Seeking Advice on Custody When No One Is Married

[sweetheart_sec]

Are you saying that you told the police he had spanked her so very badly and they refused to take a report?

I am saying, that they said unless that there was a mark left or she was bleeding... there wasn't a case.

 

[Silverplum]

Exactly my point.

That new poster is entirely clueless. Take its "advice" at your peril.

 

[Proserpina]

I am saying, that they said unless that there was a mark left or she was bleeding... there wasn't a case.

So...were you exaggerating a little in your first post?

 

[sweetheart_sec]

And you know that this is true in Mississippi how?

I have gone to a lawyer, for advice- this is what he said,

"The both of you have equal rights. When he has her, he does not have to bring her back, because there is no legal document stating that he should. On the other hand, you as the mother do not have to allow him to take her from your home. You have control over the whole situation, until he takes you to court."

 

[sweetheart_sec]

So...were you exaggerating a little in your first post?

Not from how I read it... But I can see how other people can misunderstand where I was coming from. I am sorry. I have never seen him go overboard with her. I have only noticed in the past how she reacts to him. There is no proof that he has ever physically mistreated her... he only over-reacts to small situations... and believes that everything should be handle with physical discipline... I do not. We have always "butted heads" over that.

 

[mommyof4]

I have gone to a lawyer, for advice- this is what he said,

"The both of you have equal rights. When he has her, he does not have to bring her back, because there is no legal document stating that he should. On the other hand, you as the mother do not have to allow him to take her from your home. You have control over the whole situation, until he takes you to court."

Which would completely contradict the statement that you both have equal rights.

Pay attention, here.

You do not have to let him take her. He has every legal RIGHT to go to court to get a court order outlining parenting time. That is NOT a threat. That is the reality you brought into your child's life when you chose to create and birth a child with this man. As it has been 5 years since the blessed event, you should be able to accept that basic truth.


If you want to eliminate a good bit of the drama, YOU file in court for custody. Just get it over with and stop playing the what if he....what if he doesn't....game.


Please disregard goddessoflubboc. S/he is clueless. Just because his/her incorrect answers are what you want to hear, that does not mean that he/she is a credible source.

 

[sweetheart_sec]

The majority of caucasian kids are. The question is - what color are they NOW?

They have actually turned green. Her father is half white and black. He assumes, that because of this- she should have dark features... but so not the case.

 

[mommyof4]

They have actually turned green. Her father is half white and black. He assumes, that because of this- she should have dark features... but so not the case.

...and so not relevant. Really...it's not.

He's the father of the child. He has a right to file in court to get a court order allowing him to exercise his parental rights and duties.

That's all that matters.

 

[goddessoflubboc]

It's my job to know.

What you do or don't do is on you.

 

[Proserpina]

It's my job to know.

What you do or don't do is on you.

And what would your job be?

 

[cyjeff]

And what would your job be?

I am guessing goddess, psychic or carny.

 

[Antigone*]

I am guessing goddess, psychic or carny.

There are two goddess on this forum and flubb ain't one of them

 

[Proserpina]

I am guessing goddess, psychic or carny.

Would you please stop being so goshdarn awesome? I mean really...

 

[Proserpina]

There are two goddess on this forum and flubb ain't one of them

*snicker*

It's Friday, right? Should we begin with the chardonnay and go from there?

 

[Antigone*]

*snicker*

It's Friday, right? Should we begin with the chardonnay and go from there?

I will share the wine with you in spirit tonight, my greek goddess friend. I've got this last week of studying before finals. Tonight is another night of cramming but I might sneak in a post or two when the material about estate returns gets too dry and boring though

btw...where is the other greek goddess been today. She hasn't split on us again, has she???