Actually, your adultery (assuming you've knocked boots with someone else) can certainly muddy the waters on what alimony you might be awarded (in some states, it can prevent alimony from being awarded at all). And if your STBX has been staying inside his pants, it won't look so good for you.For the record, NJ is a no-fault state. The only bearing assigning fault has is waiving the 18 months you must live apart before filing as opposed to filing no-fault. It does not impact the outcome of the divorce as far as alimony, custody or child support. I filed on the basis of extreme mental cruelty and dissertion which is fault based so I didn't have to wait 18 months. I certainly don't owe you any explanation for my grounds of mental cruelty. As for dissertion, not sleeping with your wife for almost 4 years qualifies!
When was the money used to pay for them received, where did it reside, and did money earned (such as income from wages) during the marriage go into that account? If the money to pay for the laptops was received during the marriage, it might be marital property. If the money was deposited into a joint account, the laptops are marital property (or were purchased with marital funds, and so are marital property.) If marital funds (such as income from wages earned during the marriage) went into the separate account, you commingled separate and marital assets, so it'd be very difficult to later claim those funds as separate, especially since it's been so long since it was commingled.For all of you sitting on your thrones judging me, I sure hope you don't live in glass houses. You also can't read. I said the laptops are NOT marital property since they were bought with my own money which was NOT received from my husband. THEY WERE NOT PURCHASED WITH ONE PENNY FROM HIM! Do you understand now or should I spell it out further for you?
It does not matter one whit whether your husband did or did not have any direct contact with the money when it was deposited or spent.
It depends on what was purchased and when. Just because your husband was not a joint accountholder or an authorized user does NOT necessarily make the debt separate.He NEVER had permission to access my account or my password. He was explicitly told he did NOT have permission to ever touch either laptop, and I told him to get off the laptops when I caught him on them several times supposedly playing games. So your whole "joint marital property" argument doesn't apply here. So why aren't you responding further to the credit card fraud? That card had my debt on it...not his. I never tried to assign that debt to him or make him pay any of the bill. He was not a joint owner or authorized user of the account which means he also has no right to any information regarding the account.
And your husband can legally have access to that information one way or another, as you can be compelled (via a discovery request) to provide such things as the account balance, statements, terms, etc. and merely getting the balance, etc. isn't (as far as I know) credit card fraud.
Depending on how access was obtained, it might be a different type of fraud, if at all, but we don't have enough facts to determine that. How your husband obtained the information may have not necessarily been kosher, but he *is* entitled to that information.
The answer to the question of laws being broken is, "Probably not."I didn't come to this forum to be insulted. I came here to find out if any laws were being broken by him. You're just hell bent on your own morality and wish to judge me. I could care less what you think of me. I'm not the one trying to destroy my children's other parent. This was nothing more than a waste of my time.