Will I have to pay support to lazy husband?

[Liz T]

No Kids

We have no children together and my son, who lives there is 20. There is nothing "funny" going on with my friend and I, but my soon to be ex thinks there is.

 

[tuffbrk]

Sure you could do it yourselves, but if you start spewing the irrevelant crap about him during your divorce that you did here, don't expect things to go smoothly!!

I would suggest that you agree to a 50/50 split of all marital assets (bank accounts, 401k or other retirement accts etc.) and you keep all marital debt since you are the party with the "ability to pay".

I would also sweeten the pot with an offer of alimony, say for five years at 25% of your GROSS pay. His sacrifice to the marriage and the furtherence of your career when he stayed home with your son for five years "entitles" him to alimony and I think a judge would agree.

If you get greedy, you may find yourself paying horrendous legal fees.

Niiice!! It just doesn't matter how bad my day might be - reading a Bali post never fails to crack me up and put a smile on my face. Reading this one I thought I'd PMP!! Sweet.

 

[tuffbrk]

Just 'cause the guy doesn't want to have sex with you does NOT make him homosexual. He might just not be attracted to you.

OMG!! First, BAli and now BAy...

This is definitely my favorite chain of the day...

 

[tuffbrk]

Hey Liz - just a sidebar...my Ex also rarely, if ever, was interested in intimacy. I've often wondered if he was in denial and was repressing his homosexuality. Who's to say? However, as Bay points out - lack of sexual desire for one person of the opposite sex does not automatically equate a homosexual. May be depression, the drugs, a health issue, or...maybe you two just weren't hitting it off.

 

[Liz T]

Male friends?

But my latest question is now that we are living seperate, can I have my male friends over to help me rake leaves, etc... ? I think my soon to be ex would raise a stink about it, probably threaten them if he found out. They are just friends, nothing else. He is not living in the same town as me, but I never know when he will stop by. I have changed the locks because he has been stealing things form me. He is staying with his 85 year old father, which works out good as then his dad has someone there and is not alone. I would like to be able to have my friends over, but I don't know if I could get in trouble for it. We have no children.

 

[Liz T]

to tuffbrk

In my case there are a lot of things that point to him being gay, I don't care if someone is gay, just don't marry me!! He also won't work, smokes pot, just lays around. i work hard everyday and have to come home to that. I know, what was I thinking!! Oh well, Live and learn. He can be quite charming tho and I guess I can be quite stupid!

 

[Nativity]

Why can't your son help you rake leaves? It's not that difficult of a thing to do. Seems like you're eager to kick the ex out and bring the boyfriend in.

 

[LdiJ]

But my latest question is now that we are living seperate, can I have my male friends over to help me rake leaves, etc... ? I think my soon to be ex would raise a stink about it, probably threaten them if he found out. They are just friends, nothing else. He is not living in the same town as me, but I never know when he will stop by. I have changed the locks because he has been stealing things form me. He is staying with his 85 year old father, which works out good as then his dad has someone there and is not alone. I would like to be able to have my friends over, but I don't know if I could get in trouble for it. We have no children.

You are over 50, with a grown child. I really don't think it matters if you have friends over. Its not going to change anything.

However, you do need to hurry up and file for divorce. Get the ball rolling.

 

[Liz T]

No boyfriends!!

I do not have ANY boyfriends, nor do I want any!!! It seems that I should wait til the new year to get a divorce due to tax considerations. Thanks for all the help!!

 

[Ohiogal]

I do not have ANY boyfriends, nor do I want any!!! It seems that I should wait til the new year to get a divorce due to tax considerations. Thanks for all the help!!

Even if you have a really quick divorce it probably won't be final until after the first of the year.

 

[LdiJ]

I do not have ANY boyfriends, nor do I want any!!! It seems that I should wait til the new year to get a divorce due to tax considerations. Thanks for all the help!!

I am a tax professional and I don't see where waiting is going to benefit you, since there is little chance that a divorce would be final before the end of the year.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

If you have an unmarried child living with you AND you provide more than half the support for said child, you can file Head of Household status on your taxes. You don't have to claim the child on your taxes to get that status.

 

[CourtClerk]

I'm still waiting on the answer to the question: Why can't the 20 year old rake leaves and mow the lawn? I know 12 year olds that are pretty handy with a lawn mower.

 

[Liz T]

Raking leaves

My 20 year old certainly does rake leaves, mow the lawn, do the dishes, take out the trash, go to college full time and work as an engineering assistant part time. I just happen to hav a HUGH yard and it is more fun to get a few people together to rake and have a cook out and make a fun time of it. It is my ex that didn't help with ANY of this!

 

[Nativity]

Yes because all my parties are "lets mow the lawn together party", you must be a hit on the block!