Update from Dawn?

[Just Blue]

That is awesome news that he's on the mend.

Just shaking my head here at your ex. Actually I'm convinced the gf is behind most of it. I think most of us would love to be in the courtroom when your lawyer explains how your son was on a ventilator and that was why he couldn't go for a visit with dad. And, that dad never once showed up there to actually see how serious it was.

I think dad would leave the courtroom with a new orifice.

No...Not a new orifice...Just an exponentially larger, existing orifice.

 

[janM]

No...Not a new orifice...Just an exponentially larger, existing orifice.

You're right, my mistake...I worked in manufacturing, I should know what "reaming" means.

 

[frylover]

I am SO happy to hear he's doing better! I know you'll be glad to get him home!

If Dad was actually honest with his attorney about the situation, then I think his attorney is an idiot!

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

I'm not too worried about dad and his lawyer's threats. The nurses here are taking very good care of us. They've promised me complete medical records and their daily notes since Kiddo was admitted. I don't think they (Dads whole clan) get the severity of the issues kiddo was having. Therefore maybe his lawyer isn't totally informed. I dunno. My lawyer said she will send both Dad and his lawyer a "stern" letter once we are out of the hospital, that states the seriousness of the baby's issues, and medical documents if needed.
I'd kinda like to see this go to court. Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment, I don't know. But our judge seemed like a very no-nonsense sort of guy. Dad said he shouldn't have to pay child support cause he never got to see kiddo (his choice, by the way... I begged him) Judge shut him down very quickly. And even though I said I didn't want a judgement for arrears, I sure as heck got one.

I want to know what excuse dad would give for not even visiting kiddo once. He doesn't work. He lives within 10 miles. I don't even know what he could say, other than his wife wouldn't let him go alone...

I thought with a contempt case though, that he had to prove that I WILLFULLY denied him a visit. And that he was actually present to utilize his time. I guess I still have lots left to learn.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I'm not too worried about dad and his lawyer's threats. The nurses here are taking very good care of us. They've promised me complete medical records and their daily notes since Kiddo was admitted. I don't think they (Dads whole clan) get the severity of the issues kiddo was having. Therefore maybe his lawyer isn't totally informed. I dunno. My lawyer said she will send both Dad and his lawyer a "stern" letter once we are out of the hospital, that states the seriousness of the baby's issues, and medical documents if needed.
I'd kinda like to see this go to court. Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment, I don't know. But our judge seemed like a very no-nonsense sort of guy. Dad said he shouldn't have to pay child support cause he never got to see kiddo (his choice, by the way... I begged him) Judge shut him down very quickly. And even though I said I didn't want a judgement for arrears, I sure as heck got one.

I want to know what excuse dad would give for not even visiting kiddo once. He doesn't work. He lives within 10 miles. I don't even know what he could say, other than his wife wouldn't let him go alone...

I thought with a contempt case though, that he had to prove that I WILLFULLY denied him a visit. And that he was actually present to utilize his time. I guess I still have lots left to learn.

You would be correct. His contempt threats are baseless. Does your order state anything about "makeup" time? Although, in these circumstances I doubt even if it did that he would be able to try and get make up time from when child was in hospital and he darn well could have spent time with him but he didnt bother. If nothing is said in order about makeup time then he is definetly out of luck. You wouldnt have to offer make up time even if he just didnt take his visitation for any reason.

 

[ErinGoBragh]

Oh man.. I saw this thread had gone into 5 pages, and I got worried for a minute!

Dawn, I am so happy your little guy is better. Best wishes to you and him, and I hope your ex cuts the crap.

 

[LdiJ]

I'm not too worried about dad and his lawyer's threats. The nurses here are taking very good care of us. They've promised me complete medical records and their daily notes since Kiddo was admitted. I don't think they (Dads whole clan) get the severity of the issues kiddo was having. Therefore maybe his lawyer isn't totally informed. I dunno. My lawyer said she will send both Dad and his lawyer a "stern" letter once we are out of the hospital, that states the seriousness of the baby's issues, and medical documents if needed.
I'd kinda like to see this go to court. Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment, I don't know. But our judge seemed like a very no-nonsense sort of guy. Dad said he shouldn't have to pay child support cause he never got to see kiddo (his choice, by the way... I begged him) Judge shut him down very quickly. And even though I said I didn't want a judgement for arrears, I sure as heck got one.

I want to know what excuse dad would give for not even visiting kiddo once. He doesn't work. He lives within 10 miles. I don't even know what he could say, other than his wife wouldn't let him go alone...

I thought with a contempt case though, that he had to prove that I WILLFULLY denied him a visit. And that he was actually present to utilize his time. I guess I still have lots left to learn.

Like hisbabygirl said he would have to prove that you were willfully in contempt. I would absolutely love to be a fly on the courtroom wall if that case actually got in front of a judge.

He deliberately chose not to visit his deathly ill, 15 month old son...and has the nerve to threaten you with contempt?

His attorney cannot be that bad...his attorney cannot possibly know the truth.

 

[my life is mine]

I will continue my prayers for little and you.

Dad can go suck on an egg

 

[gr8rn]

Dad and I are both 25. Step is 22. Her mom is his aunt. Very weird situation LoL.

Ewwwww, ick.

Wouldn't that make them first cousins???

So glad your son is finally improving.

(((((Dawn and son)))))

 

[Isis1]

yeah for the baby!!!! i'm so glad baby is doing SO much better!! that's so wonderful!

your ex is makes idiots look like gods.

contempt my arse!

like LD, i REALLY think this attorney doesn't even KNOW the baby is in the hospital. or is so broke he'll take ANYTHING.

dad didn't visit even once???

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

To gr8rn:

Legally, yes they are first cousins, biologically, they aren't blood related.

His uncle married her mom when she was pregnant with her. His uncle is her legal father, but not her biological father.

So it leads me to wonder if wife's younger sibs consider themselves kiddos aunts or cousins? And if her mom and legal dad are aunt and uncle or (wannabe) grandparents? Hmm...

I don't know how true this all is, but this is what Dad has told me. He has proven himself to be untruthful, so really... Who knows...

To Babygirl:

Nothing at all in our order about makeup time. Our order just states the day and time of visits. It also says that dad can request extra time if we are in agreement.

Ldij:

No worries about being a fly in the courtroom, IF this goes to court, I will be back to report the outcome... Though I'm sure hearing Dad getting laid into first hand would be better

Isabella:

Dad has not visited even once. In fact, I have not heard anything at all from him since Wednesday. Today is our 11th day here and not once has dad asked about the baby. I have texted him updates (up until I was advised not to anymore) and all I would get in return to those was "k" or some smartalec remark about ME wanting to see him. He has no idea what's going on now, and doesn't seem to care.

 

[Isis1]

Isabella:

Dad has not visited even once. In fact, I have not heard anything at all from him since Wednesday. Today is our 11th day here and not once has dad asked about the baby. I have texted him updates (up until I was advised not to anymore) and all I would get in return to those was "k" or some smartalec remark about ME wanting to see him. He has no idea what's going on now, and doesn't seem to care.

what a jerk. even the POS i deal with would show up at the ER. i show up at the ER when he takes kiddo. and i can't stand him. i get physically sick everytime i am around him. but i put up with it for my children. omg. i hope this idiot DOES take it to court.