Very long(sorry)but very nervous

[scaredmom79]

Thank you so much everyone for your help. I truly appreciate it. I'm going to see a lawyer tomorrow

 

[scaredmom79]

hope someone can help?

updated..please read

 

[LdiJ]

updated..please read

I don't see any update. However if you updated by editing your previous posts, please do NOT do that. Post your update at the end of your thread.

 

[scaredmom79]

sorry about that

update! Please any advice? I contacted legal aid last week and the lawyer I spoke with said I have every right to tell my husband I do not want his girlsfriend around my girls. She also said to wait for him to file court actions so it would cost him and then they could PROBABLY help represent me. SO on friday my husband called and talked to the girls on the phone. I do not speak with him as it always results in an argument. He then called back and left me a voicemail I couldn't understand(thick scottish accent). I texted him asking to email or text me anything. He called back and i answered. He said he wanted to take the girls next saturday from 10am to 8pm. I asked that his girlfriend would not be present he said no she wouldn't. Then he started yelling at me, bringing up mud from the past. I calmly told him I wouldn't do this and hung up. Then I emailed him asking him for an email in return confirming times and the fact that gf would not be present. He reacted by saying he would not email anything and oh i would have to pick the girls up because he would only have her car in the morning but she would need it for work in the afternoon. I of course know that meant he was lying to me and she would have to be there at some point during the day in order for the car switch to take place. SO I emailed back saying written confirmation of the times and fact that she wouldn't be there or no visit. I'm covering my rear. he freaks out sends an email saying I'm trying to control his life and I'm a sad person who will screw up the kids...all kinds of nasty stuff. I did not answer. so now last night he emails me saying he wants the girls from 4pm to 8pm saturday and I will have to bring them and pick them up as this is the only way to avoid his gf and that if I'm soooo concerned for my girls' mental health the he is sure i won't have a problem with it. so nasty. he lives 45 minutes away. I put a call into the lawyer today but have not yet heard back from her. I DO want my girls to see him. they love him and ask about him all the time. He is being so nasty though and I'm worried that if I bring them to him this time it will set a precedent. I'm pretty sure I can say I want him to meet half way, but is that the best thing for them? should I just suck it up and bring them?? Please any advice would be great. Thanks!!

 

[LdiJ]

update! Please any advice? I contacted legal aid last week and the lawyer I spoke with said I have every right to tell my husband I do not want his girlsfriend around my girls. She also said to wait for him to file court actions so it would cost him and then they could PROBABLY help represent me. SO on friday my husband called and talked to the girls on the phone. I do not speak with him as it always results in an argument. He then called back and left me a voicemail I couldn't understand(thick scottish accent). I texted him asking to email or text me anything. He called back and i answered. He said he wanted to take the girls next saturday from 10am to 8pm. I asked that his girlfriend would not be present he said no she wouldn't. Then he started yelling at me, bringing up mud from the past. I calmly told him I wouldn't do this and hung up. Then I emailed him asking him for an email in return confirming times and the fact that gf would not be present. He reacted by saying he would not email anything and oh i would have to pick the girls up because he would only have her car in the morning but she would need it for work in the afternoon. I of course know that meant he was lying to me and she would have to be there at some point during the day in order for the car switch to take place. SO I emailed back saying written confirmation of the times and fact that she wouldn't be there or no visit. I'm covering my rear. he freaks out sends an email saying I'm trying to control his life and I'm a sad person who will screw up the kids...all kinds of nasty stuff. I did not answer. so now last night he emails me saying he wants the girls from 4pm to 8pm saturday and I will have to bring them and pick them up as this is the only way to avoid his gf and that if I'm soooo concerned for my girls' mental health the he is sure i won't have a problem with it. so nasty. he lives 45 minutes away. I put a call into the lawyer today but have not yet heard back from her. I DO want my girls to see him. they love him and ask about him all the time. He is being so nasty though and I'm worried that if I bring them to him this time it will set a precedent. I'm pretty sure I can say I want him to meet half way, but is that the best thing for them? should I just suck it up and bring them?? Please any advice would be great. Thanks!!

I think that you should suck it up and bring them. However, if he asks you to do it again, I would suggest that he rent a car. Weekend rates are cheap.

 

[sometwo]

I think that you should suck it up and bring them. However, if he asks you to do it again, I would suggest that he rent a car. Weekend rates are cheap

I agree , and you say you do want the kids to see him. He's making it where gf won't be around. You should take the kids to see him.

 

[scaredmom79]

yes I do want them to see him. He's a jerk to me, but he makes them smile and laugh.. provides no support but they don't know that stuff. Thats pretty much what I was thinking. Thanks for the input.