I know it may seem like that but I just don't want my daughter to miss school unless she absolutly needs to. I hope you do understand my point. So the only way to add something into the parenting plan is when she agrees to it. I don't think it should be entirely up to her, and if it is a good stipulation than I don't see a problem with it. Just like I have in the revised parenting plan that only natural parents shall do corporal punishment. My ex lets her boyfriend spank my daughter and if I hear of that again will I have a good chance of abuse? He spanks her with a paddle not just his hand. It just makes me so mad even thinking about that.
Look..you have to understand what a judge has the power to order, and what a judge doesn't have the power to order. You also have to understand that even if a judge has the power to order something, there are many things that a judge will NOT order.
Mom has the right to do whatever she likes on her parenting time, as long as it does not cause demonstrable, provable harm to the child. You have the right to do whatever you like on your parenting time, as long as it does not cause demonstrable, provable harm to the child.
A judge will not put something into the parenting plan over the objection of the other parent, that is a normal parenting issue, unless demonstrable harm has been proven. For a judge to do otherwise, would be a violation of the parent's constitutional rights.
So, if your child has excessive absences from school (way over the school's allowable amount for the year)
and is doing poorly in school as a result, (demonstrable harm) then the judge would have the power to make an order such as you would like. However, if your child does not have excessive absences, and is not doing poorly as a result of absences, then the judge does not have the authority to violate mom's constitutional rights.
The spanking by the boyfriend could be another issue, but as CJane has pointed out, it apparently is not defined as abuse by MO or KS, therefore you may not get anywhere with that. However, it is possible sometimes, to get a judge to order that discipline can only be administered by one of the parents. However, that would apply to you as well. If you can get a judge to prohibit mom's significant others from ever administering discipline, then any significant other of yours, would not be able to administer discipline as well. I am not however talking about just spanking, I am talking about ALL discipline.
I will add that I would also be livid if my ex's significant other had spanking my child, particularly with a paddle, and would probably have taken steps to ensure that couldn't happen in the future. However, I would have also been realistic about my prospects for success, and would have realized that I might not succeed in my goal.
However, the school thing is trivial and micromanaging at this point.
