Some insight would greatly help

[Johnmou3]

What is the name of your state? John from Oregon,

My wife and I were married about a year ago. She has two children from her previous marriage. She is concerned that if something happens to her, then the children’s (ages 10, 8) biological father will gain custody. We have been a family unit for going on 5 years and the children’s father has visitation that is limited to birthdays, Fathers Day, and regular phone calls in the custody papers. It really works out to about once a month he comes down from out of state with his new wife to visit with the girls. He is a creep, and should probably be spending time for some of the stuff he has pulled in the past. That aside, is there anything that I can do to help protect the girls from him if something happens to my wife. They know me as dad, not him. I can't say for sure if he would give up custody outright, or if there are other avenues that I can try before I ask him. I really want to protect these girls from him if I can.

Thank you

John

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state? John from Oregon,

My wife and I were married about a year ago. She has two children from her previous marriage. She is concerned that if something happens to her, then the children’s (ages 10, 8) biological father will gain custody. We have been a family unit for going on 5 years and the children’s father has visitation that is limited to birthdays, Fathers Day, and regular phone calls in the custody papers. It really works out to about once a month he comes down from out of state with his new wife to visit with the girls. He is a creep, and should probably be spending time for some of the stuff he has pulled in the past. That aside, is there anything that I can do to help protect the girls from him if something happens to my wife. They know me as dad, not him. I can't say for sure if he would give up custody outright, or if there are other avenues that I can try before I ask him. I really want to protect these girls from him if I can.

Thank you

John

Well ...The "creep" is their father! MOM can ask him if he would be willing to terminate his parental rights and then you could adopt...But there is NOTHING you can do...In legal terms you are a stranger.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state? John from Oregon,

My wife and I were married about a year ago. She has two children from her previous marriage. She is concerned that if something happens to her, then the children’s (ages 10, 8) biological father will gain custody. We have been a family unit for going on 5 years and the children’s father has visitation that is limited to birthdays, Fathers Day, and regular phone calls in the custody papers. It really works out to about once a month he comes down from out of state with his new wife to visit with the girls. He is a creep, and should probably be spending time for some of the stuff he has pulled in the past. That aside, is there anything that I can do to help protect the girls from him if something happens to my wife. They know me as dad, not him. I can't say for sure if he would give up custody outright, or if there are other avenues that I can try before I ask him. I really want to protect these girls from him if I can.

Thank you

John

Bay is right. But also you really need to back off. Mom and you have screwed up by allowing this girls to believe that YOU are dad not him. YOU ARE NOT THEIR FATHER! If mom dies, HE gets custody of HIS kids. You need to back off. Mom needs to get the girls in to counseling to correct the wrong she has done by allowing them to believe that you are dad. And truthfully you and mom both need to grow up. This father drives down from out of state once a month to visit with his kids and you are downing him?

 

[Johnmou3]

Bay is right. But also you really need to back off. Mom and you have screwed up by allowing this girls to believe that YOU are dad not him. YOU ARE NOT THEIR FATHER! If mom dies, HE gets custody of HIS kids. You need to back off. Mom needs to get the girls in to counseling to correct the wrong she has done by allowing them to believe that you are dad. And truthfully you and mom both need to grow up. This father drives down from out of state once a month to visit with his kids and you are downing him?

Ohiogal,

Thank you for the rant. Are you seeing anyone for your anger issues? You should keep your assumptions to yourself. When I said they know me as dad, I was simply stating that they are estranged from their fater by his own doing not ours. You have assumed that we (my wife and I) are the ones who are jumping the gun here. Well, you are wrong. Your little rant served absolutely no porpose at all. We would appriciate you leaving your personal feelings out when resposding to questions posted.

 

[Johnmou3]

Well ...The "creep" is their father! MOM can ask him if he would be willing to terminate his parental rights and then you could adopt...But there is NOTHING you can do...In legal terms you are a stranger.

