No Hot Water

[chipmunk226]

What is the name of your state? MD, but custody order is out of PA.

My 8yo son just told me that his father does not have hot water in his home, and to bathe, his father is heating the water on the stove, and then carrying it upstairs to put in the tub and then adds cold water to it. I asked for how long? And he said about 5 months, since the summer. My son said that his dad tried to fix it himself and broke it and hasn't got it fixed.

His father and I already have a terrible relationship. We don't communicate, well, at all. On one hand it could be so much worse, but on the other hand, I still don't feel I should try to justify why his father can't get hot water in his home, especially during the winter, and be without it for so long.

Is there anything I can / should do? My son only goes for two weekends per month as it is... so it's not like he's there for any extended period right now, but does spend over 2 months in the summer.

I know what I think is an issue isn't necessarily what the courts deem as an issue to bring to them. But then if I don't make an issue now that I found out, then I can't bring it up at all. Kinda damned if I do, damned if I don't.

 

[penelope10]

What is the name of your state? MD, but custody order is out of PA.

My 8yo son just told me that his father does not have hot water in his home, and to bathe, his father is heating the water on the stove, and then carrying it upstairs to put in the tub and then adds cold water to it. I asked for how long? And he said about 5 months, since the summer. My son said that his dad tried to fix it himself and broke it and hasn't got it fixed.

His father and I already have a terrible relationship. We don't communicate, well, at all. On one hand it could be so much worse, but on the other hand, I still don't feel I should try to justify why his father can't get hot water in his home, especially during the winter, and be without it for so long.

Is there anything I can / should do? My son only goes for two weekends per month as it is... so it's not like he's there for any extended period right now, but does spend over 2 months in the summer.

I know what I think is an issue isn't necessarily what the courts deem as an issue to bring to them. But then if I don't make an issue now that I found out, then I can't bring it up at all. Kinda damned if I do, damned if I don't.

He's heating the water up for your boy, and not making him take an ice cold bath. What's the problem here?

 

[Just Blue]

He's heating the water up for your boy, and not making him take an ice cold bath. What's the problem here?

I agree.....

 

[2Mistakes]

He's heating the water up for your boy, and not making him take an ice cold bath. What's the problem here?

I was thinking the same thing.

Sometimes, when my step-daughter goes to her dad's for the weekend (she goes every other weekend), she comes home and says that she didn't take bath at Dad's.

My wife doesn't freak out. She just makes her take a bath that night.

OP, IMO, legally this is a non-issue.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

I agree with the responses already given.

Hell, 95% of the time Little Miss Pro Se tells ME that she never takes a bath at The Ex's. It just SOP here.

 

[Bloopy]

I also think it's sweet that Dad is heating up water for kiddo.

If you are worried, maybe you could spot Dad the money to repair the hot water heater.

 

[special mom]

I also think it's sweet that Dad is heating up water for kiddo.

If you are worried, maybe you could spot Dad the money to repair the hot water heater.

Now there's a thought!

 

[2Mistakes]

I also think it's sweet that Dad is heating up water for kiddo.

If you are worried, maybe you could spot Dad the money to repair the hot water heater.

Yeah, like that would really happen. She's more content to piss and moan about it and see if it needs to be addressed in court.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

If you are worried, maybe you could spot Dad the money to repair the hot water heater.

But if she did that, there wouldn't be anything to complain about...

 

[Just Blue]

Yeah, like that would really happen. She's more content to piss and moan about it and see if it needs to be addressed in court.

You never know...maybe she will spot him...Don't be jaded ....

 

[2Mistakes]

You never know...maybe she will spot him...Don't be jaded ....

LOL. I would give my left you-know-what to actually see something like that happen.

I have become somewhat cynical and jaded.

 

[Bloopy]

I don’t seriously expect her to spot Dad the cash, but I wasn’t just going for sarcasm.

I sincerely hope, as she takes a hot bath tonight, that she can see something endearing about her ex’s situation.

 

[Just Blue]

LOL. I would give my left you-know-what to actually see something like that happen.

I have become somewhat cynical and jaded.

Now what on earth would I do with your left "you know what"??

Seriously...I have done nice things for my ex. Not all ex's are mean...although what I have done has gone under-appreciated. Oh well...

 

[penelope10]

Yeah, like that would really happen. She's more content to piss and moan about it and see if it needs to be addressed in court.

Really, can you imagine, "Your honor my ex loves his son so much that he heats up his bath water on the stove when ever he is at Dad's house!"

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Really, can you imagine, "Your honor my ex loves his son so much that he heats up his bath water on the stove when ever he is at Dad's house!"

C'mon now. THAT can't be love. That has to be neglect...