We have not been to court yet. The problem is he could be anywhere in the city. If we end up in the same grocery store, can I be arrested? I don't have his work schedule so I have no way of knowing which places he could be at. I don't want to be at a concert and half way through, notice him, and have to leave or be arrested.
I have not violated anything, so I don't have an "explanation of what happened and why it happened". My question was what happens if we both show up at the same place? He works security at whatever event he is sent to, so I have no idea of knowing ahead of time if he will be working there or not. What happens if we run into each other at the mall or grocery? I can't just sit in my house and never go anywhere because he MIGHT be there. I came here seeking advice because I have never been through something like this. I don't appreciate being talked to like I am stupid and lying. Your tone is why people cant stand lawyers. Why don't you do what you are here for, which should be to help, not tear down.
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What does the protective order say about distance that must be kept between you (e.g., 100') - or doesn't the order address this at all?
IF a permanent order is issued, this is a condition that should be clearly spelled out so you know what you must do (and not do) to be in compliance.
Incidental encounters (generally) are not an issue. If you are grocery shopping and your ex appears, you (generally) do not have to stop shopping and leave the store. It is when incidental encounters seem more than coincidental (when you happen to be wherever your ex is with no good reason for you being where you are) that the encounter is likely to have consequences for you.
That said,
any time you are in violation of the terms of the protective order, your ex can call the police. The protective order is in place because your ex (based on legitimate concerns or not) has persuaded the court that you are a threat.
You will want an attorney's help. You should not go to the hearing without one.
Although your attorney will advise you on the following in more detail, the major thing you need to remember at the hearing is that the judge is judging you, not only on the facts you present but on your appearance and on your attitude.
Good luck.