What can be done??

[casa]

There is nothing inherently WRONG with sleeping in the nude. This is YOUR hang-up, hon. I sometimes do, I sometimes don't - depending a great deal on the weather. Same with the kids. The a/c doesn't always cool the upstairs well enough, so sometimes they'll strip right down for bed. Big deal. Do they wander around starkers? Nope. But they will walk around in skivvies. As do I at times. Again - big deal.

"Skivvies" really is a flashback! LOL

I have one that would be naked 24/7 and one that shuts & locks the door to pee. Age differences accounting.

What I think is relevant...is how this was handled during marriage? OP says Dad has done this in the past as well. I mean, there were times during my marriage when my (then) 6 yr. old came and asked to crawl into bed and one of us parents was naked. We weren't bouncing around the bed like it was a trampoline or anything...just wrapped ourselves a bit more, er, 'securely' in the sheets & carried on as if nothing was amis. And, I wouldn't consider myself extremely modest or extremely liberal re; nudity.

 

[davisracing48]

There is nothing inherently WRONG with sleeping in the nude. This is YOUR hang-up, hon. I sometimes do, I sometimes don't - depending a great deal on the weather. Same with the kids. The a/c doesn't always cool the upstairs well enough, so sometimes they'll strip right down for bed. Big deal. Do they wander around starkers? Nope. But they will walk around in skivvies. As do I at times. Again - big deal.

NO, you are right there isn't, as long as you don't expose yourself to "others"

 

[AHA]

You are high on yourself, lady.

YOU are the one that said he sleeps naked, YOU are the one that brought up touching kid's private parts, I'm just spelling out what YOU have said and because it is making you look off, you throw out a lame @ss attack of "me assuming everything". You are a comedian, right?!

If you have no faith in dad's parenting abilities and morals, maybe you shouldn't have chosen him to father your kids.

FYI, there is no need (or proof of maturity) to start new threads just to bash people that point out the facts that you have provided, but if you are so obsessed with me and my feelings and other poster's, go right ahead and continue this bs, I'm so sure that you will.

Have a good one.

 

[stealth2]

You're not getting it. Go ahead and take this to court.

 

[ceara19]

You're not getting it. Go ahead and take this to court.

I don't think she'll ever get it. Not until she does take him back to court, or better yet, when DAD takes her back to court and takes the kids away from her for turning them into paranoid schitzophrenics because of all of HER idiotic issues!!

 

[davisracing48]

"Skivvies" really is a flashback! LOL

I have one that would be naked 24/7 and one that shuts & locks the door to pee. Age differences accounting.

What I think is relevant...is how this was handled during marriage? OP says Dad has done this in the past as well. I mean, there were times during my marriage when my (then) 6 yr. old came and asked to crawl into bed and one of us parents was naked. We weren't bouncing around the bed like it was a trampoline or anything...just wrapped ourselves a bit more, er, 'securely' in the sheets & carried on as if nothing was amis. And, I wouldn't consider myself extremely modest or extremely liberal re; nudity.

Again, I am not assuming DAD never gives them baths. I said, "BEFORE, I WAS DIVORCED, the father NEVER helped to bath them at all. So during this time,
NOT THINKING I WOULD GET DIVORCED, I explained to the children who was allowed in that area and if any other person was there they needed to come tell me. Dad was in on this conversation and enforced this with the children.
I NEVER SAID MY DAUGHTER WAS FRIGHTENED OR SCARED TO DEATH, the other people on this forum did!!!!!

My daughter came to with an uneasy topic that bothered her, I addressed it and got this is my house so what. Nice, who cares about anyone elses feelings
(my daughter) in this manner. My daughter is not scared of her father, but
talking about being naked and see his parts, made her feel uncomfortable.

Again, she was looking for the security of a parent. She isn't tramatized by the incident, she wants dad to put on some clothes and quit making her uneasy, uncomfortable or embarrassed which ever.

AS for me being able to dictate what he can or can't do, leaving them along for the long periods of time is putting the kids in harms way, which was one of other concerns posted in my original forum.

If the ex is careless with his apperance and with leaving the kids only, It really makes me wonder what else is going on the "maybe" putting the kids in harms way!

 

[stealth2]

And you've been divorced for 2 years - so one would think that you'd have clarified the point of being able to help them if there are issues in their private areas is something their other parent can also help with. The kids LIVE WITH HIM! Do you really think he never helped them bathe, despite what he did or didn't do while you were married??

And since your child hasn't been traumatized by Dad's nudity, there's no issue - tell her to quit crawling into bed with him unless she's knocked on the door and he tells her to come in.

Your speculations as to what "might" be going on are useless. As is anything you can't prove. Period.

 

[davisracing48]

You are high on yourself, lady.

YOU are the one that said he sleeps naked, YOU are the one that brought up touching kid's private parts, I'm just spelling out what YOU have said and because it is making you look off, you throw out a lame @ss attack of "me assuming everything". You are a comedian, right?!

If you have no faith in dad's parenting abilities and morals, maybe you shouldn't have chosen him to father your kids.

FYI, there is no need (or proof of maturity) to start new threads just to bash people that point out the facts that you have provided, but if you are so obsessed with me and me feelings and other poster's, go right ahead and continue this bs, I'm so sure that you will.

Have a good one.

I didn't assume. I said I was being misquoted.. Yes, I said he sleeps in the nude, now, after I found out through my daughter!

