What can be done??

[ceara19]

Look at the treads! I wasn't dwelling on anything, I was answering the comments that were thrown at me.

I read them. People were trying to get you to explain HOW him sleeping in the nude was harmful to her. The only explaination you offered was that "it makes her uneasy". Well, if that's it, she shouldn't be getting into dad's bed at night.

 

[davisracing48]

Look, nobody is making personal attacks on you. They are trying to give you advice based on what the LAW says. When they do you turn around, making all sorts of accustions and assumtions about them just because you don't like the advice you were given! So just go ahead and do what stealth told you to. Take him to court, but I don't think you'll like the outcome!

i didn't make accusations.. I provided two states on if there were grounds..
that is when the "personal attacks" from others came aboard.

I was being mis quoted and I came back to clarify them.

nudity and the left alone were the two issues I brought aboard.
Yes, I was concerned with the nudity and yes, I was concerned with
them being left alone. I also asked about the living arrangements on my parts.

Not once did I ask for people's personal preferences on how they think of sleeping in the nude. or how I should control my daughter from going into her father's room.

i wanted to know what the courts would thiks of all this behavior...
An those who posted PROFESSIONAL and PERSONAL information I appreciated it.
Those who posted "this is what I think**************...." i didn't ask what you think, I asked for the law's side of it, can this be an issue????

 

[davisracing48]

You have stated repeatedly that "MY DAUGHTER IS 6 YEARS OLD" and that it bothers her. Now if she is old enough to know that nudity bothers her she is old enough to learn how to KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND ASK BEFORE ENTERING.

Plain and simple.

You have some proof that dad left kids alone ONE time other than that you have shown no other proof. Unless you have more than that I would not even bother to take it to court.

No again, he has left them several times alone, I just gave ONE example!!!!

MY GOD.....

 

[stealth2]

Okay - suppose you take it to court that your ex sleeps in the nude and you want it to stop. How do you intend to prove it?

 

[davisracing48]

I read them. People were trying to get you to explain HOW him sleeping in the nude was harmful to her. The only explaination you offered was that "it makes her uneasy". Well, if that's it, she shouldn't be getting into dad's bed at night.

QUESTION TO YOU AND THE STEATH MAN....

WOULD YOU EVER MAKE YOUR CHILDREN FEEL UNEASY ABOUT ANYTHING???
AND IF YOU DID, WOULD YOU CORRECT THE SITUATION or ARE YOU BOTH SUCH COLD HEARTED PEOPLE< WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE THINKS INCLUDING YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD???

HAVE A WONDERFUL AND GREAT DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[davisracing48]

Okay - suppose you take it to court that your ex sleeps in the nude and you want it to stop. How do you intend to prove it?

READ THE PAST QUOTES, THIS WAS ALREADY DISCUSSED!

 

[stealth2]

QUESTION TO YOU AND THE STEATH MAN....

That would be stealth chick to you, dear.

WOULD YOU EVER MAKE YOUR CHILDREN FEEL UNEASY ABOUT ANYTHING???
AND IF YOU DID, WOULD YOU CORRECT THE SITUATION or ARE YOU BOTH SUCH COLD HEARTED PEOPLE< WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE THINKS INCLUDING YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD???

HAVE A WONDERFUL AND GREAT DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If my kid told me? That would be one thing. If my ex told me? A totally different situation. I'd tell him to bite me, and then talk to my kid.

 

[stealth2]

READ THE PAST QUOTES, THIS WAS ALREADY DISCUSSED!

yes - without dragging your 6yo into court. PROVE that your ex sleeps starkers and that it is damaging to the child. How wil you do it?

 

[ceara19]

i didn't make accusations.. I provided two states on if there were grounds..
that is when the "personal attacks" from others came aboard.

I was being mis quoted and I came back to clarify them.

nudity and the left alone were the two issues I brought aboard.
Yes, I was concerned with the nudity and yes, I was concerned with
them being left alone. I also asked about the living arrangements on my parts.

Not once did I ask for people's personal preferences on how they think of sleeping in the nude. or how I should control my daughter from going into her father's room.

i wanted to know what the courts would thiks of all this behavior...
An those who posted PROFESSIONAL and PERSONAL information I appreciated it.
Those who posted "this is what I think**************...." i didn't ask what you think, I asked for the law's side of it, can this be an issue????

nudity
The LAW doesn't care if you ex sleeps in the nude either. The judge is going to tell you the same thing you've gotten here. It's HIS house. The child needs to knock on the door. And you need to quit blowing this out of proportion. That's the LAW on that question.


