randolph76
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law) Illinois?
My ex and I have 50/50 split physical custody; joint legal. Ex has been taking daughter to doctor visits with me going as often as I can. However, these doctor visits have been during her months with her making the appointments since she has the medical insurance and works with the doctor that writes the referral. If I try to make appointments for her my ex cancels them and makes her own. I think she's trying to set it up as she's the good mother who always makes the appointments and I'm the bad father who doesn't care. The most recent appointment is scheduled during my custodial time and she says she will take our daughter to the appointment. Also, I usually never hear about the initial visit that results in the referral (again she works with the doctor(s) who just write it up for her) so there's no way to be involved in that appointment (if there is one and not just a verbal consult w/ mother). I've asked mother repeatedly for me to be involved in all aspects of medical care including initial consult; haven't had much luck there. Anyhow, I want to know if there's any advice on there how I can get into initial consults (when not told about them) and if I should just tell her I'm taking the children to their appointments during my custodial time. I know it will cause an argument with her but I also want to be involved in the medical decisions and feel like I'm being pushed out. Thanks in advance.
My ex and I have 50/50 split physical custody; joint legal. Ex has been taking daughter to doctor visits with me going as often as I can. However, these doctor visits have been during her months with her making the appointments since she has the medical insurance and works with the doctor that writes the referral. If I try to make appointments for her my ex cancels them and makes her own. I think she's trying to set it up as she's the good mother who always makes the appointments and I'm the bad father who doesn't care. The most recent appointment is scheduled during my custodial time and she says she will take our daughter to the appointment. Also, I usually never hear about the initial visit that results in the referral (again she works with the doctor(s) who just write it up for her) so there's no way to be involved in that appointment (if there is one and not just a verbal consult w/ mother). I've asked mother repeatedly for me to be involved in all aspects of medical care including initial consult; haven't had much luck there. Anyhow, I want to know if there's any advice on there how I can get into initial consults (when not told about them) and if I should just tell her I'm taking the children to their appointments during my custodial time. I know it will cause an argument with her but I also want to be involved in the medical decisions and feel like I'm being pushed out. Thanks in advance.