Firefly1999
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
I made the mistake of agreeing to let my three kids live with their father when we got divorced so I could go to school. The only way I would go along with that is if there was to be no child support enforced and I could freely see my children when I wanted. Meaning that they would live with him but if I was available to pick them up or drop them off from school I would. Basically do everything I could when I was not in school. I made myself freely available to help with the children. I love them very much and it was heart breaking to let them go when I had been a stay at home mom when we were married and took care of them day and night. He convinced me that this would be best for me. That I need to go to school and not have the stress of raising three small children.
I did not realize that his plan was to find another woman to take my place. About 6 months after the divorce was finalize he moved in a girlfriend and he stopped letting me see the children like I was suppose to. He moved as far from me as possible but still within the boundary of the court order. I had to drive 70 miles one way to pick them up and drop them off. This made it difficult for me to be involved with my kids school and activities and maintain my college education. He would not answer the phone when it was my weekend to have the children. Sometimes I would go 6 weeks without seeing them, and when I would see them not all of the children wanted to come with me.
On one occasion I went to pick them up for my time and he told me they were not there, they were on a boat with some friends. I called him a few hours later and asked if they were back yet and he said no. I decided to drive by since I was still in the area and that's when I saw my daughter playing in the yard. He had just lied to me and said they were not there.
He has also allowed his phone to be disconnected for 2 weeks and not bother to call me and inform me of a new number to reach him on. He gives me one phone number, no email or anything and if I can't get a hold of him too bad he says.
The girlfriend is another whole pain in my butt. She really believes that she is my kids mom. She told me in front of my kids to my face that I am nothing that she is their mom. I informed the father that I was taking my kids to open house and he said no. I told him he cant deny me that, and I was going. When the girlfriend showed up with the kids she dragged them off away from me like I was the plague and called the police. She has called me numerous times and threatens me that I will never see my kids again.
As you can see I am being alienated from my children and it is very painful. I tried to get my kid counceling through the school but the father refuses saying they don't need counceling. I will be filing paperwork to take him to court and ask the judge that it is in the children's best intrest to live with me because I will foster a much more healthy relationship than the one they are currently in. I would never lie or deny their father the right to see them, but him and his girlfriend are trying to push me out and turn my kids against me. I am concerned about my children and what they are being told about me. The last time I saw them was the beginning of this month. It has been over 20 days since I've had time with them. Also, I only got them for 6 days over the summer because for 2 weeks his phone was off and the other time he would not answer.
I am wondering if you think I have a good enough case to win the request to have the children live with me. I believe that what they are being exposed to is unhealthy and especially when the father is refusing the children counceling. I cry everyday because I love my kids and they wouldn't even look at me when I called their names at school. They looked down at the ground as they were dragged away by the girlfriend.
There is also so much more that they have done but I don't want to write a book. I think you get the general idea of what is going on.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I made the mistake of agreeing to let my three kids live with their father when we got divorced so I could go to school. The only way I would go along with that is if there was to be no child support enforced and I could freely see my children when I wanted. Meaning that they would live with him but if I was available to pick them up or drop them off from school I would. Basically do everything I could when I was not in school. I made myself freely available to help with the children. I love them very much and it was heart breaking to let them go when I had been a stay at home mom when we were married and took care of them day and night. He convinced me that this would be best for me. That I need to go to school and not have the stress of raising three small children.
I did not realize that his plan was to find another woman to take my place. About 6 months after the divorce was finalize he moved in a girlfriend and he stopped letting me see the children like I was suppose to. He moved as far from me as possible but still within the boundary of the court order. I had to drive 70 miles one way to pick them up and drop them off. This made it difficult for me to be involved with my kids school and activities and maintain my college education. He would not answer the phone when it was my weekend to have the children. Sometimes I would go 6 weeks without seeing them, and when I would see them not all of the children wanted to come with me.
On one occasion I went to pick them up for my time and he told me they were not there, they were on a boat with some friends. I called him a few hours later and asked if they were back yet and he said no. I decided to drive by since I was still in the area and that's when I saw my daughter playing in the yard. He had just lied to me and said they were not there.
He has also allowed his phone to be disconnected for 2 weeks and not bother to call me and inform me of a new number to reach him on. He gives me one phone number, no email or anything and if I can't get a hold of him too bad he says.
The girlfriend is another whole pain in my butt. She really believes that she is my kids mom. She told me in front of my kids to my face that I am nothing that she is their mom. I informed the father that I was taking my kids to open house and he said no. I told him he cant deny me that, and I was going. When the girlfriend showed up with the kids she dragged them off away from me like I was the plague and called the police. She has called me numerous times and threatens me that I will never see my kids again.
As you can see I am being alienated from my children and it is very painful. I tried to get my kid counceling through the school but the father refuses saying they don't need counceling. I will be filing paperwork to take him to court and ask the judge that it is in the children's best intrest to live with me because I will foster a much more healthy relationship than the one they are currently in. I would never lie or deny their father the right to see them, but him and his girlfriend are trying to push me out and turn my kids against me. I am concerned about my children and what they are being told about me. The last time I saw them was the beginning of this month. It has been over 20 days since I've had time with them. Also, I only got them for 6 days over the summer because for 2 weeks his phone was off and the other time he would not answer.
I am wondering if you think I have a good enough case to win the request to have the children live with me. I believe that what they are being exposed to is unhealthy and especially when the father is refusing the children counceling. I cry everyday because I love my kids and they wouldn't even look at me when I called their names at school. They looked down at the ground as they were dragged away by the girlfriend.
There is also so much more that they have done but I don't want to write a book. I think you get the general idea of what is going on.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
