What options do I have?

[Ohiogal]

It's not just a mess. Its leaving dirty diapers everywhere not throwing them in the trash. Nasty stuff like that. Shouldn't have to hire somebody for stuff like that. Also a bus comes at the end of our street. So plenty of options. So I guess it's cool for her to hide the fact that my oldest missed 40 days of school.

YOu think it is cool you are ignorant? Because that seems to be your ignorant. YOU are equally to blame.

 

[rileymib81]

Oh, c'mon...I mean, it's not his job to do it. That wifey's job - why should he worry about it?

Disgruntled?

 

[LdiJ]

Look, I know it sounds like everyone is picking on your but you are honestly coming across as if you expect your wife to be a 1950's housewife when you know she doesn't have the tools to do so AND without realizing that its an unrealistic expectation.

If you come across that way to us, how do you think you are going to come across to a judge? Your wife ran for a reason. Whether it was a valid reason or not it was still a reason. You can either continue to pretend that no reason existed and that she is the bad guy, or you can get ahead of things and acknowledge the reason and figure out where to go from there. Either trying to repair things between you or going for divorce and child custody.

From the things you have said here you are at least partially to blame...and maybe a bit more than partially. I don't for a minute believe that your wife, based on how your describe her, got that screwdriver out.

 

[rileymib81]

YOu think it is cool you are ignorant? Because that seems to be your ignorant. YOU are equally to blame.

I am at fault. I took her word for everything. I trusted her with her getting them to and from school. I've made plenty of mistakes in this too. Just wished an admin would have reached out to me as well. There were no red flags. No letters from the school and no calls. I assumed everything was fine when it wasn't.

 

[Zigner]

I am at fault.

100%? No. But likely far more at fault than you are willing to admit.

I took her word for everything. I trusted her with her getting them to and from school.

You took her word for everything? The same woman you said this about?

She's on Facebook 24/7 and doesn't do a very good job supervising our children. ... She suffers from depression and anxiety and some days can be very difficult to deal with.

 

[rileymib81]

Look, I know it sounds like everyone is picking on your but you are honestly coming across as if you expect your wife to be a 1950's housewife when you know she doesn't have the tools to do so AND without realizing that its an unrealistic expectation.

If you come across that way to us, how do you think you are going to come across to a judge? Your wife ran for a reason. Whether it was a valid reason or not it was still a reason. You can either continue to pretend that no reason existed and that she is the bad guy, or you can get ahead of things and acknowledge the reason and figure out where to go from there. Either trying to repair things between you or going for divorce and child custody.

From the things you have said here you are at least partially to blame...and maybe a bit more than partially. I don't for a minute believe that your wife, based on how your describe her, got that screwdriver out.

I don't expect her to be that at all. I feel as though everybody is just picking and choosing what I wrote and not getting the whole story. We both chose this. I didn't force this on her. We talk about everything. What we can do to make it better for everybody involved. It's been going good to great for years. As soon as she gets connected back with her mom it's a different person I'm dealing with. I should be blamed for some of the things, but there is NO reason for me not to have any contact with our kids.

 

[rileymib81]

100%? No. But likely far more at fault than you are willing to admit.


You took her word for everything? The same woman you said this about?

I wanted to believe her. I love her. She's not perfect and neither am I. I just figured I could trust my wife. Especially when it's involving the boys.

 

[ajkroy]

OP, you didn't once communicate with your child's teachers? Never go to an event after school or on a weekend? Open house, perhaps? Send an email? If you did, I would have expected the teacher to discuss the child's absences with you.

If you didn't, why not?

 

[PayrollHRGuy]

@rileymib81

You got off to a bad start with your first couple of posts. Back off and let everyone chill down.

The best advice I can give you is to get a lawyer.