Please help!!! I cannot take anymore of this!!

[Antigone*]

To sum up:

Once out of this apartment and into a larger home. Mind you that the only reason I am in this apartment to begin with is because she lived with her boyfriend a few miles away until she was thrown out. I got this place to be close to my kids.

Once at new home:

1 I will have full time care of kids while at work. (Nanny or Au-pair)
2 Provide food, shelter, clothing, healthcare, education etc.. for kids as I always done since birth.



My soon to be homeless ex will get primary because I am a pilot.

Is this what I am up against? What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

Yes, that is what you are up against.

Look OP, you really need to seek the advice of your attorney. Your case has some complications that cannot, and will not even come close to being resolved on a message board. You are frustrated enough with all this going back and forth.

Have your attorney file your motions and get ready for what ever happens.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

To sum up:
Once out of this apartment and into a larger home. Mind you that the only reason I am in this apartment to begin with is because she lived with her boyfriend a few miles away until she was thrown out. I got this place to be close to my kids.

Once at new home:
1 I will have full time care of kids while at work. (Nanny or Au-pair)
2 Provide food, shelter, clothing, healthcare, education etc.. for kids as I always done since birth.

My soon to be homeless ex will get primary because I am a pilot.
Is this what I am up against? What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

O-M-G...

See that bolded part? The "soon to be homeless" part?

You do, of course, realize that a judge may well ask you "Did you intentionally kick her out before or after you decided to use that as a reason to obtain custody?"???

And before you say, again, that you don't want full custody, not only did you say "I want to petition for custody" in your very first post, you are going to make the kids mother homeless ...

 

[Jetpilot]

O-M-G...

See that bolded part? The "soon to be homeless" part?

You do, of course, realize that a judge may well ask you "Did you intentionally kick her out before or after you decided to use that as a reason to obtain custody?"???

And before you say, again, that you don't want full custody, not only did you say "I want to petition for custody" in your very first post, you are going to make the kids mother homeless ...

1. I wanted to petition for primary, physical custody. I was not familiar with the terms.

2. I didn't kick her out. Her 2 other boyfriends did.

3. I helped her enough. She is going to make herself homeless not me. She got into this situation by her own doing or not doing is more like it. She may be my kids mom but that does not obligate me to adopt her.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

O-M-G...

See that bolded part? The "soon to be homeless" part?

You do, of course, realize that a judge may well ask you "Did you intentionally kick her out before or after you decided to use that as a reason to obtain custody?"???

And before you say, again, that you don't want full custody, not only did you say "I want to petition for custody" in your very first post, you are going to make the kids mother homeless ...

I disagree with the bolded. He is not responsible to supply his ex with a place to live if she doesn't have one. His only responsibility is to the children. If he kicks his ex out of HIS house and she is homeless that is her fault. She should have found a job and made sure she had an income to support her and the children. I don't think any court is going to fault him for her not working. He is not her parent he is the parent of the children. It is totally unreasonable for you to even think that.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

2. I didn't kick her out...

...yet, but you plan to...

Are you planning on informing Mom that this move of yours is happening? I haven't read a thing about that little tidbit, except that you want to "avoid confrontation".

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

...yet, but you plan to...

Are you planning on informing Mom that this move of yours is happening? I haven't read a thing about that little tidbit, except that you want to "avoid confrontation".

What is your point ProSe? He has a right to kick her out of HIS house as long as he follows the landlord/tenant standards of his town. Since she has been there for the length of time that she has he will need to do so in accordance with those standards but that is all legally that he needs to do. He does not OWE her a place to stay and should not feel bad that he wants her out. He only needs to worry about his children. So yes he should go back and file to modify custody if she ends up homeless. That is her fault not his.

 

[my life is mine]

are you even divorced from this woman?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

... That is her fault not his.

I agree. I never said and/or implied that it is the OP’s responsibility to support and/or house Mom.

However…

I’d still like an answer about whether or not OP is going to give Mom fair warning of what’s coming, or simply present it as a fait accompli when the time comes. I mean since he want's to "avoid confrontation" and all...

 

[Jetpilot]

FINALLY SOMEONE AGREES WITH ME. THANK YOU! Hisbabygirl77



To answer your questions no I am not married nor ever was married to her.

Yes ProSe! she has had warning time and time again. Time to use tough love to get her off her posterior. She is fully aware that I am purchasing a home. She has been told once lease over or move, whichever comes first, she has three choices.

1. Homeless Shelter.

2. Go to Iowa so Mommy can take care of her.

3. Get a job and start saving money so she can get a place to live. I even offered to pay for first and last.

I am not a monster. I have given her 6 years and thousands upon thousands of dollars to try to help her. I have provided her with the tools such as a laptop, car, shelter and everything else to get some kind of work and independent life for herself. Only she can get employment. Only she can go to work.

What I fear is that she will take my kids and move 2000 miles away while I am on a trip. That is why I want to petition.

Who or what is OP?

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

FINALLY SOMEONE AGREES WITH ME. THANK YOU!



To answer your questions no I am not married nor ever was married to her.

Yes she has had warning time and time again. Time to use tough love to get her off her posterior. She is fully aware that I am purchasing a home. She has been told once lease over or move, whichever comes first, she has three choices.

1. Homeless Shelter.

2. Go to Iowa so Mommy can take care of her.

3. Get a job and start saving money so she can get a place to live. I even offered to pay for first and last.

I am not a monster. I have given her 6 years and thousands upon thousands of dollars to try to help her. I have provided her with the tools to get some kind of work and independent life for herself. Only she can get employment.

What I fear is that she will take my kids and move 2000 miles away while I am on a trip. That is why I want to petition.

Who or what is OP?

You are the OP. If she moves then you immediatly file to have the children to be returned to the home state. She can move wherever she wants. The children are a different matter. You can't do anything about her moving until she either serves you with notice she is moving, moves or you have PROOF that she is going to moving in the immediate future.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

I know you think this is a slam dunk, but are you dealing with Palm Beach county courts?

 

[Jetpilot]

You are the OP. If she moves then you immediatly file to have the children to be returned to the home state. She can move wherever she wants. The children are a different matter. You can't do anything about her moving until she either serves you with notice she is moving, moves or you have PROOF that she is going to moving in the immediate future.

OK so there is a way to prevent her from pulling a stunt like that.

Is there anything that I need to document now? All that has happened has been outside of court.

 

[Jetpilot]

I know you think this is a slam dunk, but are you dealing with Palm Beach county courts?

I don't think this is a slam dunk. The lawyer I consulted said that not me. I am sure the court will not blame me on why she has not gained employment when I have done everything in my power to help her.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Don't wait till June or July to start an eviction process with your wanna-be-an-x; best start no later than March since you'll have to go thru an eviction process if she doesn't want to move.

 

[Jetpilot]

Don't wait till June or July to start an eviction process with your wanna-be-an-x; best start no later than March since you'll have to go thru an eviction process if she doesn't want to move.

Hell she can stay here as long as she wants. I am not renewing the lease. She is not on the lease, she never was. Wanna be an x? She's been an x for quite some time now.