what is child support used for?

[damngoodstepmom]

What is child support for?

Why is it that anytime a stepmom asks about child support she is labeled greedy or wicked? How would you label the biomom who doesn't pay support? Greedy and wicked? Or is that ok on your planet? Would you applaud biomom for sticking it to the EX? How about the fact she doesn't want her own child around? How about the fact that this stepmom and dad raise her daughter without any support from bio? What labels would you place on us? Kitten was asking a question, researching on the WWW (that's world wide web) to answer a question. She certainly wasn't looking to be bashed by invisible people who have such sterotypical views. Grandma B and momofhalfdozen, you sound bitter and obviously have nothing better going on in your lives. Bashing others will not make you better people. I've wasted enough time with you two, I have to get back to being a DAMN GOOD STEPMOM! Kitten, stay strong and don't let these losers scare you out of loving a man with children. You will find rewards everywhere and it's worth it.

 

[MomOfHalfDozen]

Damngoodstepmom/ goodstepmommy/ash13/sassykitten

Come out of your singular head and quit having conversations with/ giving support to yourself. Or hadn't you noticed that this board tracks your posts? With the exception of sassykitten, the rest of the 'personalities' all have only 1 post. AND according to the members section, all but sassykitten conveniently joined just today (I took a peek so as not to make an assumption out of left field). AND even MORE convenient, these three posters (dgs,gsm,ash13) came directly to this post, jumped to your defense, and have not been heard from again.


Also, use of same terms and phrases, and an uncanny knowledge of details in the *goodstepmom* post that were previously not included. All of which leads me to believe we are dealing either with a psychic, or a psychotic.

Who is it that needs a life?

[Edited by MomOfHalfDozen on 11-30-2000 at 03:51 PM]

 

[goodstepmommy]

Could it possibly occur to any of you that perhaps we all keep tabs on eachother, looking out for any losers who like to make fun of stepmoms? In our world, we call these people "idiots". Now, since you all seem to think we have not read the entire posts, you are wrong. No bashing started until some regular who got the authority to give advice (whoever has done this obviously has their head up their ass) got on their high horse and made a comment that shouldn't have been made. Kitten was only looking for advice, but she indeed got JUMPED on by all you psychos.
I fail to understand the hatred you all have for us. You are abusing this board. You are doing absolutely NO ONE any good. You all should be shut down immediately. If there is a person to complain to about this, I will find them and complain my ass off at this outrage. I look out for my fellow stepmoms, and kitten and the rest of the stepmoms on here seem to be the only ones who don't lack common courtesy and sensitivity. You should all be ashamed of yourselves, you make me sick at the thought that you are actually running around giving people advice. Go find a support group for people who are "in need of a personality and a life". Find it fast. Run! (or is it hard to run with your head fully up your buttholes?)

 

[MySonsMom]

<<usmcfamily, I think I have fallen in love with you>>

LB, you wouldn't actually step out on me would you now?

 

[LegalBeagle]

<<usmcfamily, I think I have fallen in love with you>>

LB, you wouldn't actually step out on me would you now?

Oh no.. never.. I got carried away, I have never seen usmcfamily get p!ssed before

 

[damngoodstepmom]

Your view, ladyblu

Cool how that rhymes, huh?

Since we don't receive child support, I'm not one to say what it is for. I just wanted some clarifications of the labels placed on stepmoms. Do you label biomoms who don't pay support, don't want to take "the time to parent" or fail to provide a positive role model for their children? Do you have labels for the stepmoms that fill their shoes because bios are MIA? Are you in a step situation yourself where you can practice empathy?

I don't know "sweet kitten" as you so fondly refer to her as, but she didn't deserve to be slaughtered by asking a question. I'll be waiting patiently for my slaughtering next.

 

[MySonsMom]

Oh no.. never.. I got carried away, I have never seen usmcfamily get p!ssed before [/B][/QUOTE]

Ok, I feel better now. I guess if you were to step out, I would feel the most at ease if it were usmc or as; but I am releived that you were just carried away in the moment.

 

[MomOfHalfDozen]

an update to my last post

When I put my last post up, there were only 1 post each from the 'support giving personalities' I notice that gsm and dgs now have 2 each. Just wanted to put that in before she/they collectively tried to correct me.

 

[Grandma B]

First to Lady Blu -- Thanks for the defense. Of course, you knew that I was simply complimenting you on your uncanny ability to ferret out these duplicitous posters.

