visitation rights for my daugher.

[ashlynnsmama]

What is the name of your state? Washington state
Im a single mom. My ex has finally started paying more money in child support because the state paper work finally went through. I need help finding out what kind of rights I have and what he has towards visitation of our daughter. I am the custodial parent. I also need help creating a legal custody agreement so he stops trying to take advantage of me. He does have drug charges on his record as well.What is the name of your state?

 

[Neal1421]

What is the name of your state? Washington state
Im a single mom. My ex has finally started paying more money in child support because the state paper work finally went through. I need help finding out what kind of rights I have and what he has towards visitation of our daughter. I am the custodial parent. I also need help creating a legal custody agreement so he stops trying to take advantage of me. He does have drug charges on his record as well.What is the name of your state?

Is there a custody order and visitation agreement?

 

[ashlynnsmama]

no not yet. i need help getting one.

 

[ashlynnsmama]

he takes her every other weekend but continusly asks for more. and he gives me problems when i say no or whatever answer i give him thats not yes.

 

[Silverplum]

http://www.washingtonlawhelp.org/WA/StateSubTopics.cfm/County/ /City/ /demoMode/= 1/Language/1/State/WA/TextOnly/N/ZipCode/ /LoggedIn/0/iTopicID/862/sTopicImage/familyjuvenile.gif/bAllState/0

This link has just about everything you'd want to know.

 

[fairisfair]

he takes her every other weekend but continusly asks for more. and he gives me problems when i say no or whatever answer i give him thats not yes.

If there is no custody or visitation agreement, only a child support order, then he has no rights. You can find several standard parenting plan samples, both on this site and on the internet. But as things stand right now, you are the one that makes all the decisions. What do you mean he gives you problems.??

 

[Ohiogal]

If there is no custody or visitation agreement, only a child support order, then he has no rights. You can find several standard parenting plan samples, both on this site and on the internet. But as things stand right now, you are the one that makes all the decisions. What do you mean he gives you problems.??

One thing that she MUST take into consideration is that if she is withholding the child without good reason and failing to facilitate a relationship between child and father the court will NOT be happy with her. She does get to make all the decisions but if she is not allowing any relationship to develop the court will not take that into consideration.

 

[fairisfair]

One thing that she MUST take into consideration is that if she is withholding the child without good reason and failing to facilitate a relationship between child and father the court will NOT be happy with her. She does get to make all the decisions but if she is not allowing any relationship to develop the court will not take that into consideration.

Of course, you are right, but it didn't sound like she was withholding the child, just not giving him what he wanted.

 

[ashlynnsmama]

he sees his daughter everyother weekend. im not saying he cant see her. he can see her thats fine. but everytime she goes over there. she comes home completly off her schedual. throws constant tempertantrums. needs to be held 24/7. and is covered in rashes and reactions to stuff that i dont even know what it is cuz he wont tell me anything about what has gone on durring the weekend. he keeps any and all answers to my questions vague or incomplete. the amount of time she spends over there on the weekend is more than enough maybe too much with the way in which she comes home to me.

 

[Ithildriel]

he sees his daughter everyother weekend. im not saying he cant see her. he can see her thats fine. but everytime she goes over there. she comes home completly off her schedual. throws constant tempertantrums. needs to be held 24/7. and is covered in rashes and reactions to stuff that i dont even know what it is cuz he wont tell me anything about what has gone on durring the weekend. he keeps any and all answers to my questions vague or incomplete. the amount of time she spends over there on the weekend is more than enough maybe too much with the way in which she comes home to me.

How old is your daughter? She can't communicate what she is doing or eating while in his care?

 

[ashlynnsmama]

shes 16 months. she barely says anything.

 

[Ithildriel]

Not legal advice, but a couple of suggestions.

Are you taking the baby to the doctor when the rashes occur? Has she been checked for allergies?

Do you provide enough clothes so that Dad doesn't have to do laundry?

Do you provide food that that the baby eats while in your care without issue?

Do you provide the same bath products you use for the baby for dad?

Do you provide diapers for dad?

I know, you shouldn't have to provide these things, blah blah blah...but if my child was coming home with a rash every couple of weeks, I would make sure dad had items that I knew the child was not allergic to while he took care of her. Sticking it to dad should not be more important than baby's comfort.

 

[ashlynnsmama]

shes not alregic to anything that we know of. we have figued out what is giving her rashes. apple juice and strawberries. and he wont let me send anything with her. he dosent even like it when i send her wit hher stuffed kitty cat. and he wouldnt listen to me when i told him no apple juice or strawberries. he denies that he ever does any thing wrong with her.

 

[Ithildriel]

shes not alregic to anything that we know of. we have figued out what is giving her rashes. apple juice and strawberries. and he wont let me send anything with her. he dosent even like it when i send her wit hher stuffed kitty cat. and he wouldnt listen to me when i told him no apple juice or strawberries. he denies that he ever does any thing wrong with her.

She's not allergic to anything, but these things give her rashes.

She comes home with rashes, from you don't know what because he wont tell you what he does with her, but you know it is from strawberries and apple juice.

He denies he ever does anything wrong with her.

Do you deny you ever do anything wrong with her? Have you ever told him that gee, I screwed this up with the baby.

Have you ever told him anything good about what he has done for his daughter? Ever?

If he wanted a fishwife, he wouldn't be your ex. You need to grow up and learn to get along with him. Maybe if you didn't come off all controlling and bitchy about EVERYTHING, he would be more apt to listen to you on the important things.

This is his child as much as it is yours. How would you feel if someone told you that every other weekend was more than enough time for you to spend with her? I'm thinking you wouldn't be too happy with that at all, but it's just a guess.

 

[LdiJ]

She's not allergic to anything, but these things give her rashes.

She comes home with rashes, from you don't know what because he wont tell you what he does with her, but you know it is from strawberries and apple juice.

He denies he ever does anything wrong with her.

Do you deny you ever do anything wrong with her? Have you ever told him that gee, I screwed this up with the baby.

Have you ever told him anything good about what he has done for his daughter? Ever?

If he wanted a fishwife, he wouldn't be your ex. You need to grow up and learn to get along with him. Maybe if you didn't come off all controlling and bitchy about EVERYTHING, he would be more apt to listen to you on the important things.

This is his child as much as it is yours. How would you feel if someone told you that every other weekend was more than enough time for you to spend with her? I'm thinking you wouldn't be too happy with that at all, but it's just a guess.

Wow....my reaction to this poster was very different than yours. Her style of writing is disjointed and choppy....but I didn't see her as controlling at all...just disjointed and choppy in her writing skills.

And yes, if you take the child to the doctor due to rashes etc., the doctor is going to want to know exactly what the child ate and/or was around. If dad won't tell....then that's a problem.