What consequences could i face?

[Ohiogal]

Ok, please don't go off on me again, I AM planning to return back to Kansas City with my boyfriend. He has agreed to drive back with me when his contract is over. So my question is how long can I stay with him out of state before my ex can go to court for abandonment, because I know he'll do everything he can against me.

Thanks for help.

If you are not using your visitation he can go back and ask for it to be limited. Abandonment? Why do you believe abandonment matters? And I don't blame him quite frankly if you are choosing boyfriend over your children.

 

[CJane]

In order to restrict a parent's visitation in MO, there must be a showing that the visitation is harmful to the child/ren.

However, choosing to relocate to FL w/out telling anyone paints you as a flight risk when you DO return.

 

[WVA]

I cannot tell my ex I'm leaving, he will try to prevent me from going.

If I don't tell my ex I am leaving, can't grandma pick up my kids as if I was still here? Because she picks them up on my weekends for me anyways?

I just don't want me leaving to cost me my visitation with my kids when I come back.

Then obviously you shouldn't be going. How do you sleep at night knowing you would choose a trip with a BF at your children's expense? Not right. Think about discussing you leaving with the CP and keep things on the up and up.

 

[quipped]

you all do not know what i have been put through and what i continue to go through so what you are saying about who i am is very low. i have a life and my kids i only get on some weekends, so i cant throw my life away i have to move on and thats what im trying to do. i can only do so much because of my court order and until i can change that, i have to live my life. you dont know what i have gone through with all this!

Just a mom here, certainly having no legal experience, as is evidenced in any dumb question I have ever posted on this site. (2, one getting completely romped on btw) You most certainly did "throw your life away" when you had kids, if that's how you care to view it. Living your life does not include taking off on scheduled weekends with your kids. Live your life another weekend. And your kids should not have to live their life that way either.

No one reading this has any clue about what your kids have had to go through either. But we can guess right?

PS What happens when the kids go home and say "Daddy! Mommy wasn't even there this weekend!"

 

[milspecgirl]

hmmmm, how long can you be gone? as soon as dad finds out (me thinks the 1st weekend you just don't show up) dad can go file for supervised visits as you are considered a flight risk.

 

[CJane]

hmmmm, how long can you be gone? as soon as dad finds out (me thinks the 1st weekend you just don't show up) dad can go file for supervised visits as you are considered a flight risk.

No. Not remotely.

 

[milspecgirl]

hmmmmm- they did in my case due to flight risk- he hadn't even been gone 24 hours and there was an emergency petition filed that kept him from any contact without supervision and there were NO other circumstances. guess it depends on the judge and the county

 

[CJane]

hmmmmm- they did in my case due to flight risk- he hadn't even been gone 24 hours and there was an emergency petition filed that kept him from any contact without supervision and there were NO other circumstances. guess it depends on the judge and the county

In order to restrict a parent's previously ordered parenting time, one must show that the parenting time is significantly detrimental to the child.

That's not possible on one no-show. That's likely not possible on 2 or 3 no-shows.

In order to prove that Mom is a flight risk, Mom would have to be gone a significant amount of time w/out giving any clue where she is/how to contact her. Now, do I think that's what Mom's planning? Absolutely. But your post that the first time she doesn't show up to get the kids would result in supervised visits is erroneous.