The stepmom has NO rights. At ALL. As in, you and I have have as much 'right' to the children as she does.She has no rights above you.
The stepmom has NO rights. At ALL. As in, you and I have have as much 'right' to the children as she does.She has no rights above you.
If dad really said that, use that AND girlfriend's actions to modify the order for NO THIRD PARTY INTERFERENCE.Can I be banned from my kids activities? My children are in a bowling league and I attended one of the events where she showed up and the father was not present. (it was my weekend to have the kids) She grabbed my son from me while I was talking to him and dragged him off to the lanes. I decided it was best to ignore her and continue to watch my kids play. The whole time she was there interfering with my contact with the children. When I tried to talk to them she approached me and said she was there mom not me. We got into an arguement in the parking lot and she went inside and told them I attacked her and she would have me banned from the bowling alley so I could not attend their events.
I tell the father and he says this is between you two. Both of you are crazy and I am the good guy in all of this. I could care less if you both kill each other.
I have not gone to the bowling alley to ask if I am really banned or not, but I was wondering if they could ban me for no reason. Well they probably could because it's private property and all, but I do not see how this is right since she is just a girlfriend and I am their mom. I should be allowed to attend their activities without her interferring.
What should I do?
I guess all I can really do is document the incidents and take this back to court. Clearly they are both interfering with my relationship with my children and it is hurtful.If dad really said that, use that AND girlfriend's actions to modify the order for NO THIRD PARTY INTERFERENCE.
It's a given the gf has no 'right' TO the children. 'Nuff said.The stepmom has NO rights. At ALL. As in, you and I have have as much 'right' to the children as she does.
Get an attorney, like YESTERDAY. The fact that she would actually be stupid enough to file something like that, indicates that she is way off the deep end. You need an attorney on your side. Make sure that you have copies of the children's birth certificates showing that you are their mother, and a copy of the custody/visitation orders as well.Ok I just got served with papers yesterday that I need to appear in court for a hearing. That she is trying to get a restraining order against me.
In the report she refers to my children as hers! She stated: I was trying to protect me and MY children from her and I fear for the safety of MY children. There was a question at the bottom where she was asked if the defendant (me) was the natural mother of any children listed and she said NO! In the whole report she refers to them as her children!
I am very concern and upset about this. She is clearly using this as a tactic to keep me from my children. Some of the places she list that I am not allowed to come within 500 ft of are the kids school, chuck e cheese, the park?!! what the F! Sorry I am just very concern and upset I did not realize how dillusional and crazy this woman was and she is around my children makes me very upset. She has repeatedly shown acts of violence against my children in front of me. I will be requesting an emergency hearing to get them away from her.
I spoke with an attorney yesterday and faxed her over the papers I was served so we will see what she says when she reads over them and calls me back.Get an attorney, like YESTERDAY. The fact that she would actually be stupid enough to file something like that, indicates that she is way off the deep end. You need an attorney on your side. Make sure that you have copies of the children's birth certificates showing that you are their mother, and a copy of the custody/visitation orders as well.
This is just crazy!
She definitely handed you some pretty darn damaging evidence! Dad is also a fool if he thinks that none of this effects him.I spoke with an attorney yesterday and faxed her over the papers I was served so we will see what she says when she reads over them and calls me back.
I will definetly be bringing the birth certificates and custody papers with me to the hearring, and your right, the fact that she is even stupid and or crazy enough to actually file this clearly shows she is way off her rocker.
I spoke with my ex about it and this is his response: Oh well that is against you and her has nothing to do with the children. If I have to meet you somewhere to pick up the kids that's fine it's not going to be a problem.
I am like uh..are you retarded? He is clearly clueless or chooses to ignore what is going on, in any case I thank her for this lovely evidence I have. I will be fighting for those kids to be with me. This is just ridiculous.
We have seen stepparents like this one on these forums in the past...either the actual stepparent has been here or the parent that is dealing with the stepparent has been here. We have also seen parents like the dad here as well, who try to bury their heads in the sand.Maybe it's just me but do any of you think there is more to this story that we're not hearing? It seems really odd that the father and his BUD are even trying to get away with this, it's so ridiculously 'out there.'
Yeah, that's why I'm wondering if there's more to this. And why she's not interested in the police escort so she will have unbiased documentation in hand. Who cares if her ex is an ex-cop...if she means what she's saying, nothing should stand in her way.Ok, I guess maybe I'm missing something here but what i'm failing to understand is WHY THE HECK OP HAS CONTINUED TO LET THIS HAPPEN???? I personally would have had dad back in court by the scruff of the neck like YESTERDAY if that was how he was treating me and my relationship with my children! And WHY THE HECK has OP allowed this to continue with the bedwarmer??!! Op should have started dealing with this the moment bedwarmer overstepped her boundaries and dad started lying. Then maybe the situation wouldnt have escalated to this point...
But thats just my opinion...
Thats kind of where I was going with this. I guess something just doesnt add up in this equation. Mom seems to want to talk a lot but doesnt seem to want to do much about it, i'm wondering why....Yeah, that's why I'm wondering if there's more to this. And why she's not interested in the police escort so she will have unbiased documentation in hand. Who cares if her ex is an ex-cop...if she means what she's saying, nothing should stand in her way.
Many people do not understand what rights they have, were intimidated by court the first time around, or have tried to be nice to keep the peace. Many people simply are not assertive enough to do what needs to be done to nip these things in the bud.
That's a service that we provide to them. We make them understand what they should have done in the past, and what they need to do now.
You are assuming that a mother without primary custody had to have done something wrong, so there has to be more to the story. That might have been true in the past, but that's not true today.