Need help!!!

[>Charlotte<]

I wonder if the father is on another forum complaining that his ex is the kind of parent that lets a 7 year old make these kinds of adult decisions.

For Pete's sake. The child is SEVEN. I can't believe any mother would burden a little boy with that kind of responsibility.

 

[Just Blue]

Darn shin-lickers.

They get everywhere.

KICK. They should get a KICK.

 

[Proserpina]

Tonight's "Pro, you're so darned cynical sometimes" thought:


OP - are you absolutely sure that you're not Dad's new wife/partner/whatevs trying to see if Mom has a leg to stand on?

Just a thought.

 

[lilmansmom]

Tonight's "Pro, you're so darned cynical sometimes" thought:


OP - are you absolutely sure that you're not Dad's new wife/partner/whatevs trying to see if Mom has a leg to stand on?

Just a thought.

i guess we will just have to see in court but i do still feel our child should get a say. I have seen many cases and heard about how a judge goes off on the non custodial parent in court about not wanting anything to do with child before and poof all of a sudden he does.. what judge is going to be okay with that? im sure i will not be the only one having a judge tell me what i shoiuld be when his own father has never been there

 

[lilmansmom]

i guess we will just have to see in court but i do still feel our child should get a say. I have seen many cases and heard about how a judge goes off on the non custodial parent in court about not wanting anything to do with child before and poof all of a sudden he does.. what judge is going to be okay with that? im sure i will not be the only one having a judge tell me what i shoiuld be when his own father has never been there

just a note to thought, yes i do tell my child because he has every right to know what his father has done tohim and clearly he sees it on his own, its detrimental for a child to go back and forth one min his dad wants him one minute he dont that hurts a child.. a judge will see that

 

[Proserpina]

i guess we will just have to see in court but i do still feel our child should get a say.

You're just not reading, are you?

I have seen many cases and heard about how a judge goes off on the non custodial parent in court about not wanting anything to do with child before and poof all of a sudden he does.. what judge is going to be okay with that?

99.9% of them, actually.


But feel free to show us the cases that you've seen.

im sure i will not be the only one having a judge tell me what i shoiuld be when his own father has never been there

Oh, but the judge will ABSOLUTELY tell you what you should and shouldn't be doing.

You're really not reading what you're being told, are you?

 

[Proserpina]

just a note to thought, yes i do tell my child because he has every right to know what his father has done tohim and clearly he sees it on his own, its detrimental for a child to go back and forth one min his dad wants him one minute he dont that hurts a child.. a judge will see that

Here's what a judge will see:

A father who is TRYING to become part of his son's life, trying to fix his mistakes.

A mother who is OBVIOUSLY doing everything in her power to try and thwart Dad.

A mother who is quite clearly guilty of alienation.

A mother who is using her child as a pawn.

A mother who is so angry and bitter that she cannot see how badly she has already hurt her son.


Are we NOW on the same page?

 

[breezymom]

i guess we will just have to see in court but i do still feel our child should get a say. I have seen many cases and heard about how a judge goes off on the non custodial parent in court about not wanting anything to do with child before and poof all of a sudden he does.. what judge is going to be okay with that?

Here we go with the unfair thing, again. My ex never bonded with his child...spent 4 hours of a 24 hour day with her, 3 of which she was put in a swing to sleep. He hadn't exercised the visitation I organised for him before court and hadn't exercised half or better of the court ordered visitation when we returned and he wanted more. What did the judge say? Your request is granted. Even though it may not be in the CUSTODIAL PARENT'S best interest, they are STILL going to see any attempt at contact in the CHILD'S best interest. Why are you bothering asking for advice if it is going in one eye and out the other?

im sure i will not be the only one having a judge tell me what i shoiuld be when his own father has never been there

What?

 

[>Charlotte<]

Good Lord, I feel so sorry for this poor little kid. All of seven years old and his parents put THIS kind of crap on his shoulders?? This is just heartbreaking.

 

[lilmansmom]

Here we go with the unfair thing, again. My ex never bonded with his child...spent 4 hours of a 24 hour day with her, 3 of which she was put in a swing to sleep. He hadn't exercised the visitation I organised for him before court and hadn't exercised half or better of the court ordered visitation when we returned and he wanted more. What did the judge say? Your request is granted. Even though it may not be in the CUSTODIAL PARENT'S best interest, they are STILL going to see any attempt at contact in the CHILD'S best interest. Why are you bothering asking for advice if it is going in one eye and out the other?



What?

its NOT in the childs best interest though is what i keep and want to prove to the judge!!

 

[Proserpina]

Good Lord, I feel so sorry for this poor little kid. All of seven years old and his parents put THIS kind of crap on his shoulders?? This is just heartbreaking.

I'm 100% sure we're not being told the truth.

 

[breezymom]

You aren't proving it here, so good luck with a judge because they are much harder to convince, normally, and everyone here is trying to tell you how the legal system views these things of which you are posting.

 

[Proserpina]

its NOT in the childs best interest though is what i keep and want to prove to the judge!!

Why is it not in the child's best interest to have access to both parents?

Or, are you going to be okay if Dad gets custody and you don't have visitation?

That works too, right?

 

[Proserpina]

You aren't proving it here, so good luck with a judge because they are much harder to convince, normally, and everyone here is trying to tell you how the legal system views these things of which you are posting.

At this point, breezy, I'm calling troll.

Or, as I suggested earlier - this ain't Mom posting

 

[lilmansmom]

yes, i am his mother thank you, and it's not in his best interest when he father bad mouths me to everyone including myself, when he father left without speaking to our child in years, and when our child dont even want anything to do with him