I can see part of why your marriage failed. It takes two to make a marriage work. She did not walk out for ‘no reason’. She walked out because the marriage was not meeting her needs. You were apparently so clueless about her needs that you are not even aware of this. My bet is that if we hear her side of the story she will tell us all about your faults. So you failed each other. Look up the book “His Needs, Her Needs”. You could learn a lot from it.
According to the laws and customs of this country, which are predominately based on European laws and customs, she is entitled to use her married name after a divorce. You cannot take it away from her. So what was your contribution to the failure of your marriage?
It sounds to me like you are the one who is upset about this not your current wife so much. If I were your current wife I would be very concerned that you have not let go of the baggage of your previous marriage.
Yes, my wife is Hungarian. There are many cultural differences. She is using my name plus her maiden name hyphenated but they have still 6 other forms when they marry. So like 7 options. Its amazing. But my current wife IS number one. She IS the best. She IS the queen of my house.
I too use the form of Mrs. MaidenName-MarriedName. The women in my family from Europe have done that for generations. Many American women are now using that form, especially if they have already established themselves in a career and financially so that they do not lose the name recognition.
I don't want some knock off to intrude on my wifes status. My exwife won't ever stay with a man so I don't think she she freeload other guys for their money, their house, their belongings OR their name.
Listen to you bad mouth the mother of your children!!! A ‘knock off’ who intrudes on your wife’s status?
You have no idea if she will ever stay with a man. Just because she did not stay with you does not mean that she will not find a man who one day she loves and who meets her needs. And by the way, is there a requirement for a woman to ‘stay with a man’? Are you saying that she’s morally defunct or bad because she chooses to stay single now?
So tell us why your name is so valuable that she would want to ‘freeload’ for your name? Are you a Kennedy, a Milbank, a Rockefeller, a Hilton? Does your name open social and economic doors for her? Mostly likely not. Because if you were from one of those families…. And your ex is as sleazy as you say she is… you would have paid her some nice sum to give up your name. And she would be smiling all the way to the bank.
Instead of obsessing over your exwife… do something fun with your new wife. … Spend the time you would worrying about this finding out what you new wife needs so that this marriage does not fail.
This is a legal forum. Presumably you came here for legal advice. You got that… she is entitled to use her married name by law. You cannot prevent it.