"Emotional abuse" is getting to be as cheaply tossed around as "sexually molested my child for years and years!" was back in the '80's. And it is such a generic term, it can refer to almost any level of abuse and is very hard to show, no bruises or scars. So it doesn't carry a lot of weight in the world of courts anymore. Some people get their feelings hurt very easily.
Sarahwall, I'm sorry I hurt your feelings by assuming you were young and unrealistic. It is still very obvious you are both of those things. And proud, oh my, so touchy. You responded very warmly to the posters who told you what reinforced your ideas about how it should work, not necessarily those who told you the truth.
And there's a lot of experience here and legal knowledge and hard won knowledge of human nature. At your age, I also had very little concept of exactly what single parenthood would entail, and there were a lot of things that I did not think of. For one thing, I did not realize how expensive and difficult to find good child care would be, or how complicated the life of a working/nursing mother could be, or that babies and little children get sick all the darn time, (one of your principal expenses will be for the pediatrician) and you will have many days when you cannot use your regular child care for them, or that I might have a health issue that would complicate my being the only support and caregiver for my child.
And in my work with the court system in mediation, and especially in your state, I have seen that the father WILL be involved if he wants it and they possibly can arrange it, whether he is a one night stand you went through fully birth controlled and drunk out of your mind, or the wrong test tube of semen they used for IVF.
As I said, this guy will very probably eventually find some reason why he wants to have a connection with his child, though it may not involve the scenario of co-parenting but paying support you offered him originally. Just because he then popped off and hurt your feelings by saying he wants nothing to do with you, or scared you by saying that he will get even with you if you try to make him pay by taking your child away from you(how ordinary of him to think of saying that!) it doesn't mean he's locked into that or that is what he'd be able to do.
The safest thing for you to do is settle down, and as someone has suggested, get yourself some good counseling now for your issues and to help you deal with the inevitable. And also get yourself a good family law attorney lined up to advise you as soon as the baby is born. Be prepared to ask for reasonable child support, (which is in the best interests of your baby, in spite of your choices and preferences) and be prepared to be involved with this man in some size shape or form for at least the next 18 years. Or else terminate the pregnancy.