THere's a HUGE difference between being difficult to get in touch with and 'evading' someone. It's been THREE YEARS and Dad has made virtually no effort to be involved with this child. Why should Mom keep trying?.
No effort to be involved? Maybe you skimmed over this:
The problem with that is, I am not going to introduce myself into the childs life as if I am that childs father, untill that has been proven. When GF stated that she wanted me to come and visit with my child, I again reminded her of where she could still go to get the DNA tesing done at. I would not want to introduce myself to that child as the father, and actually not be.
Of course there has been no effort to be involved in the child’s life. Maybe you are the type who sees nothing wrong in screwing with the minds and emotions of children, but I am not that type.
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Yeah, he had a sample pulled, but it wasn't court ordered THEN and so would not have legally established him as the father of this child regardless.
I have not had the money to hire an attorney, or two if that is the case.
It it very apparent that indeed you did not read this post entirely. Do some research about DNA tesing as well, you might find out some more things. Reference this, read instead of skim.
Paternity Testing Services from DDC DNA Testing Center
The place I used utilizes the Chain of Custody system, therefore after paternity had been established, if the child was mine, I could have used that DNA test at court. If the child was not mine, I could have avoided court costs, attorney fees, and now the cost of locating her. Guess you did not understand that. Clouded mind, maybe.
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For all he knows, SOMEONE ELSE has been established as the legal father of this child.
Yeah this may be true... So what? That just means I can stop wondering if the child is mine or not.
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As far as 'not finding' Mom? Really, in THREE YEARS, it can be pretty hard to start tracking people down. Mom could be married, she could have a cell phone instead of a landline, live with friends/relatives/in an apt where the utilities are paid and therefore not in her name.
Hmmmmmm......
I do not know her current address because she lives with her mother, stepfather, and 2 brothers. Also they have moved since the past few hurricanes. I have searched online for her but can not find her, I am guessing because she does not have anything in her name such as utility or phones..
Once again someone didn’t read this entire post.
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IMO, Mom has NO OBLIGATION whatsoever to make herself 'easy' for anyone to find just in case he decides that after THREE YEARS, he'd like to maybe find out if he fathered a child.
IMO=??
Where in this post did anyone ever say that she had an obligation to make herself easy to find? Once again you should read the post entirely.
You must have a clouded mind, maybe you are a female who had a child with a man, and now have a ******* child, and that is why you can only skim through my post to try and find means of attacking me because you need to vent from your own situation. I'm just saying maybe.
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Apparently CJane did not read this entire post from beginning to end. Maybe you need to re-read it VERY SLOWLY and out loud to absorb more information instead of skimming through it. You should apply that method to all your replies to postings.
Your "advice" holds no value. Amount of posts makes a senior member?
That’s a lot of misguided "advice" given due to skimming posts.
It is too bad there is no option to ban certain users from posting replies to the advice seeker. This should be an option!!!
CJane, your response has been replied to, and no further "advice" or replies are needed or wanted from you. Thanks.
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For anyone else who replies to any of the postings under my main posting, make sure you read the entire post and get all the information. Sometimes the pg dn button skips a post or two, so scroll up.