Who should provide clothing?

[Raisingmaddy]

What is the name of your state Washington...or any

I am just curious about what everyone thinks about this question...

Non-custodial parent pays child-support and has regular visitation with children.

If the order is silent on who provides clothing for parenting time should the custodial parent be required to provide it to the NCP, or should the NCP be required to provide clothing while the children are with them and how likely is it that a judge would require the CP to provide clothing to the NCP?

Again, I'm just curious, thanks!

 

[haiku]

this question's been answered a kabillion jeelion times here....

It depends on your state and court order...but really it kills neither side to invest in some undies, and a clean shirt to either throw in bag, or leave in a drawer for the weekend...no argument needed....

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Just buy a few inexpensive items (think Goodwill) that NCP can keep over at their place and be done with it. Particularly if the children are very small, their clothes size changes so much that its best for ALL parties.

 

[candg918]

This is not a legal answer, just an observation; this is really petty. Are you expecting the child to change into NCP provided clothing at the exchange and change back on the return so as to keep things separate?

Given how fast children outgrow clothing and the cost of everything, why would either parent want to create unnecessary expenses that take funds away providing other items for the child?

 

[ecmst12]

IMO this is an issue that shouldn't even see a courtroom.

If the children don't bring bags, then get them some clothing to keep at the house for their visitation times. It's not a big deal. Both parents are supposed to be supporting the children and if that means buying a few extra outfits, so be it.

 

[nextwife]

Goodwill on half price day is a great place to pick up "extra" clothing to keep around. A place like Big Lots/Wal Mart or Target is great for undies and socks.

 

[haiku]

Oh and just as no kid was ever truly harmeds sleeping on the floor no kid was ever truly harmed wearing the same clothes all weekend either....push comes to shove....

 

[bridgemom]

I do think it's the other parents job to provide necessities while in their care, but in the scheme of things this is one of those things that should be shrugged off.

Example-While my ex should be providing my daughter with healthy food (and isn't) while in his care, I stopped voicing concerns and just send food with her during her visits.

 

[Ohiogal]

I do think it's the other parents job to provide necessities while in their care, but in the scheme of things this is one of those things that should be shrugged off.

Example-While my ex should be providing my daughter with healthy food (and isn't) while in his care, I stopped voicing concerns and just send food with her during her visits.

Define healthy. what is your ex feeding HIS daughter?

 

[bridgemom]

He doesn't cook so they have take out food. And his water is rusty, so she drinks mountain dew during the two days she is with him. I send bottled water and things she likes here that she can eat over there (turkey, apples etc).

Don't get me wrong...he's a good guy, but just doesn't have the best eating habits.

All I'm saying is in co-parenting I'm learning to pick and choose my battles.

 

[bridgemom]

Define healthy. what is your ex feeding HIS daughter?

Noted. OUR daughter.

 

[maryjo]

When me and my ex first seperated and he was taking our son for weekends or whatever I would send a bag. I knew I had taken all our son's things with us when we moved in with my parents. So I knew he dad didnt have anything for him. I didnt care. I would much rather know that my son had clean clothes and a toothbrush while he was gone.

After a few months (and after he moved in with his girlfriend) he told me I didnt have to send him anything anymore because they had clothes for him there. No problem.

My only issue ever came where they made him change into "their" clothes when he got there and put back on "her" clothes when he left. They wouldnt let him wear home anything they bought although I never made it an issue when it was the stuff I bought. And I thought it made him feel bad having to go through this process. And still, if they send him home wearing something they bought they make a point to demand he return it the next time he goes over. Not a problem...just dont see the need for the hostility.

Anyway, its about taking care of the child...not who is right or who has the responsibility. Just assume that you do.

 

[Ohiogal]

He doesn't cook so they have take out food. And his water is rusty, so she drinks mountain dew during the two days she is with him. I send bottled water and things she likes here that she can eat over there (turkey, apples etc).

Don't get me wrong...he's a good guy, but just doesn't have the best eating habits.

All I'm saying is in co-parenting I'm learning to pick and choose my battles.

And this is NOT a battle to pick to fight unless there are allergies or medical concerns involved. A child drinking pop for two days and eating take out is being fed.
Clothing battles are also ridiculous. Unless the child needs something and it is not returned with -- middle of winter and the child has one winter jacket which is not returned or transferred with child -- or child is dressed inappropriately -- i.e. it is 30 degrees and snowing and the child is dressed in shorts and a tank top with flip flops.

 

[Ericade85]

I think since the NCP pays support the custodial parent should provide the main part of clothing like send a few outfits atleast when the children go to visit...but the NCP should keep a few things at their house also!

 

[Isis1]

I think since the NCP pays support the custodial parent should provide the main part of clothing like send a few outfits atleast when the children go to visit...but the NCP should keep a few things at their house also!

erica, please unlock your thread so you may be assisted.