stealth2
Under the Radar Member
Re: Re: Thanks for making me feel worse asswhole.
It is much, much more difficult to be an active participant in your child's life when you're not close by. No matter what - you lose huge chunks of their lives. It's hard when you and the custodial parent are on good terms - when you're not (like you and your ex) - it's nearly impossible.
Your daughter may or may not choose to live with you later in her life. If he stays in GA (hope he does) - she actually does get to make that choice. If he doesn't - and changes jurisdiction - she doesn't get to choose. A judge does. The time to build your case is now - not when she decides she wants to move. If you walk into the courtroom asking for custody and are years worth in arrears - the judge is likely to laugh you out of court.
Did my post make you feel bad? Yeah, it probably did. But you know - you didn't ask for responses that will make you feel warm and fuzzy, but for ones that might help you. And if YOU feel bad - how do you think your little girl feels?
Oh good - it was aimed at me and not skyy. Had me worried there for a moment. The thing is - the way you see it may not be the way a judge sees it. And that's the person you have to win over. Moving thousands of miles away isn't going to score you points with the judge - I'm sorry, that's just the way it is.momma_tiger said:WTF was that about?
It is much, much more difficult to be an active participant in your child's life when you're not close by. No matter what - you lose huge chunks of their lives. It's hard when you and the custodial parent are on good terms - when you're not (like you and your ex) - it's nearly impossible.
Your daughter may or may not choose to live with you later in her life. If he stays in GA (hope he does) - she actually does get to make that choice. If he doesn't - and changes jurisdiction - she doesn't get to choose. A judge does. The time to build your case is now - not when she decides she wants to move. If you walk into the courtroom asking for custody and are years worth in arrears - the judge is likely to laugh you out of court.
Did my post make you feel bad? Yeah, it probably did. But you know - you didn't ask for responses that will make you feel warm and fuzzy, but for ones that might help you. And if YOU feel bad - how do you think your little girl feels?