That's because you can't hear me.
I may have been a bit rough on the op, but everything I said was true. She uses phrasing in her post that comes off as controlling. It's not a big leap that she could easily be using language with dad
sounds controlling to him. I know if every time I went to Dad's kiddo had a rash, and he wasn't listening to what I was telling him needed to be done, my initial response is not going to be to make nice with dad either. And I still believe that this child could definitely benefit from both parents taking a coparenting class. She definitely wants what is best for her child, and dad is displaying a desire to parent as much as possible.
Yes the original theme of the thread is that she needs a parenting plan and visitation schedule in place. But is dad really going to get less than every other weekend, based on the history she has given? Probably not. The drug charges may come into effect, depending on how old they are, but she has already been allowing overnights. But once the parenting plan is in place, she is going to have to learn to deal with dad. She can't control his behavior, but she can control hers. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
That's all I'm saying.