Is overnight visitation mandatory?

[ceara19]

Good trick, ceara!

W changed the calendar in Texas when he was governor. I think he came up with the idea after a long night of drinking beer, snorting coke and playing poker out on his ranch in Crawford!

 

[pixel]

no she has no proof, because no one did anything to them.

thanks again to everyone.

 

[stealth2]

no she has no proof, because no one did anything to them.

thanks again to everyone.

So then it's a moot point. She had no proof, and you also have witnesses for when you have them over. So the "abuse" is a nonissue.

Now say it again - WHY don't you want HIS kids overnight?

 

[AHA]

no she has no proof, because no one did anything to them.

Then you have zero reason to forbid hubby's kids to come spend the night at dad's house!!! Stop putting the mind of their mother ahead of 2 kids that deserve their father ESPECIALLY since both you and hubby didn't have one when you grew up.

If you're living with a bunch of family members, how about them helping out with YOUR kid???

If despite TWO full time incomes, you can't afford your own place or to buy a couple of sleeping bags, YOU BOTH NEED NEW JOBS!!!!! If there are no jobs in your local area, move a little closer to where there ARE jobs. Two kids shouldn't have to be punished for two adults' lack of effort to supply a mattress, especially when they clearly can supply it for THEIR kid. That's just being a total hypocrit.

 

[frylover]

I can't believe your husband is passing up a chance to see his kids....

If my husband's ex had ever called him and told him she WANTED him to take their daughter overnight, he would have never had to pay another penny in child support....because he would have dropped dead from shock right then and there!

 

[pixel]

I have never forbid the kids from coming over. you guys are reading into things.

The family members we live with are kind of old and have health conditions where they are not physically capable of caring for an 11 month old, which is why I have to pay for daycare while we are both at work.

As far as buying what the baby needs, a lot of it was gifts. His bassinet was donated by the church (which we had to give back) and he stayed in it for 9 months because we couldn't afford to buy a crib (you are all parents, you know what this stuff costs!). A lot of his clothes are hand-me-downs from my aunt who has a baby one month older than my son and luckily really big for his age so he outgrows things quickly.

I've been at my job for a good while so when the daycare says to come pick him up because he's sick, no one gives me a hard time about missing work to care for him or take him to regular checkups. If i move jobs, I'll take a pay cut, have to find a new daycare (current one is on the worksite), drive farther (more gas!), and will not have the flexibility to leave to care for baby. Anyone who's had a child in daycare will know that you HAVE to keep them at home when they are sick.

I live in San Antonio, and with the new growth and businesses coming into town the cost of living is sky-rocketing so we live outside of town where our rent is minimal and just have to eat the gas costs.

Their mother states they ask all the time to stay over, yet neither one of them has EVER asked us to stay over. Yesterday, my husband informed me that his sister offered to take the kids for the entire weekend and suggested we also come over and spend the visitation day there. We presented that option to their mother and she declined it. If it truely is my husbands time, then what reason would she have to say no to that?

 

[CJane]

If it truely is my husbands time, then what reason would she have to say no to that?

Because he lets her? If it's his court ordered time, she has NO SAY at all where the kids are. Y'all could pick them up every other weekend and drop them off at the sister's house if you wanted to.

And by the way, I re read your post about the pay cuts. It's possible - even likely - that the reason hubby hasn't received a downward modification in CS is because his pay cut is seen as voluntary.

 

[pixel]

And by the way, I re read your post about the pay cuts. It's possible - even likely - that the reason hubby hasn't received a downward modification in CS is because his pay cut is seen as voluntary.

Getting fired twice is voluntary? When you need a job you have to take what you can get at the time. You start letting arrears build up for too long, and they take away your ability to work by suspending your DL or putting you in jail. He is doing the kids no justice by letting that happen. I hate that the OAG treats everyone like their a dead beat.

 

[ceara19]

Getting fired twice is voluntary? When you need a job you have to take what you can get at the time. You start letting arrears build up for too long, and they take away your ability to work by suspending your DL or putting you in jail. He is doing the kids no justice by letting that happen. I hate that the OAG treats everyone like their a dead beat.

It depends on what he got fired for. But being fired usually IS considered voluntary. Being laid off is involuntary. The OAG's office treats EVERYONE like crap, NCP & CP alike. A CP has just as much chance at being screwed over by them as an NCP. I have yet to see a case where the OAG had an NCP arrested when they were paying at least PART of the support obligation. Putting someone in jail costs the state money and it's not good for their bottom line. Same with the DL suspension, as long as a true effort is being made, they don't pursue suspension. Even if they did suspend his license, San Antonio is full of other transportation options.

 

[fairisfair]

Getting fired twice is voluntary? When you need a job you have to take what you can get at the time. You start letting arrears build up for too long, and they take away your ability to work by suspending your DL or putting you in jail. He is doing the kids no justice by letting that happen. I hate that the OAG treats everyone like their a dead beat.

The OAG doesn't treat me like a deadbeat. OH WAIT, maybe that is because I don't owe back child support

cmon, cut the excuses, everyone makes sacrifices, you just choose to NOT make them for the children that came before your own. Of course they don't ask you to spend the night, it is much easier to have mom explain why they can't than to have DAD tell them no.

 

[ceara19]

The OAG doesn't treat me like a deadbeat. OH WAIT, maybe that is because I don't owe back child support

cmon, cut the excuses, everyone makes sacrifices, you just choose to NOT make them for the children that came before your own. Of course they don't ask you to spend the night, it is much easier to have mom explain why they can't than to have DAD tell them no.

It also might have something to do with not feeling welcome to spend the night with dad.

 

[pixel]

It depends on what he got fired for. But being fired usually IS considered voluntary. Being laid off is involuntary. The OAG's office treats EVERYONE like crap, NCP & CP alike. A CP has just as much chance at being screwed over by them as an NCP. I have yet to see a case where the OAG had an NCP arrested when they were paying at least PART of the support obligation. Putting someone in jail costs the state money and it's not good for their bottom line. Same with the DL suspension, as long as a true effort is being made, they don't pursue suspension. Even if they did suspend his license, San Antonio is full of other transportation options.

Call centers regulary cut people when they spend too much time on the phone with clients and don't make enough sales. I met and worked with him for a year before the company gave up and let him go. I was in the same boat but was moved to another area and have been here ever since.

We live in Medina county just outside SA. so no public transportation is not an option.

 

[pixel]

The OAG doesn't treat me like a deadbeat. OH WAIT, maybe that is because I don't owe back child support

Why is it that you read into things?

He DOES NOT OWE BACK SUPPORT. He got 3 months behind when he lost his job, and once he did find a job paid it off and has been current for almost 2 years.

 

[pixel]

It also might have something to do with not feeling welcome to spend the night with dad.

That's a bunch of BS.

Kids always make the rounds asking people for stuff when they want something. I may be a new mom (and step-mom) but I was a kid once and have been around plenty to know that kids ask around to get what they want.

I ALWAYS asked my dad to move back home when my parents split. My mom always told me it was never going to happen, but I still asked EVERYTIME I saw him or talked to him on the phone.

 

[AHA]

Since your housing costs are never going to be as low as they are now, while taking advantage of elderly familymembers, GO BUY A CHEAP MATTRESS FOR YOUR KID'S SIBLINGS****************************..TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Enough of the irrelevant and lame excuses.