armouredone
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Thanks you guys. These are all from the court of appeals. I wonder how many actual cases like this get heard and not appealed.
Indeed, our Supreme Court has specifically held that grandparents have no fundamental right to a relationship with their grandchildren.
There can be no denial of visitation rights to pursue ,if there is no order(s).Today my daughter's father asked his parents to stop with the threats of a lawsuit. His father got in a screaming match with him and told him that we are going to be sued for sure now (threats?!?). What should we be doing as parents, if anything? Now that we have heard allegations of child molestation we don't want his father anywhere near our daughter, but would that be taken as "denial of visits," thus fueling the fire for a court order? Also, can we submit affadavits to the court BEFORE they sue?
continue parenting your child and thats it...What should we be doing as parents, if anything?
not necessarily, IF you get pulled into court, you must argue that you have received information of a serious nature and that you are concerned for the safety of your children. also it is legally within your rights to decide who your child can be around.Now that we have heard allegations of child molestation we don't want his father anywhere near our daughter, but would that be taken as "denial of visits," thus fueling the fire for a court order?
Be very deliberate when dealing with these folks from now on. Whatever you do, don't leave kiddo with them alone, visits should be with you on your terms at your home or short visits at their home.A couple of weeks ago I emailed the grandparents. I included a link to an article written by a lawyer that outlines the trauma a gpv case brings upon a child. I then listed several facts about GPV cases that I am sure they didn't believe. My daughter's father allowed me to add his name to the bottom of the email. After the grandparents read the email my ex had to endure two shouting matches with his father in which gpa said "we'll do what we have to do to get her." At that time they showed no signs of backing down whatsoever. Feeling united by our agreement to the issue, my ex and I quit worrying about it.
Yesterday Gpa called me and very wishywashily told me to throw out the letter from the attorney and that they were not going to take the matter any further. He then said that he hopes he can see my daughter some time when it's convenient for me...then that he loves me like I'm his own family. ?!?!?!?!?
I think they are waving a white flag because we called their bluff. However, I'm worried that this little faux apology-like cry baby statement is somehow a sword that they're waiting for me to fall on. Not to mention the fact that since this began I've heard of some serious rumors/allegations about his conduct with children.
Is my instinct to grab my daughter and run high into the hills at any threat of their visit going to bite me in the rear?
read what you wrote in the beginning of this thread:Here's my quandry...should we let this guy see our kids ("our" = their two sons and us two mothers) at ALL after hearding these allegations? Would that look to the court like we were okay with a possible molester around our kids? .
If you notice, you allowed supervised visits whether that was the intent or not. The g-parents want private visitation. Due to the allegations, I would review this as a red flag. I would not allow private visitations and if you do allow any visitation, it should be where you know the people and you trust them with your children's safety. If the the "supervisors" are aware of the allegations, (and no, do not go around spreading the info until you are very confident of the facts) but if those supervisors are aware of the allegations, simply make them understand your fears and concerns and ask them to be alert to any possible improper actions.The paternal grandparents are welcomed to visit my daughter while she is at their other son's (my daughter's uncle) visiting her twin cousins who are the same age. The other son lives about four miles down the same road. They refused to see any of the grandchildren this way because they want them at their house and without their parents. The paternal grandparents are invited to all dance recitals, t-ball games etc.. The paternal grandparents have never once asked me for a specific time that they could have me or my daughter over as a guest.