Proof of over-stepping step in court

[2Mistakes]

AHA!! so you are missing that territorial gene too!!!

MUTANT!!!!!

LOL, Fair. I guess we just ain't normal. I'm really not territorial about my kids. They KNOW who I am. They know that nothing will ever change that. Just because sugar daddy takes them to the doc now and then doesn't mean that they think he's dad and forget who I am.

 

[Just Blue]

AHA!! so you are missing that territorial gene too!!!

MUTANT!!!!!

You guy's need to start your own site:

www.territorialgeneless/mutants.com

 

[Calimom3]

I would hope....

Yes, I guess situations are different. If Dad isn't letting Mom know what's up w/ Jr., I can see that being a problem. When ever one of our kids go to the doc, whoever took them lets all other people who need to know what went on know about it. Even if we aren't speaking. It's just common sense.

I was just reading, and I'm already pissy (hey, my wife's outta town, and well . . . you know ), and some of the stuff just sounded petty. Like someone saying that if you take a kid to the ER, they won't treat him/her if it's a step that brought them. Ok, yeah, they're gonna let the poor kid bleed out on the waiting room floor.

The thing about calling bed-warmer mommy? Not cool. At all. My step-daughter will never call me daddy. Ever. My kids will never call my wife mommy. Ever.

And if it ever happened on either side, it would be nipped in the bud immediately.

.... that if my children were taken to an ER bleeding out, the first thing on ER Dr's mind would be saving her life, not wanting to know who the legal parent/guardian is and where they were.....

Yeah, and it's not cool when your kiddo writes essays about her family and the her mommy was born in another country..... Wait.. that's not me......, it's Daddy's gf....

I feel like I am out of options here, except for court intervention, so I want to make sure that I am headed down the correct path....

Thanks for everyone's input......

 

[2Mistakes]

Cali, I didn't mean to rain on your parade. And yes, I definately think that you have a problem on your hands with the gf. Your kids absolutely should not be calling her mommy or any varation of the word.

Initially I thought your big deal was about her taking the kids to the doc. Which TO ME, isn't really that big a deal. But then again, I'm a functioning human being who understands that if anyone other than me or my ex takes our kids to the doc, me and my ex need to know what's going on. It doesn't sound like you have that cooperation here, so I can understand you not wanting the bed warmer (gf) taking the kids to the doc.

 

[Just Blue]

LOL, Fair. I guess we just ain't normal. I'm really not territorial about my kids. They KNOW who I am. They know that nothing will ever change that. Just because sugar daddy takes them to the doc now and then doesn't mean that they think he's dad and forget who I am.

You might feel differently if the children were with your ex primarily and "sugar daddy" was with them every day and you go EOW. Those Territorial Genes might kick in...

 

[fairisfair]

LOL, Fair. I guess we just ain't normal. I'm really not territorial about my kids. They KNOW who I am. They know that nothing will ever change that. Just because sugar daddy takes them to the doc now and then doesn't mean that they think he's dad and forget who I am.

and you don't know how many times I wished to he11 somebody else was staying up til 2 am. frosting frigging cupcakes for a next day party that I didn't know anything about until bedtime.

Anybody out there want to take my daughter car shopping tonight??????

 

[2Mistakes]

You might feel differently if the children were with your ex primarily and "sugar daddy" was with them every day and you go EOW. Those Territorial Genes might kick in...

That is entirely possible . . . and probable. I'd like to be able to say that I'm a bigger man than that, and that it wouldn't bother.

But why lie? I'm sure it would rip my heart out.

 

[2Mistakes]

Anybody out there want to take my daughter car shopping tonight??????

Not no, but HELL NO! You're on your own for that one, sweetness.

Don't worry, I'll be going through it soon enough. My oldest is almost 15, and she's already talking about what car she wants.

 

[mommyof4]

and you don't know how many times I wished to he11 somebody else was staying up til 2 am. frosting frigging cupcakes for a next day party that I didn't know anything about until bedtime.

Anybody out there want to take my daughter car shopping tonight??????[/QUOTE]

Not a chance. My 12 year old princess (at least in her mind) is going to be lucky if she makes it to 13 and if I am still sober on that blessed date.

 

[fairisfair]

You might feel differently if the children were with your ex primarily and "sugar daddy" was with them every day and you go EOW. Those Territorial Genes might kick in...

that's true, but we see just as many cp's that think every overture to their kids is a conspiracy to undermine their mommyism / daddyism on here Bay.

Obviously, calling someone else mommy, that's over the top.

But being a homeroom mom, or taking junior in to have his sniffles checked out. gimme a break.

 

[2Mistakes]

that's true, but we see just as many cp's that think every overture to their kids is a conspiracy to undermine their mommyism / daddyism on here Bay.

Obviously, calling someone else mommy, that's over the top.

But being a homeroom mom, or taking junior in to have his sniffles checked out. gimme a break.

I think that's kinda what I was thinking. You just said it more succinctly than I did.

 

[Just Blue]

Not no, but HELL NO! You're on your own for that one, sweetness.

Don't worry, I'll be going through it soon enough. My oldest is almost 15, and she's already talking about what car she wants.

Haha!! Mine is 18 lives and goes to school in Boston and has ZERO desire for a car!!!! YaY!

Oh Yeah...Ohyeah....(doing the oh yeah dance...)

 

[fairisfair]

I think that's kinda what I was thinking. You just said it more succinctly than I did.

that's me succinctly. ROTFL

some people like to abbreviate it and just say Fair sucks.

 

[proud_parent]

I completely agree with the other posters who've stated that OP's real issue isn't who takes the child to the doctor.

That being said, I'd like to appeal to Ohiogal and/or seniorjudge for their opinions on the bolded part below.

I also wanted to ask---I believe somewhere in the post the OP stated that she is the one who carries med insurance on the child---under HIPPA laws I would think that girlfriend/step would not have the right to sign any medical forms or have any medical information provided to her without a guardians permission and even with a guardian's permission it would still be an iffy situation in regards to regular doctor's visits.....

If the stepmother does not list herself as parent on intake forms, does not authorize treatment (e.g., the father scheduled the visits, no labs were ordered, no vaccinations were administered, etc.), and does not sign medical records release / insurance forms, would the fact that she has accompanied the child to routine (non-emergent) medical appointments be sufficient in and of itself to make a case for her overstepping? If yes, would the answer be different if 1) The stepmother carried the insurance? 2) The appointments were not routine but the father provided written permission for the child to be treated?

Let me be clear that if OP has expressed her preference that stepmother NOT accompany the child to routine visits, and has in fact informed the father that she would adjust her own schedule to ensure that a parent be available to accompany the child, the father is failing in his obligation to support the child's relationship with the other parent.

 

[fairisfair]

Haha!! Mine is 18 lives and goes to school in Boston and has ZERO desire for a car!!!! YaY!

Oh Yeah...Ohyeah....(doing the oh yeah dance...)

No Fair on the oh yeah dance. You may all remember the accident settlement. Well Fair Junior finally has her hot little 18 year old hands on the cashola.