Threatening voicemail

[Zigner]

The OP is a married adult. Suggesting she work on her marriage is not an outlandish suggestion.

I don't get the impression that it's the OP who needs to work on the marriage.

 

[Eekamouse]

I don't understand why she's angry with this other woman. The other woman didn't break any marriage vows to her or any other kind of vows, for that matter. She should be looking at the man who made promises to her when she married him and has made no attempt to honor those vows.

 

[quincy]

Whatever decision she makes on her marriage (stay or leave), Maria needs to handle the relationship between her husband and the woman in a much different way.

Maria cannot continue to react to her cheating spouse and the woman in the way that she has or she runs the very real risk of being charged with a crime.

 

[commentator]

Regardless of her age, the idea that if your husband cheats, its the other woman's fault has always seemed an extremely non-productive one to me. Or vice versa, of course if your wife cheats, time to get my gun.... It is just so easy to blame the other party, hate the other party, and in so many cases, attack the other party in some real or imagined way. But we are doing reality orientation counseling here when we remind Maria that here are some problems, NOT caused by someone else, they're caused by a flaw in this person she's attached to. Fix it or leave it, or it won't get better. If you're going to accept it, don't call the other party and make threats.