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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I am going to talk to a family law lawyer on Wednesday but he is $475 dollars per hour so I thought I would ask some questions where it is free!
I just want to make sure that I am doing everything that I should be doing to protect both my daughter and myself. My daughters father rarely saw her before the age of 21 months. At 21 months he decided he wanted to be a father and I was welcoming of it. 5 months later he has visitation
1 day per week for seven hours
1 day per week for six hours
He recently just asked if he could have 1 day every other week for 8 1/2 hours. We have done that one time and it was really difficult on our daughter but I am open to trying it again b/c she probably just needs a little time to get use to it.
My fear is that the father is setting himself up for a 50/50 or 60/40 spilt. My fear is that when we go to court (saving up money to do so) he will be granted every other weekend, two midweek visits, summer vacation time, etc. When our daughter starts school that would make it close to a 50/50 spilt and I can't help but think that is not a good idea with him living so far.
He has never had our daughter overnight, lives about 35 miles away, works 90 miles away from where he works but works from home two days a week, travels sometimes for work. I am the primary caregiver and a SAHM except for going to school two nights a week (thinking about switching to one full day per week.)
My main question is: Is he setting himelf up to get every other weekend, two midweek visits and vacay time?
There is not court order and he is on the BC. Thank you!!
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I am going to talk to a family law lawyer on Wednesday but he is $475 dollars per hour so I thought I would ask some questions where it is free!
I just want to make sure that I am doing everything that I should be doing to protect both my daughter and myself. My daughters father rarely saw her before the age of 21 months. At 21 months he decided he wanted to be a father and I was welcoming of it. 5 months later he has visitation
1 day per week for seven hours
1 day per week for six hours
He recently just asked if he could have 1 day every other week for 8 1/2 hours. We have done that one time and it was really difficult on our daughter but I am open to trying it again b/c she probably just needs a little time to get use to it.
My fear is that the father is setting himself up for a 50/50 or 60/40 spilt. My fear is that when we go to court (saving up money to do so) he will be granted every other weekend, two midweek visits, summer vacation time, etc. When our daughter starts school that would make it close to a 50/50 spilt and I can't help but think that is not a good idea with him living so far.
He has never had our daughter overnight, lives about 35 miles away, works 90 miles away from where he works but works from home two days a week, travels sometimes for work. I am the primary caregiver and a SAHM except for going to school two nights a week (thinking about switching to one full day per week.)
My main question is: Is he setting himelf up to get every other weekend, two midweek visits and vacay time?
There is not court order and he is on the BC. Thank you!!