I am so overwelmed and lost what do I do now?

[stealth2]

File -> Print usually works pretty well for me.

 

[>Charlotte<]

Can you tell me how to do that? I do not know how and this is still new to me

Copy and paste this link to go to the thread:

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/what-have-i-gotten-myself-into-455756.html

(Leave out the "url" and copy only the part beginning with http and ending with html)

Print the thread, don't forget page 2.

CarrieWest has three threads. Here are links to the other two:

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/little-lost-what-happen-next-451371.html

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/update-what-have-i-gotten-myself-into-456726.html

 

[wileybunch]

So chrisstansberry, I can't believe you haven't printed out Mom's threads before now. Are you kidding me? Get a move on it and get them all printed out. And, also, don't make any more stupid comments even in anger. Mom's got an agenda and you are going to fall into traps she lays if you hate her more than you love your children (as Ohiogal would counsel you in her siggy NOT to do). Mom's clearly stated here that she wants this to "be over with" so that her new husband can adopt YOUR child so keep your cool and hang in there and make sure you keep your nose clean and be a Dad to your child even if it means having the patience and perseverance of Job.

 

[chrisstansberry]

I never thought about it tell someone mentioned. As of tonight I have printed all and sent them to my attorney. I realize my comment got me into trouble where is why I am were I am. I have a full time job, child support is up to date and current and I am being as nice as can be with out kissing but. My daughter and my other children are my life and all I want is us to be a family even if she is in my home part time

 

[peppier]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned this

I'm surprised no one has mentioned this: Leave your present wife and stepchildren out of it.

While they may eventually become good friends and have a loving and wonderful relationship with your daughter, but this is between you, the only father and her, the only mother. You will notice that where your ex looks bad is that she is trying to replace you with someone else so you need not give them the chance with accusing you of the same thing.

 

[CJane]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned this: Leave your present wife and stepchildren out of it.

While they may eventually become good friends and have a loving and wonderful relationship with your daughter, but this is between you, the only father and her, the only mother. You will notice that where your ex looks bad is that she is trying to replace you with someone else so you need not give them the chance with accusing you of the same thing.

I don't think there's a remote possibility that in this case a judge could be convinced that dad is attempting to do that - when a judge has ALREADY ORDERED that the steps can be present at the supervised visits.

 

[peppier]

I don't think there's a remote possibility that in this case a judge could be convinced that dad is attempting to do that - when a judge has ALREADY ORDERED that the steps can be present at the supervised visits.

Yes, but if you read the mother's threads you will see that though she doesn't say it outright it is that fact that frosts her, and there is no need to provoke more anger and I was speaking for the future.


I would think that these temorary, supervised visits will be over soon and the child will be able to spend time at the father's home with the wife and kids but in the meantime don't bring them up. This is between the parents.

 

[chrisstansberry]

I understand were your coming from pepier and I understand neither step parent has legall rights. This is a two way street I am her only father yet my ex has my daughter call her new husband daddy. It gets undr my skin and hurts my feelings quite frankly. I realize she is young and knows no better but that it is also her mothers doing. However I will have to disagree with you. When my ex said something to all 3 judges of my daughter staying with my wife while I was at work and she did not like it. They all 3 have told her to get over it. My wife has not come between anything that has to do with my daughter. She gives her oppinion and it is my chosse to take it or do something else. This last time we went to court the Judge osked my wife a few questions includeing and not limited to " Do you involve yourself with this little girl?" My wifes response to her was " I do things with her as I do with my own kids. I am not hear to take her mothers place, but hear to love her and protect her while she is in our care. I involve myself in things when my husband ask for my oppinion and thats what I give him nothing more then that." While the judge was making her ruling she made this statement (quoteing from transcript) Ms West you do not like your exs wife and I am sure your ex does not like your husband. However you need to realize his wife is not making decesions for your daughter and I have made it clear to her she is not to do so. You need to realize your daughter has 2 additional parents and hearing statements from both they both love her very much. You need to get over your hatred for this women and realize your daughter is lucky to have those two individuals love her as much as they do. you are all to comminacate with one another in a civil manner, the step parents are not to make decesions for this little girl.Is that understood?

So this judge apparently saw right through what she was trying to pull

 

[Antigone*]

It looks like in all her evil bitterness and selfishness Carrie has opened the proverbial Pandora's box.

Take the high road, OP, and don't put anything down on paper (virtually or otherwise) that will give your ex power.

Knowledge is power. Use what you have wisely.


PS - Char... I like it!!!