My 13 year old does not want to visit me for Christmas

[3Weymouthgirls]

Brats

Yah but... Dad has been all lah-di-dah about it up to now. So past "transgressions" that he's done nothing about are moot.

Both Mom and Dad have created this problem. Both should own up to it. Dad seems to think it's all on Mom that the kid is a brat.

You are wrong about la di da. I have fought tooth and nail to have a healthy relationship with my daughter. Unlike you I won't blame the child for the end result of bad parenting on the ex. As a parent I am limited to what I can control since I am not in state.

If I even thought there was a chance at custody I would go that route but have been told by multiple lawyers the chance of that happening would be slim and nil.

 

[3Weymouthgirls]

What?

why is your spouse not working, contributing to the household?

Who said she isn't on top of taking care of a 3 yo and a 4 yo. You know what they say about assuming

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Jobs are jobs. Children are irreplaceable.

You make your choices, you take your chances.

I concur.

Right a jobless economy have to support all my children including 2 that are under my roof and a spouse Sorry your response is not very intelligent without knowing the whole situation on my move to NC.

MA had a better than national average unemployment rate from 2001 thru the beginning of 2008, per the BLS.gov website, so not buying the "jobless economy" as a reason to move to NC, which was several percentage points higher for most of that time.

You made a choice.

Mom won't be in contempt if you aren't making an attempt to pick the child up, which mom should be helping you with.

 

[Isis1]

Who said she isn't on top of taking care of a 3 yo and a 4 yo. You know what they say about assuming

you stated you were supporting her and two other children. pick a story.

 

[Silverplum]

You are wrong about la di da. I have fought tooth and nail to have a healthy relationship with my daughter. Unlike you I won't blame the child for the end result of bad parenting on the ex. As a parent I am limited to what I can control since I am not in state.

If I even thought there was a chance at custody I would go that route but have been told by multiple lawyers the chance of that happening would be slim and nil.

The bolded directly proves my point.

 

[3Weymouthgirls]

Stuff Happens

My response was entirely intelligent, and focused upon the best interests of your FIRST child.

Okay I get it since I try to support all my children I should have stayed unemployed and unable to meet my obligations. Sorry I divorced my ex wife not my child. I have to be a father to all. I stand by my comment concerning the intelligence of your original post

 

[Sunnyone83]

So attorneys have told you you have no shot at additional parenting time?
Some one more knowledgeable can say whether this is correct or not, but asking for a change in custody and asking for additional parenting time can be two very different things.
Long distance parenting plans that I have seen typically include 4-8 weeks of summer, every other or every spring break and rotating holidays.

 

[Silverplum]

Okay I get it since I try to support all my children I should have stayed unemployed and unable to meet my obligations. Sorry I divorced my ex wife not my child. I have to be a father to all. I stand by my comment concerning the intelligence of your original post

And, of course, I stand by all of my comments as well.

 

[3Weymouthgirls]

you must be bitter

you stated you were supporting her and two other children. pick a story.

I am supporting her as a mother of 2 of my 3 children.

 

[Isis1]

I am supporting her as a mother of 2 of my 3 children.

is she working or NOT?

 

[txmom512]

Okay I get it since I try to support all my children I should have stayed unemployed and unable to meet my obligations. Sorry I divorced my ex wife not my child. I have to be a father to all. I stand by my comment concerning the intelligence of your original post

All Silverplum is saying is that what you're having to deal with is not to be unexpected. You made a choice.

Once you move away, you are no longer an everyday presence in your child's life. And her life has gone on without you.

And even though you don't see it, your daughter probably has a lot of resentment towards you abandoning her for your 'new' family...

 

[stealth2]

Unlike you I won't blame the child for the end result of bad parenting on the ex.

I don't blame the child. Not her fault she has two parents who let her be a brat. Square on you and Mom.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

So attorneys have told you you have no shot at additional parenting time?
Some one more knowledgeable can say whether this is correct or not, but asking for a change in custody and asking for additional parenting time can be two very different things.
Long distance parenting plans that I have seen typically include 4-8 weeks of summer, every other or every spring break and rotating holidays.

The bolded is correct. Dad absolutely CAN file for additional time.

 

[3Weymouthgirls]

Not what I said

So attorneys have told you you have no shot at additional parenting time?
Some one more knowledgeable can say whether this is correct or not, but asking for a change in custody and asking for additional parenting time can be two very different things.
Long distance parenting plans that I have seen typically include 4-8 weeks of summer, every other or every spring break and rotating holidays.

I was referring to custody not additional time. I admit to being way to much of a pushover to avoid alienating my daughter. I do have alternating school vacations and summer time. My ex really controls summer visits because my daughter is into multiple activities and I want her to be happy

 

[Silverplum]

I was referring to custody not additional time. I admit to being way to much of a pushover to avoid alienating my daughter. I do have alternating school vacations and summer time. My ex really controls summer visits because my daughter is into multiple activities and I want her to be happy

This is too easy.