What do I do????

[snostar]

Others have expressed views, that is fine.

Actually, in your situation, telling you to keep your pants zipped was advice intented to prevent you from creating additional legal predicaments!

 

[iscrewedup2]

djohnson-thanks

Thanks for the advice djohnson, I appreciate it. I've come to the conclusion that I am going to tell her.

the affair went on for a few years. the latter 2 yrs I was trying to end it, but I couldnt' get out of it.

djohnson would you believe I was going to end it, get baptized and get my kids involved in church and so forth!!! Then she dropped this on me that the now 1yr old boy is mine.

Now I'm going to hell for sure. The bad part for me is that its going to start in this life before I even die. But, you know, i've resigned myself to that. I just want to make sure my wife and kids are protected.

I appreciate all your input.

 

[Joke]

Find out if the baby IS yours FIRST. Get a DNA test BEFORE you tell your wife....

Your nightmere COULD be over by one simple DNA test. If I were involved with someone with that many kids from that many people, I would cover my ASSets first and find out ;-)

If you find out that the baby isn't yours, then you can deal with the other stuff your own way. Could be the scare you need to keep it where it should be ;-)

Good luck!

 

[Reyna7]

Omg

the affair went on for a few years. the latter 2 yrs I was trying to end it, but I couldnt' get out of it.

How many years all together did you cheat? She got pregnant, had a baby and you never thought at that point it might be yours? When did you end the affair, after the baby was born or while she was pregnant?

The reason I ask is when you tell your wife these are some of the many questions she is going to ask. Get your answers ready and make sure they are the truth, more lies at this point will only hurt her.

How old are your other children? Old enough that they will understand what Daddy did?

I feel so bad for all of you. But get the DNA test first and if this boy is yours step up to the plate, tell your wife, pay your child support and I hope you will also be a part of his life. He is not to blame and deserves a dad.

I do not believe you will go to Hell for this, but I do believe it is a wake up call to get your life in order and I hope your wife forgives you. Get into therapy with her if she doesn't kick you out. I wish you luck, I truly do.

 

[iscrewedup2]

joke/reyna7

Hey thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.

thanks,

john