she is refusing visitation because my husband and I made a comment that
she didnt have a clean house and the grandchild was eating nothing but junk food no schedule what so ever and she got mad at us and this is her revenge
you guys KNOW im jumping in this one....
clean by whose standards? if her biggest sin is some shoes in the living room and a dish or even a few in the sink, i do not think that qualifies as a "dirty house"...there is no such thing as a 24/7 clean household when you have children, there is an obvious difference between unsanitary conditions and what i stated above. are you saying that the child is being kept in unsafe, unhealthy, unsanitary conditions?
and specify "junk food"......what do you mean by junk food, are they eating ding dongs , ho ho's and twinkies 24/7? are you also saying the child is being fed improperly or not at all and their health is in danger?
and what schedule are you referencing? how old is this child that the child needs a "schedule"? yes a school age child, pre-school and up should have a schedule for bedtime, homework etc....but a toddler or child not in pre-school....doubful...
so what you did was piss off your daughter in law, insult her and wonder why she doesnt want you around? also sounds like you are being very petty and pointing out things to be spiteful and are inconsequential. I say this based on your statement that is what it would APPEAR to be, you being a nitpicky over controlling grandparent who thinks they have a right to their grandchildren....
FYI....not only do you run the risk of permanently ruing your relationship with your daughter in law, imagine how happy your SON would be to find out his own mother is suing him for visitation of his child....oh wait thats right you probably didnt realize that YOU HAVE TO SUE BOTH PARENTS FOR VISITATION NOT JUST ONE!!!
I should know b/c i just went thru the same issue, my ex is deployed and nothing can be done while he is on active duty, let me tell you how ANGRY AND VIOLATED HE FELT when he found out my own mother tried to do the same thing....great job grandma....i suggest you back off and play nice nice, just b/c he's your son you think he will agree to you treating his wife like this???