What is the name of your state? Nebraska
My ex has visitation next summer from July 7th thru August 15th. He resides in another state. My daughters want to play softball, which the season ends mid July. My oldest daughter wants to try out for her high school varsity softball team next year, so she needs to play on a summer team so that she can get the coaching and playing time she needs. The visitation will have to be reduced by at least one week for the girls to finish the softball season. I have offered to give my ex 3 extra days at Thanksgiving to help make up the week lost. His only holiday visitation this year is one weekend per holiday, which he will not use because he will not pay for airfare for only two or three days. So, as of right now, he will not see them at all for the holidays unless he takes my offer. With the extra three days I am offering, he can have the girls for five days instead of two, but he still feels that the airfare is too much money to pay for less than a week. He wants them during the Christmas break for 8 days starting the day after Christmas, instead of Thanksgiving. My oldest daughter already has a prior committment to work that week after Christmas, and she does not want to be with her Dad for New Year's Eve, as she was last year. She is 16 and wants to spend it with her friends. She is at that age where she feels that she misses out on a lot of time with her friends because she has to go to her Dad's every summer and during the holidays. Do I stand on my offer for Thanksgiving in return for letting the girls play softball, and reducing his summer visitation? Or, do I make my daughters go to their Dad's for Christmas in exchange for his agreement on reducing his summer visitation? I have offered, in the past, to give him extra time during the summer at two different times, but he will not pay to fly the girls a second time. I pay my share of the airfare also, so I am only asking him to pay his portion, not all of the airfare.
My ex has visitation next summer from July 7th thru August 15th. He resides in another state. My daughters want to play softball, which the season ends mid July. My oldest daughter wants to try out for her high school varsity softball team next year, so she needs to play on a summer team so that she can get the coaching and playing time she needs. The visitation will have to be reduced by at least one week for the girls to finish the softball season. I have offered to give my ex 3 extra days at Thanksgiving to help make up the week lost. His only holiday visitation this year is one weekend per holiday, which he will not use because he will not pay for airfare for only two or three days. So, as of right now, he will not see them at all for the holidays unless he takes my offer. With the extra three days I am offering, he can have the girls for five days instead of two, but he still feels that the airfare is too much money to pay for less than a week. He wants them during the Christmas break for 8 days starting the day after Christmas, instead of Thanksgiving. My oldest daughter already has a prior committment to work that week after Christmas, and she does not want to be with her Dad for New Year's Eve, as she was last year. She is 16 and wants to spend it with her friends. She is at that age where she feels that she misses out on a lot of time with her friends because she has to go to her Dad's every summer and during the holidays. Do I stand on my offer for Thanksgiving in return for letting the girls play softball, and reducing his summer visitation? Or, do I make my daughters go to their Dad's for Christmas in exchange for his agreement on reducing his summer visitation? I have offered, in the past, to give him extra time during the summer at two different times, but he will not pay to fly the girls a second time. I pay my share of the airfare also, so I am only asking him to pay his portion, not all of the airfare.