Proof of over-stepping step in court

[Just Blue]

that's true, but we see just as many cp's that think every overture to their kids is a conspiracy to undermine their mommyism / daddyism on here Bay.

Obviously, calling someone else mommy, that's over the top.

But being a homeroom mom, or taking junior in to have his sniffles checked out. gimme a break.

I agree...But this OP has VERY legit case for a change of custody based on Daddy-dearest being a complete ass*ole!

The filing will say something a bit different tho...

 

[2Mistakes]

OP, I went back and re-read this thread, and I apologize for my comments. I still stand by them, but this particular thread was probably not the thread to express them.

After looking at the big picture of your situation, I do agree that gf is a problem. And your ex is a problem for letting this crap go on.

Sometimes I have a little bias in me, because while I know that legally my wife has no standing with my kids, emotionally, I feel that she has been a much better mother figure to them.

BUT, I would never tell my ex or my kids that. And when I tell my wife that, she tells me to shut up.

 

[fairisfair]

I completely agree with the other posters who've stated that OP's real issue isn't who takes the child to the doctor.

That being said, I'd like to appeal to Ohiogal and/or seniorjudge for their opinions on the bolded part below.


If the stepmother does not list herself as parent on intake forms, does not authorize treatment (e.g., the father scheduled the visits, no labs were ordered, no vaccinations were administered, etc.), and does not sign medical records release / insurance forms, would the fact that she has accompanied the child to routine (non-emergent) medical appointments be sufficient in and of itself to make a case for her overstepping? If yes, would the answer be different if 1) The stepmother carried the insurance? 2) The appointments were not routine but the father provided written permission for the child to be treated?

Let me be clear that if OP has expressed her preference that stepmother NOT accompany the child to routine visits, and has in fact informed the father that she would adjust her own schedule to ensure that a parent be available to accompany the child, the father is failing in his obligation to support the child's relationship with the other parent.

PP are you trying to hijack?? LOL..... we are talking about cars, and cupcakes, and you just wanna stick to the issues. WTH????

 

[penelope10]

Yes, I guess situations are different. If Dad isn't letting Mom know what's up w/ Jr., I can see that being a problem. When ever one of our kids go to the doc, whoever took them lets all other people who need to know what went on know about it. Even if we aren't speaking. It's just common sense.

I was just reading, and I'm already pissy (hey, my wife's outta town, and well . . . you know ), and some of the stuff just sounded petty. Like someone saying that if you take a kid to the ER, they won't treat him/her if it's a step that brought them. Ok, yeah, they're gonna let the poor kid bleed out on the waiting room floor.

The thing about calling bed-warmer mommy? Not cool. At all. My step-daughter will never call me daddy. Ever. My kids will never call my wife mommy. Ever.

And if it ever happened on either side, it would be nipped in the bud immediately.

I think you were referring to me--and no they won't let a kid bleed out if a step takes a child to the hospital--- if its a broken bone they may not do a lot until Mom or Dad is reached. (Depends on the hospital and the injury). Your ex was smart when she had it put in the decree that your current wife can make medical decisions etc. But this new woman isn't even a step. So no she could not take the children to the ER and make a medical decision without Mom or Dad's permission. She is no more related to this child than my husband and I were to the child that was injured at our home. (See my previous post) She and Dad are playing games with Mom. Mom has the right to know when the kids go to the doctor and for what. These people have no problem presenting the insurance card the OP has for the kids for payment---they need to tell her what's going on. And the choice to take kids to the Doc should between the parents as to when and how.

And quite frankly I'm shocked that the Dr office would allow this knowing this person is not a relative of any sort to the kids---so this woman is either lying, or she and the ex are lying about her relationship to the kids---cause this Doctor is opening his/her practice to a lawsuit sometime in the future if this kind of action continues.

 

[fairisfair]

I agree...But this OP has VERY legit case for a change of custody based on Daddy-dearest being a complete ass*ole!

The filing will say something a bit different tho...

I agree this poster has issues that need to be addressed, if not succesfully with dad, then in a courtroom.

I am not so sure that a change of custody would be ordered, but there are definitely issues to be addressed.

 

[Just Blue]

No Fair on the oh yeah dance. You may all remember the accident settlement. Well Fair Junior finally has her hot little 18 year old hands on the cashola.

Lucky you...


I'm still dancing...

ohyeah...ohyeah...ohyeah...

 

[Calimom3]

No rain on my parade......

Cali, I didn't mean to rain on your parade. And yes, I definately think that you have a problem on your hands with the gf. Your kids absolutely should not be calling her mommy or any varation of the word.

Initially I thought your big deal was about her taking the kids to the doc. Which TO ME, isn't really that big a deal. But then again, I'm a functioning human being who understands that if anyone other than me or my ex takes our kids to the doc, me and my ex need to know what's going on. It doesn't sound like you have that cooperation here, so I can understand you not wanting the bed warmer (gf) taking the kids to the doc.

I do come here at times for the much needed reality check and to see how functioning people do these things****************************.

 

[Calimom3]

How 'bout nugget????

I agree...But this OP has VERY legit case for a change of custody based on Daddy-dearest being a complete ass*ole!

The filing will say something a bit different tho...

Would that work in the filing?? ;-)

 

[Just Blue]

Would that work in the filing??

Perhaps....

 

[2Mistakes]

Would that work in the filing??

Not sure about nugget or ass*ole, but try Wankerhead. Always works for me.

If only I could slip it past the judge and have him call her "Ms. Wankerhead" in court. Oh, that would make my day!

 

[proud_parent]

PP are you trying to hijack?? LOL..... we are talking about cars, and cupcakes, and you just wanna stick to the issues. WTH????

Hee hee.

My step-daughter's elementary school called me last week(and I kept my maiden name, so it isn't the same as hers) to inquire whether I'd like to volunteer for the spring Fun Fair...monitor games, hand out prizes, bring treats. I enthusiastically responded that my husband (SD's father) would LOVE to participate; sign him up! Now how's THAT for overstepping!!

(Serves him right. He's the one that handed the phone to me, knowing full well that it was the school calling. Thhhpppptttt!)

 

[Calimom3]

Love it!

Not sure about nugget or ass*ole, but try Wankerhead. Always works for me.

If only I could slip it past the judge and have him call her "Ms. Wankerhead" in court. Oh, that would make my day!

If only**************

 

[penelope10]

If only**************

I now refer to my ex as "The Great and Powerful OZ" (not around the kiddo) Really does describe him to a tee and his ego vs reality.