===================mrseld said:I live in Tennessee too and I had a problem with my daughter not wanting to go see her father when he and I had joint custody. She would cry sometimes before he would come get her and if she told him she didn't want to go, he would tell her she was going whether she wanted to or not. She would tell him on the phone she didn't want to go to his house, he'd hang up on her and come get her anyway. What finally happened with me was that my attorney told me that the "only thing that can get you out of this is a new court order modifying visitation arrangments", but I had to show that my ex was placing my child in physical or emotional harm to do so. That took me 3 years, 3 taped phone conversations, two trips to a child psychologist and over $3,000.00. It was not speedy process by any means. It would be my advice to contact an attorney, take the child to a psychologist and have them discuss and document what these visits are doing to the child on an emotional and/or physcial level. An inbiased opinion, like one from a child psychologist, can carry alot of weight in court on your behalf. But it costs money. As far a I know, there is no law in the state of Tennessee that says when a child becomes a certain age that he or she can just say "No" and not go on the visitation, although I could be wrong about that. I'm not an expert. I'm just telling you what my attorney told me. Also, when the child is 14, the judge might be more receptive to listening to what the child wants. My main point is contact an attorney. And I would talk to more than one. Some are better than others.
mrseld
====================hannibal said:whenever a 'dad' is a jerk, it is always the mother's fault. This whole notion of 'we must force the children into a relationship with someone who is obviously unstable and damaged' is just ridiculous.
My kids go once per week for six hours to 'dad's.' He fails to show roughly 50 percent of the time with no call. He doesn't feed them. He doesn't do anything with them. He doesn't buy them Christmas presents. He doesn't buy them birthday presents.
But, the court says they need to go and I cooperate even to the tune of picking them up because he refuses to drive 40 minutes both ways.
But I suppose that is my fault. He's really a warm-hearted guy just waiting to escape.
Hogwash!!!!!
==================momma_tiger said:I don't think anyone said it was her fault.
=================VeronicaGia said:Isn't it amazing that you use the word "dad" with "jerk?" Some mothers are "jerks" too, even bigger jerks than dads sometimes. And if the woman slept with a "jerk" then that is her own fault. Just like a man who sleeps with a "jerk."
And your last 4 posts have contained what legal advice, exactly? Come on, kids - y'all can do better than this.hmmbrdzz said:=================
Now this one here ? It takes the cake as far as legal advice.
hmmbrdzz
======================momma_tiger said:And your last 4 posts have contained what legal advice, exactly?