Visitation- sick child and flying

[stealth2]

Your ex's past history would have NOTHING to do with your contempt of the order. And you WOULD be in contempt. Especially if you couldn't be bothered to make concessions to providing make-up time. But hey - go for it. After all, WA is a "mother friendly state" and you've made it easy on yourself by changing jurisdiction. Hope you feel lucky.

 

[CalifLawyer]

I am reading. I also know a thing or two about this man's history. I know that he has documented domestic violence and neglect--yes, in the court records. I know that he is what most consider a "dead beat dad" who only pays what is garnished from his check, not the court ordered "half of the medical" or the court ordered assistance with the tutoring. I know that he isn't paying on the back owed child support any longer, even though he owes. I realize that it would be a breach of contract for me to not put my son on the plane, but the real question would be if it could be considered a special circumstance, especially since the child would still be going, just 40 hours later.

We have all spent way too much time on this thread. You're making excuses and not reading. No one cares about your husband's history because it's irrelevant. You're just being an emotional mother. Stop it. It will get you into trouble.

I'm out.

IAAL

 

[CalifLawyer]

Your ex's past history would have NOTHING to do with your contempt of the order. And you WOULD be in contempt. Especially if you couldn't be bothered to make concessions to providing make-up time. But hey - go for it. After all, WA is a "mother friendly state" and you've made it easy on yourself by changing jurisdiction. Hope you feel lucky.

Washington wouldn't have anything to do with this. It's a California court order. California would slice her and dice her.

IAAL

 

[stealth2]

Washington wouldn't have anything to do with this. It's a California court order. California would slice her and dice her.

IAAL

From another thread:

I live in Wa and he lives in Ca. <snip> and one of the things I did was have the case moved to Washington. It helped that neither of us lives in the original jurisdiction... made things real easy for me.

So, sorry IAAL, but WA has quite a bit to do with it.

 

[delvalle5]

one day in exchange for two? and why not split 50/50 the cost? It's not like
I'd be keeping him just for fun

 

[stealth2]

one day in exchange for two? and why not split 50/50 the cost? It's not like
I'd be keeping him just for fun

Because the child CAN fly, YOU are the one choosing to make the changes. So YOU should be the one to foot the bill. Or send him tomorrow. You don't have to give him two days in exchange - give him back as close to the time you're pulling. You first said it was a day and a half - so come close to that. It really isn't as complicated as you'd like to make it.

 

[CalifLawyer]

It must be age. Which number post said, "Originally Posted by delvalle5
I live in Wa and he lives in Ca. <snip> and one of the things I did was have the case moved to Washington. It helped that neither of us lives in the original jurisdiction... made things real easy for me."

IAAL

 

[delvalle5]

I guess it is hard for me to be objective while he is yelling at me, and hearing his wife making comments in the background... makes for a terse conversation. I don't mind giving tit for tat on the time, but I already eat the medical bills, I don't feel I should eat this too. He already owes me a lot, he can just deduct it from what he owes me if he wants, I'll never see that money anyway.

 

[stealth2]

It must be age. Which number post said, "Originally Posted by delvalle5
I live in Wa and he lives in Ca. <snip> and one of the things I did was have the case moved to Washington. It helped that neither of us lives in the original jurisdiction... made things real easy for me."

IAAL

Post #2 in thread https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=297011

 

[CalifLawyer]

I guess it is hard for me to be objective while he is yelling at me, and hearing his wife making comments in the background... makes for a terse conversation. I don't mind giving tit for tat on the time, but I already eat the medical bills, I don't feel I should eat this too. He already owes me a lot, he can just deduct it from what he owes me if he wants, I'll never see that money anyway.

Sounds like you've made your decision. The wrong one, but you made a decision. Remember, don't drop the soap when you're in the jail shower.

IAAL

 

[delvalle5]

It's smart that you guys pull from other posts that I made in other threads... what did you mean that it "must be age"?

 

[stealth2]

It's smart that you guys pull from other posts that I made in other threads... what did you mean that it "must be age"?

Yeah, it is. Because you show more of your, cough, "character" in that thread.

 

[CalifLawyer]

Post #2 in thread https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=297011

Well, I'll be damned! Another hidden fact left out of THIS thread!

IAAL

 

[delvalle5]

I wouldn't go to jail for putting him on the plane later... If that were the case, me ex would be in jail. He has a tendency to be "late" to the airport.

 

[stealth2]

I wouldn't go to jail for putting him on the plane later... If that were the case, me ex would be in jail. He has a tendency to be "late" to the airport.

Maybe not. Or maybe yes. Or maybe you'll pull this sort of game often enough that the judge will have enough of it and hand custody over to Dad. Even with his history. Go ahead - take the chance.