Left alone
It looks like you only have proof one instance from quite a while back. The judge will want to know WHY you waited so long to address this. The LAW doesn't want to have it's time waisted on things that are not currently relevent.

Living with others
If your court order says no overnights by members of the opposite sex, that's just what it means. Unless it specifies where the guest sleeps, that would mean no male roommates also according to the LAW.

So there are your answers.

 

[ceara19]

QUESTION TO YOU AND THE STEATH MAN....

WOULD YOU EVER MAKE YOUR CHILDREN FEEL UNEASY ABOUT ANYTHING???
AND IF YOU DID, WOULD YOU CORRECT THE SITUATION or ARE YOU BOTH SUCH COLD HEARTED PEOPLE< WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE THINKS INCLUDING YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD???

HAVE A WONDERFUL AND GREAT DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If my child came to me and said her dad slept naked in bed with her last night, I'd get my shotgun, walk into her room and blow his head off. But that has nothing to do with nudity. He's not allowed within 500 feet of the kids.

As far as concern for what she thinks, my main concern in life is my children. I listen to what they say and how they feel. The proper advice for you to give would have been, ONE MORE TIME:

"STOP GOING INTO DADDY'S ROOM WITHOUT KNOCKING"

 

[stealth2]

Ya know..... my ex does a LOT of things I don't agree with. That doesn't mean that they're issues to take up a court's time with. Instead, I do that really amazingly shocking thing known as 'talking to your kids" and helping them find ways to deal with various situations. *GASP*! What an astonishing concept!

 

[AHA]

I didn't assume. I said I was being misquoted.. Yes, I said he sleeps in the nude, now, after I found out through my daughter!

I never said that I didn't have faith, in fact I did say he was a good father, but makes bad choices.

I didn't go and open up another forum to attack people, they are attacking me with rude comments and name calling.
I believe the things that I presented for some advice were ligit and of concern.

Sorry you had to read this!

I'm sorry I had to read it too, believe me!!!

So much for getting the hint to stop this bs and starting new threads for no reason....

You know what, take all your kids over to daddy (ask him to put on a pair of pants just this once ) and TALK ABOUT HOW YOUR FAMILY IS GOING TO HANDLE KIDS AND ADULTS SHARING A HOME AND HOW TO HANDLE NUDITY!!!
If not, then call the cops and a lawyer and waste a bunch of money on them.

Enough of this cr@p already!!!!!!!

 

[lizbeth17]

pathetic

Guess what...Dad is the adult here and the one who should compromise for his 6 YEAR OLD daughter's sake.....How pathetic to say..."why does she still go in there" She's 6....that's why....Maybe Dad should take this young child's feelings into consideration and stop being so selfish.

 

[casa]

Again, I am not assuming DAD never gives them baths. I said, "BEFORE, I WAS DIVORCED, the father NEVER helped to bath them at all. So during this time,
NOT THINKING I WOULD GET DIVORCED, I explained to the children who was allowed in that area and if any other person was there they needed to come tell me. Dad was in on this conversation and enforced this with the children.
I NEVER SAID MY DAUGHTER WAS FRIGHTENED OR SCARED TO DEATH, the other people on this forum did!!!!!

My daughter came to with an uneasy topic that bothered her, I addressed it and got this is my house so what. Nice, who cares about anyone elses feelings
(my daughter) in this manner. My daughter is not scared of her father, but
talking about being naked and see his parts, made her feel uncomfortable.

Again, she was looking for the security of a parent. She isn't tramatized by the incident, she wants dad to put on some clothes and quit making her uneasy, uncomfortable or embarrassed which ever.

AS for me being able to dictate what he can or can't do, leaving them along for the long periods of time is putting the kids in harms way, which was one of other concerns posted in my original forum.

If the ex is careless with his apperance and with leaving the kids only, It really makes me wonder what else is going on the "maybe" putting the kids in harms way!

Hey, don't bark at me...or attribute things to me, which I have not said.

 

[Rushia]

Guess what...Dad is the adult here and the one who should compromise for his 6 YEAR OLD daughter's sake.....How pathetic to say..."why does she still go in there" She's 6....that's why....Maybe Dad should take this young child's feelings into consideration and stop being so selfish.

Ummm NO. I have a 6 year old child. They can be taught to knock. For instance: You are a married couple, you engage in activities that 6 year olds should NOT know about. Your child strolls in. Get the picture? Children should be taught that walking into an adults bedroom unannounced is not proper manners. In OP's case, the child is making an issue of being "uncomfortable" about seeing her father naked. Said child would then have to weigh which is the bigger problem, daddy naked or her insecurities. Obviously she isn't as uncomfortable as mom says she is or she would quit walking in the room.