really not trying to be mean... And I am saying all this as nice as I possibly can... I, as a parent, know I could not pretend I don't have a child being raised by alcoholics and drug addicts growing up to live an unimaginable lifestyle, and sleep at night.

It's alot easier to people to "dispose" or disregard them when they've never seen them or established any kind of a bond with them. Of course, there are people who see the child and feel the same way, too.

 

[ZILLY]

Thanks again and I will fight for what I think is right no matter what. I will also look into legal aide if I need it.

I think ccrawford is going to do the right thing pending paternity of the unborn child.

You should read the ENTIRE topic before responding.

 

[TNBSMommy]

WOW, thanks Zilly, THATs what I've been doing wrong the four+ years I've been a member here, THANK God you came along this month to show me the error of my ways.

And since you found the ONE sentence that indicates he is doing something different, let me point out THREE different passages from his initial posts indicating he is not wanting anything to do with this child,...

ONE:

I hate to say it but I also want to give up rights to this child if it is mine. I cannot see my child growing up in this kind of life style she has.

TWO:

I cant stand the thought of me taking part of raising a child in that situation.

THREE:

I know it may be part of her life but I dont want to raise a child under those circumstances. If I give up rights to the baby am I still responsible for CS if the laws say he is legally the father???

In case you didn't notice, this thread was STARTED so he could find out if he could terminate any rights!!

 

[ZILLY]

That's because he didn't think he had rights to the child SHOULD the child be his.

Now he knows otherwise, that he has a chance to get full custody rights to this child, he doesn't have to raise the child in a drug and alcohol induced setting. And should the child visit their so-called mom, supervision is key.

I may have only been here a month, but I wasn't born yesterday.

 

[ccrawford79]

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Thanks Zilly! I dont want to give up this child if it is mine now that I know I have a good chance of getting it. If I had no control over the lifestyle it would grow up in I dont want to be a part of it. I would be just fine raising my child as a single father. I was raised in a stable enviroment and I think all kids should be. If she cant see how her lifestyle would affect a child especially after saying her son needs a counselor she needs to see one too. If she cant change her opinion about some things before the baby is born and stick to her new decisions....I will go for full custody. Grant it I may not get it and she be pissed at me...I would rather know I tried to help my child rather than sit and just feel sorry for it. Im a good person with morals and respect. I just dont agree with her when she says there is nothing wrong with her lifestyle.........

 

[stealth2]

I may have only been here a month, but I wasn't born yesterday.

Unfortunately, you also have a habit of giving incorrect advice. For example....

She will file for support. When you go to the hearing, you proclaim you are not sure you are the father and you want genetic testing done. You only pay if the child isn't yours.

Nope. Generally, it's the other way around. If the child IS his, he pays for the test. If the child is NOT, she would likely be required to. Although the court coudl make him responsible regardless.

 

[ZILLY]

That was a misprint. I meant to say you only pay if the child IS yours.

 

[stealth2]

That was a misprint. I meant to say you only pay if the child IS yours.

Yeah, well, nice and fine. That's why proofreading is good, especially if you're going to get snippy with other posters.

 

[ZILLY]

Mistakes happen. Funny thing is that I re-read this post several times and never caught it. And I don't have a history of bad advice either, one mistype doesn't warrant a "history".

 

[stealth2]

Actually, you have quite a few "mistypes", misreadings, etc.

 

[ZILLY]

Oh really?

 

[brisgirl825]

Stealth is right. I have seen LdiJ call you on incorrect advice in the custody/visitation board.
When you're a newbie, it's best to just sit back and learn for awhile.

 

[stealth2]

Yep. There's the post where you told OP her ex can have anyone around the kid he likes. While accurate, it didn't answer her question - which was can her ex tell HER who can be around the kids. Then there's the one where you told a poster that giving money outside of the order is illegal. Nope. It doesn't count towards support, but it is not illegal to give additional money to the other parent OR the child.

Shall I go on?

 

[ZILLY]

Then there's the one where you told a poster that giving money outside of the order is illegal. Nope. It doesn't count towards support, but it is not illegal to give additional money to the other parent OR the child

I said COULD BE CONSIDERED. Which is what a JUDGE told ME at my hearing. So in reality, the judge is wrong?

There's the post where you told OP her ex can have anyone around the kid he likes. While accurate, it didn't answer her question - which was can her ex tell HER who can be around the kids

Well anyone with a brain would know that he didn't have to tell her, which is why I told her what I did. He can have anyone around the kids he wants as long as they are not hurting them....

Such scorned women around here...2 for 50 posts that weren't really "wrong" advice posts...Wow, burn me at the cross.