Now, Damngoodstepmom -- Yes, I would consider a bio who did not support their children to be greedy and evil, and no, that is not okay on MY planet (which, by the way, doesn't have room for many of your kind). I do have a life, thank you very much, which partly consists of helping to care for five grandchildren who are not properly supported by a greedy and evil bio parent. For your information, the regular posters on this board are not evil, nasty people, but people (some even steps) who care about CHILDREN, and try to help parents (whether bio or step) to do what is best for those children's sake.



[Edited by Grandma B on 11-30-2000 at 05:01 PM]

 

[goodstepmommy]

Okay, granny, then why if you feel that most of the people on here care about their children, regardless if they are bio parents or step parents, why you and everyone else berated poor kitten to death for asking a question that concerned her concern for her soon to be stepkids?

You seem to have a bit of toenail in your dentures, granny, from inserting your big, hypocritical foot in your mouth so much.

 

[damngoodstepmom]

I asked your opinion Ladyblu

You could waste time replying negatively. Another completely different matter is assuming our husbands have no balls.

I never bashed biomom, I asked what you thought about biomoms that don't support their own flesh and blood since you have such an opinion of stepmoms having questions about child support. I really wanted to know your opinion as you may have something to teach the rest of us that might not have reached your maturity level.

 

[Grandma B]

Okay, granny, then why if you feel that most of the people on here care about their children, regardless if they are bio parents or step parents, why you and everyone else berated poor kitten to death for asking a question that concerned her concern for her soon to be stepkids?

You seem to have a bit of toenail in your dentures, granny, from inserting your big, hypocritical foot in your mouth so much.

Sorry to disappoint you, "dear," but you become a grandma by virtue of having grandchildren, not necessarily because you are ancient. By the way, my teeth are my own, and part of a fit 120 lb. body. =)

Incidently, I have said nothing to berate "poor" kitten; your youthful eyes may be deceiving you, or your fading memory doesn't enable you to keep your posters straight.

The only comment I had made previous to my response to YOUR post was to congratulate Lady Blu on another splendid job of ferreting out phonies. As evidenced by Kitten's (your) posts on other threads, she doesn't care about kids one iota; she's simply out to get revenge against her live-in fiance's not yet ex. Don't come around this board trying to fool folks. It's not very nice, and they're not stupid.

From a not so old, not so sweet "granny"

 

[LegalBeagle]

Close thread, close thread.. damn it wont work

 

[ash13]

MomOfHalfDozen, you are funny. Do you think we're all the same because you find it so hard to believe that more than one person could disagree with you? The reason I posted here last night is because you and LadyBlu don't seem to think she is a good stepmother. Why? Sure she's emotional, but don't you think she has a right to be? Her fiance's ex sounds disturbed, wouldn't you agree? A "mother" (and I use that term loosely) calls sassykitten profane names and has physically abused her fiance IN THE PRESENCE OF HER CHILDREN! What do you think the kids "sense" from that?
Telling her to leave is considered advice, I'll give you that... but she doesn't sound like a quitter. I have to respect that more. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with stepmothers, but it's not healthy to live in the past. That's my advice.
Anyway, the multiple user conspiracy theory did give me a laugh, and I thank for that. You flatter yourself. I'm sorry, you upset me, but I really have better things to do than be anybody other than ash13. I can make my point on my own, as can the other ladies who disagree with you. Think of how silly I would sound if I said LadyBlu and MomOfHalfDozen were the same person.

 

[goodstepmommy]

I think ash said it the best. We have better things to do than to pose as 3 or 4 different people just to get to you idiots. Could it be possible that the stepmoms have united against all of you non-believers? You are all so full of yourselves, next you will be telling us we are not real moms because we haven't given birth to our s-kids. If anyone cares to debate whether or not we are good moms, bring it on. Live my life and hear my sd cry at nite because her no good, bitch of a bio-mom left her at birth. How dare you immature, low life, scums sit here and insult us like this. I came to this site because a friend told me about the insults that were being thrown at our reputations. Kitten was seeking advice, not a mockery of her concern. I am curious to know where you all have failed in your lives to have to come here to gain your confidence. Hiding behind your computer screens insulting people you just can't relate to is hardly productive. I am a good mother, you idiots will never make me feel inferior to your childish insults. I hope you never encounter any stepmoms in person after this, I guarantee the reunion won't be pretty. As for our hubby's having no balls, you must know, you had to have married someone with no balls in order to act like you do and still call yourselves humans.