Who should provide clothing?

[stealth2]

Clothes really are such a petty issue, IMO. Just stop sending extras. If you feel you absolutely must, send a few pairs of clean underwear and socks with them (and teach them how to rinse same out by hand at the end of the day!).

When my kids were going to their Dad's frequently, he had clothes at his house for them. Both because it was easier and because he has different standards than I do - and I really had no intention of buying them clothes that they'd never wear here. Now that they go less frequently, I have them pack a few changes of (non-objectionable) clothes - it makes no sense for Dad to buy them something that they'll wear once. If he does buy them clothes, they usually come home (with his blessing) as they'll otherwise go to waste.

You don't say what the medical concern is with the diet or the age of the child, so I'll reserve comment on that issue.

 

[bridgemom]

I don't mean to be rude by not answering the medical condition of our daughter. I'm trying to learn from this forum as I may be be deposed to testify in a custody case, and am nervous to give out too much information at this time as one of the parties may be lurking as well.

But thank you for the information about the pamphlets-I have bought her all the 'Eat This and Not That' books. I don't eat at fast food restaurants and had no idea about the pamphlets.

 

[LdiJ]

And this is NOT a battle to pick to fight unless there are allergies or medical concerns involved. A child drinking pop for two days and eating take out is being fed. Clothing battles are also ridiculous. Unless the child needs something and it is not returned with -- middle of winter and the child has one winter jacket which is not returned or transferred with child -- or child is dressed inappropriately -- i.e. it is 30 degrees and snowing and the child is dressed in shorts and a tank top with flip flops.

Spoken like someone who has never seen a child after two days of drinking Mountain Dew...LOL.

Seriously OG, Mountain Dew has more caffeine in it than any other soft drink. Only energy drinks are worse. That's really BAD for kids.

I agree with you about takeout foods, and would agree with you about almost any other kind of pop...but not Mountain Dew. Let your youngest have just one small glass of it and you will see what I mean.

 

[stealth2]

It's a staple in out house!

 

[Proserpina]

Spoken like someone who has never seen a child after two days of drinking Mountain Dew...LOL.

Seriously OG, Mountain Dew has more caffeine in it than any other soft drink. Only energy drinks are worse. That's really BAD for kids.

I agree with you about takeout foods, and would agree with you about almost any other kind of pop...but not Mountain Dew. Let your youngest have just one small glass of it and you will see what I mean.

Other than Jolt and Pepsi One, anyway

 

[Ohiogal]

Spoken like someone who has never seen a child after two days of drinking Mountain Dew...LOL.

Seriously OG, Mountain Dew has more caffeine in it than any other soft drink. Only energy drinks are worse. That's really BAD for kids.
I agree with you about takeout foods, and would agree with you about almost any other kind of pop...but not Mountain Dew. Let your youngest have just one small glass of it and you will see what I mean.

In your opinion. Do you know they have caffeine free Mountain Dew? My question with that is WHAT IS THE POINT?????????????? (ETA -- the point of caffeine free Mountain Dew that is. Not the point of your opinion. LOL. Reread that a few minutes ago and it seemed a bit harsh and directed at you -- it wasn't.)

Caffeine does NOT NECESSARILY bother all children.

 

[Isis1]

Other than Jolt and Pepsi One, anyway

i prefer coffee. and unfortunately, so do my kids. they just aren't allowed to at my house.

 

[gr8rn]

OP my son's father started keeping son's clothes as well. He started telling Son, "what comes here stays here".
He even kept Christmas presents and birthday presents there from his side of the family.
I called the Grandparents after Christmas the first time it happened and told them, "thank you for the gifts, son told me you bought him some really nice clothes. Unfortunately I didn't get to see them because the father is keeping them at his girlfriends home, but I am sure Son will enjoy them 4 days a month".
After that they started bringing his birthday and Christmas presents to my home so they would know that son gets to actually wear his new clothes to school.