Visitation- sick child and flying

[VA_Mom]

Alrighty then, how long would it take to drive halfway? How about the entire way and catch a flight back? Ask the ex to meet you halfway or pay for half your flight ticket back.

 

[delvalle5]

You will have to tell me where I was manipulative. When I moved the case to Wa, I was nine months pregnant with my last son. My ex filed motion for change in custody when I was eight months pregnant. He said he thought I would flee to mexico. First, I was on bedrest, second, I am not mexican and have never been to mexico. I appeared to court over the phone and faxed documents. The court can see through manipulation and they chose to let the case be moved to the state of washington. If that is manipulation, then I guess the court was helping me. As far as the flight goes, I was given a note from the doctor that says he "highly recommend that the flight be delayed 3-4 days". Sure, he told me that my son could fly if necessary, but gave me a note... I called my ex to discuss it and let him know and I got yelled at... I don't know... I guess I will wait and see what he is like in the AM and if he hasn't improved I could take him to the ER and get a note (what a waste of emergency medical personnel). I wouldn't mind driving, but my ex won't do that, his wife is 7 months pregnant. to meet half way would be a five hour trip there and five hours back. I have no problem doing that.

 

[AHA]

You will have to tell me where I was manipulative. When I moved the case to Wa, I was nine months pregnant with my last son. My ex filed motion for change in custody when I was eight months pregnant. He said he thought I would flee to mexico. First, I was on bedrest, second, I am not mexican and have never been to mexico. I appeared to court over the phone and faxed documents. The court can see through manipulation and they chose to let the case be moved to the state of washington. If that is manipulation, then I guess the court was helping me. As far as the flight goes, I was given a note from the doctor that says he "highly recommend that the flight be delayed 3-4 days". Sure, he told me that my son could fly if necessary, but gave me a note... I called my ex to discuss it and let him know and I got yelled at... I don't know... I guess I will wait and see what he is like in the AM and if he hasn't improved I could take him to the ER and get a note (what a waste of emergency medical personnel). I wouldn't mind driving, but my ex won't do that, his wife is 7 months pregnant. to meet half way would be a five hour trip there and five hours back. I have no problem doing that.

Oh, for God's sake, why are you continuing with this thread since you clearly made up your mind long before you even posted here??????
You are hell bent on keeping your child from the man YOU choose to have a child with (so all the bs about him being such a jerk says a lot about your taste in men BTW).
Since you decided from the first post to not listen to any of the advice given, why not close this idiotic thread, keep your kid at home and face the music! There are bigger issues to be helped with here than your stubborn personal agenda against your ex. You can call it whatever you want, but you are still in contempt and that is not cool, much like you think it is not cool when daddy is in contempt.
Put a stop to this nonsense and stop playing games with people here who are wasting valuable time for nothing! You made up your mind long ago, be a woman and stop making up excuses for it.

 

[IrishLady47]

You will have to tell me where I was manipulative. When I moved the case to Wa, I was nine months pregnant with my last son. My ex filed motion for change in custody when I was eight months pregnant. He said he thought I would flee to mexico. First, I was on bedrest, second, I am not mexican and have never been to mexico. I appeared to court over the phone and faxed documents. The court can see through manipulation and they chose to let the case be moved to the state of washington. If that is manipulation, then I guess the court was helping me. As far as the flight goes, I was given a note from the doctor that says he "highly recommend that the flight be delayed 3-4 days". Sure, he told me that my son could fly if necessary, but gave me a note... I called my ex to discuss it and let him know and I got yelled at... I don't know... I guess I will wait and see what he is like in the AM and if he hasn't improved I could take him to the ER and get a note (what a waste of emergency medical personnel). I wouldn't mind driving, but my ex won't do that, his wife is 7 months pregnant. to meet half way would be a five hour trip there and five hours back. I have no problem doing that.

Yup, this is about revenge. No, the doctor cannot say "for sure" your son will not have any adverse affects whatsoever from the flight. Nor can you say "for sure" he will, your sister's experience notwithstanding. But, unless you feel the doctor is incompetent or a sadist, I still do not believe he would OK the flight WHICH HE DID. You just cannot let go of what you figure is a fully justified reason to mess w/your ex. Lady Luck dropped this in your lap, you want to run with it. Understandable, but at least have the guts to admit the truth, if to no one else but yourself.

Bottom line--if you were 100% sure you were only concerned about your son's health and your action was 100% justified. you'd never have asked for anyone's opinion. Wouldn't have mattered.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

There is no need for me to point it out as the others have also seen it. I wasn't the first to comment about your attitude. We take into account all the facts, not just what you feed us hoping to get a specific answer. What was especially troubling in your case was the fact that not only were you manipulative but you bragged about it. Of course you are unaware of it, or won't admit it, that goes with the territory and now you are in a place where you can manipulate your son's health. Well the courts see through these things although not always as soon as they should, but if your ex already petitioned for custody in the past giving him fuel for another petition or to have a GAL appointed and your gig will be up.

 

[delvalle5]

The law is never 100%. The first responses I read were more legal minded and the last have been more judgemental. Read it all, please. I was not trying to keep him from his dad, just postpone the flight by 40 hours. Really, if I were the one flying, I would have postponed it. After hearing all of you, I now think the best thing is to put him on the plane and then file a motion for change in visitation. Then, when the court order says to alternate holidays, I can offer him the same time he gets now pending health outside the court. That way, if my son gets ill, I won't have to worry about legal reprecussions. You see, my ex is really into holidays and I let him have every holiday- every year. I think it is time that I ask for alternate, like all the other parents. Yep, you guys have definately helped me make up my mind. Thanks.