Baystategirl,

Thank you for the insight. You stated what I really already knew but need some confirmation on.

 

[Silverplum]

You're such a doofus that you have dissed the only FAMILY ATTORNEY that answered your stooopid question.

Ohiogal,

Thank you for the rant. Are you seeing anyone for your anger issues? You should keep your assumptions to yourself. When I said they know me as dad, I was simply stating that they are estranged from their fater by his own doing not ours. You have assumed that we (my wife and I) are the ones who are jumping the gun here. Well, you are wrong. Your little rant served absolutely no porpose at all. We would appriciate you leaving your personal feelings out when resposding to questions posted.

 

[Just Blue]

Baystategirl,

Thank you for the insight. You stated what I really already knew but need some confirmation on.

After your rude post to OG, that will be the last time I give you any advice! You are a jerk!

 

[Johnmou3]

"After your rude post to OG, that will be the last time I give you any advice! You are a jerk!"

Well, that is unfortunate. I was looking for some insight to a question and what I got was a reasonable answer and a lecture from someone who assumed information not given. If I had felt the need for someone to chastise me I would have asked for that instead of the insight that I was after. All I was looking for were facts, not the opinion of someone who doesn't know any more about the situation than was presented. If I offended anyone, I apologize. However, this forum should be dilute of emotion and saturated with knowledge.

 

[moburkes]

"After your rude post to OG, that will be the last time I give you any advice! You are a jerk!"

Well, that is unfortunate. I was looking for some insight to a question and what I got was a reasonable answer and a lecture from someone who assumed information not given. If I had felt the need for someone to chastise me I would have asked for that instead of the insight that I was after. All I was looking for were facts, not the opinion of someone who doesn't know any more about the situation than was presented. If I offended anyone, I apologize. However, this forum should be dilute of emotion and saturated with knowledge.

All the advice that you get here is free. Get it? You want nicey, nice - pay for it.

Good luck.

 

[escape2paradise]

All the advice that you get here is free. Get it? You want nicey, nice - pay for it.

Good luck.

FREE! Yeah right! First you must pay with the skin off your back. The "Seniors" love to rip people apart far more than they ever offer useful advice!!

 

[moburkes]

FREE! Yeah right! First you must pay with the skin off your back. The "Seniors" love to rip people apart far more than they ever offer useful advice!!

Oh, really? Interesting comment. Why wasn't the advice that OP received useful? Where was OP given INCORRECT legal advice?

 

[stealth2]

escape is spreading her drivel all over the boards.

 

[johnmcclane]

stop badmouthing dad

knock this off, its going to cause your wife a lot of problems. not only are you badmouthing dad, but you and your wife are alienating the girls from their father by letting them think you are their father, when you are not. you really think dad is going to give custody to a stepparent who alienates HIS children and badmouths him? id tell you to go to hell. and id also be marching into court for full custody.

 

[escape2paradise]

Oh, really? Interesting comment. Why wasn't the advice that OP received useful? Where was OP given INCORRECT legal advice?

Nobody said it was incorrect. However, you must wade through many insults and digs to get to the actual advice part. I only found these boards a few weeks ago and find them to be the worst atmosphere online that I've ever seen. There is lots of good advice, but as I said first one must sort through the bull to find it. Your gang must be bored and bitter, how sad. I've seen the same theme over and over, attack the new guy! Maybe you all can't see it cause you are all caught up in it, but to an outsider it's pretty pathetic!

 

[stealth2]

Nobody said it was incorrect. However, you must wade through many insults and digs to get to the actual advice part. I only found these boards a few weeks ago and find them to be the worst atmosphere online that I've ever seen. There is lots of good advice, but as I said first one must sort through the bull to find it. Your gang must be bored and bitter, how sad. I've seen the same theme over and over, attack the new guy! Maybe you all can't see it cause you are all caught up in it, but to an outsider it's pretty pathetic!

Would you please escape and go to paradise, already?