drivers license suspension

[kmasters0820]

Not that it matters much unless you know the whole situation, but I am not here to argue first and foremost, and I will not, you do not know me or this woman, and as I have stated from the start he has no problem with wanting to pay child support, they are his kids and his responsibilities, and he needs to pay child support, and I will let him know about the modification also (thanks for the tip), and yes he did try contacting the caseworker when he started school but his phone calls were never returned again, and we were planning to get a lawyer for visitation rights when he got out of school and started getting mone

 

[Proserpina]

Not that it matters much unless you know the whole situation, but I am not here to argue first and foremost, and I will not, you do not know me or this woman, and as I have stated from the start he has no problem with wanting to pay child support, they are his kids and his responsibilities, and he needs to pay child support, and I will let him know about the modification also (thanks for the tip), and yes he did try contacting the caseworker when he started school but his phone calls were never returned again, and we were planning to get a lawyer for visitation rights when he got out of school and started getting mone

Please tell us he answered that summons....

 

[kmasters0820]

Thanks waitinMd,

and that is fine with paying money now, it can be found somehow, actually we have been discussing what we can pay and how much until he starts working, granted its not going to be alot, but several hundred a month is better than nothing at this point, times are tough here, we both lost our jobs at factories, due to them shutting down, small towns and rural areas do not have much to offer here right now, we are just waiting on the caseworker to return the call to try to set something up, and he has already spoke with the school, and they are willing to give a written statement saying how he is enrolled, so on and so forth, it's almost just a waiting game now to see what happens next, thanks again for the advice

 

[kmasters0820]

what summons would you be talking about?

 

[Isis1]

Thanks waitinMd,

and that is fine with paying money now, it can be found somehow, actually we have been discussing what we can pay and how much until he starts working, granted its not going to be alot, but several hundred a month is better than nothing at this point, times are tough here, we both lost our jobs at factories, due to them shutting down, small towns and rural areas do not have much to offer here right now, we are just waiting on the caseworker to return the call to try to set something up, and he has already spoke with the school, and they are willing to give a written statement saying how he is enrolled, so on and so forth, it's almost just a waiting game now to see what happens next, thanks again for the advice

new girlfriend......please answer the question. IT IS IMPORTANT! when dad received the summons to take a DNA test for mom's infant child, did dad answer??????

 

[Proserpina]

what summons would you be talking about?

You said he was asked to submit DNA a couple of years ago - this would have been a summons or other court action.

So...what did he do?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

The one about coming in a producing some DNA samples.

 

[kmasters0820]

Sorry did not see the previous post, yes that was all cleared up about the youngest child of the mother

 

[Isis1]

Sorry did not see the previous post, yes that was all cleared up about the youngest child of the mother

phew...okay. you set off an alarm there**************.i think i'll go grab a drink now.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

phew...okay. you set off an alarm there**************.i think i'll go grab a drink now.

just remember not to drink and read! We've lost a few keyboards lately.

 

[Proserpina]

phew...okay. you set off an alarm there**************.i think i'll go grab a drink now.

(me too)

OP, please understand why I said what I said earlier.

You are about to become perhaps too involved with your boyfriend's legal matters - and yes, you can hurt him by doing so. Dad needs to take care of this, and you both should consider reading the "sticky" thread in the Custody/Visitation forum.

If you're going to be a step-parent the first thing you're going to have to do is - and many of us know how hard this can be - not criticize Mom. At least not to anyone other than Dad, in whispered tones....and even then I'd advise against it.

She's perhaps going to be in your lives for a long, long time to come - get used to it, and get used to knowing where a step-parent stands.

Trust us. Been there, done that. It's ok to ask questions on his behalf and find out info.

 

[Proserpina]

just remember not to drink and read! We've lost a few keyboards lately.

Yes, alas. Chardonnay-itis is very common around these parts

 

[kmasters0820]

Yes I understand what you are saying, and I would never say or do anything in front of the children, cause the only people that get hurt in that situation is the children, I can tell you that first hand. And as far as the dad, yes it is up to him in the situation, we are just here for advice.

 

[Proserpina]

Yes I understand what you are saying, and I would never say or do anything in front of the children, cause the only people that get hurt in that situation is the children, I can tell you that first hand. And as far as the dad, yes it is up to him in the situation, we are just here for advice.

Yup.

When did Dad last see his children?

 

[kmasters0820]

I am going to give you my honest answer (but know this I am not trying to badmouth anyone here, not trying to make anyone look bad), he drove up to Michigan a year ago the grandmother had them up there and it was agreed that he would keep them for two weeks when arrived he went to get the children and the grandmother was intoxicated and would not give over the children, in turn he called the kids mother and she called her mother and told her to give the kids to them and she would not hand them over and started yelling, well instead of making a bad situation worse, we left went to the local P.D. and they returned with us and since it was not in court writing and in a written agreement, we could not have the kids, so we contacted the mother again, mind you she already agreed to this, and all that was said since she was not there she could not make her mother hand over the kids, the cops took the grandmother to jail, and the kids stayed with family until the mother flew in to get them, he also tried getting them for this christmas, and she said no she did not want the kids away from the other siblings on christmas, (which I can kinda understand that), so he said what about thanksgiving, she said no, and he has not be able to get in touch with her since, that was the last straw and he is currently looking into trying to get a lawyer for visitation rights.