I never said that I didn't have faith, in fact I did say he was a good father, but makes bad choices.

I didn't go and open up another forum to attack people, they are attacking me with rude comments and name calling.
I believe the things that I presented for some advice were ligit and of concern.

Sorry you had to read this!

 

[ceara19]

Again, I am not assuming DAD never gives them baths. I said, "BEFORE, I WAS DIVORCED, the father NEVER helped to bath them at all. So during this time,
NOT THINKING I WOULD GET DIVORCED, I explained to the children who was allowed in that area and if any other person was there they needed to come tell me. Dad was in on this conversation and enforced this with the children.
I NEVER SAID MY DAUGHTER WAS FRIGHTENED OR SCARED TO DEATH, the other people on this forum did!!!!!

My daughter came to with an uneasy topic that bothered her, I addressed it and got this is my house so what. Nice, who cares about anyone elses feelings
(my daughter) in this manner. My daughter is not scared of her father, but
talking about being naked and see his parts, made her feel uncomfortable.

Again, she was looking for the security of a parent. She isn't tramatized by the incident, she wants dad to put on some clothes and quit making her uneasy, uncomfortable or embarrassed which ever.

AS for me being able to dictate what he can or can't do, leaving them along for the long periods of time is putting the kids in harms way, which was one of other concerns posted in my original forum.

If the ex is careless with his apperance and with leaving the kids only, It really makes me wonder what else is going on the "maybe" putting the kids in harms way!

Like I've said REPEATEDLY......if your daughter is so uncomfortable with dad sleeping in the nude she needs to stop sleeping in dad's room.

As far as the kids being left alone, that's not what you have been dwelling on. You seemed to have a bigger problem with the nudity. That was the only part of the original post you gave any detail on. The leaving them alone sounded like an afterthought (oh, yeah, by the way). You need to elaborate on what your talking about, leaving them alone. That could be considered a problem. You need to have PROOF of what you think he's doing that pruts the children in harm's way. Judges don't render decisions based on what you MAYBE think COULD be POSSIBLE. They rule based on the FACTS.

 

[ceara19]

I didn't assume. I said I was being misquoted.. Yes, I said he sleeps in the nude, now, after I found out through my daughter!

I never said that I didn't have faith, in fact I did say he was a good father, but makes bad choices.

I didn't go and open up another forum to attack people, they are attacking me with rude comments and name calling.
I believe the things that I presented for some advice were ligit and of concern.

Sorry you had to read this!

Look, nobody is making personal attacks on you. They are trying to give you advice based on what the LAW says. When they do you turn around, making all sorts of accustions and assumtions about them just because you don't like the advice you were given! So just go ahead and do what stealth told you to. Take him to court, but I don't think you'll like the outcome!

 

[acmb05]

OK lets end it

You have stated repeatedly that "MY DAUGHTER IS 6 YEARS OLD" and that it bothers her. Now if she is old enough to know that nudity bothers her she is old enough to learn how to KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND ASK BEFORE ENTERING.

Plain and simple.

You have some proof that dad left kids alone ONE time other than that you have shown no other proof. Unless you have more than that I would not even bother to take it to court.

 

[davisracing48]

And you've been divorced for 2 years - so one would think that you'd have clarified the point of being able to help them if there are issues in their private areas is something their other parent can also help with. The kids LIVE WITH HIM! Do you really think he never helped them bathe, despite what he did or didn't do while you were married??

And since your child hasn't been traumatized by Dad's nudity, there's no issue - tell her to quit crawling into bed with him unless she's knocked on the door and he tells her to come in.

Your speculations as to what "might" be going on are useless. As is anything you can't prove. Period.

As a matter of fact, I did have issues with her private area not being cleaned and so did my sister who, said she complained about her tootoo hurting.
But, after teaching my daughter and making sure she was cleaning correctly
it seemed to be resolved.

 

[davisracing48]

Like I've said REPEATEDLY......if your daughter is so uncomfortable with dad sleeping in the nude she needs to stop sleeping in dad's room.

As far as the kids being left alone, that's not what you have been dwelling on. You seemed to have a bigger problem with the nudity. That was the only part of the original post you gave any detail on. The leaving them alone sounded like an afterthought (oh, yeah, by the way). You need to elaborate on what your talking about, leaving them alone. That could be considered a problem. You need to have PROOF of what you think he's doing that pruts the children in harm's way. Judges don't render decisions based on what you MAYBE think COULD be POSSIBLE. They rule based on the FACTS.

Look at the treads! I wasn't dwelling on anything, I was answering the comments that were thrown at me.

 

[stealth2]

her tootoo

Now THAT is a new one on me. TooToo? Ooooooooookay.

 

[davisracing48]

Like I've said REPEATEDLY......if your daughter is so uncomfortable with dad sleeping in the nude she needs to stop sleeping in dad's room.

As far as the kids being left alone, that's not what you have been dwelling on. You seemed to have a bigger problem with the nudity. That was the only part of the original post you gave any detail on. The leaving them alone sounded like an afterthought (oh, yeah, by the way). You need to elaborate on what your talking about, leaving them alone. That could be considered a problem. You need to have PROOF of what you think he's doing that pruts the children in harm's way. Judges don't render decisions based on what you MAYBE think COULD be POSSIBLE. They rule based on the FACTS.

What details do you need on being left alone? i gave an instance.