My ex's parents insist on staying over

[tuffbrk]

Your stbx mil is not going to leave regardless if you give her money or not. Do not give her a dime and keep your checkbook and check supply locked in a drawer at work.

If she doesn't leave tomorrow, you can ask your attorney if it is possible to motion the court for exclusive use of the home.

I know it's hard but you just have to hang in there.

 

[Bulldog1]

You've been carrying on about this for a week now. Re-read the thread and choose some advice.

Does MIL have the flea bag mutt with her?

She did not bring the pooch with her this time. However the FIL is planning on coming over this Easter Sunday with the dog. I've been carry on about this for a week now because thats how long the MIL has been at my house. And now she won't leave at all unless I pay her the money. All i want to do is to come home to my daughter without being harassed by stbx and her vindictive mother. These laws need to change in regards to removing unwanted guest from their home. The person who is held responsible for all the household bills and mortgage should get the final say.

 

[Ohiogal]

She did not bring the pooch with her this time. However the FIL is planning on coming over this Easter Sunday with the dog. I've been carry on about this for a week now because thats how long the MIL has been at my house. And now she won't leave at all unless I pay her the money. All i want to do is to come home to my daughter without being harassed by stbx and her vindictive mother. These laws need to change in regards to removing unwanted guest from their home. The person who is held responsible for all the household bills and mortgage should get the final say.

Really? He with the most money wins? That is not the way the courts work. Or the laws. You decided to be responsible for the household bills and mortgage. You decided to marry this woman and have a child with her. Your choices have consequences.

 

[Bulldog1]

Really? He with the most money wins? That is not the way the courts work. Or the laws. You decided to be responsible for the household bills and mortgage. You decided to marry this woman and have a child with her. Your choices have consequences.

It has nothing to do with who has more money. Its about being in control of your own property and what goes on within. If my stbx was filthy rich she still wouldnt pay for anything. If I lose my job and default on my bills, who is responsible for it? I know for sure the stbx won't give a dime and will chuckle. If the stbx-mil slips and falls inside my home, who gets sued? I am not saying you are wrong, I am saying this law is unjust. If I have the authority to allow or not allow passengers in my car, those same rules should apply to a home, which I am sure will never happen

 

[Ohiogal]

It has nothing to do with who has more money. Its about being in control of your own property and what goes on within. If my stbx was filthy rich she still wouldnt pay for anything. If I lose my job and default on my bills, who is responsible for it? I know for sure the stbx won't give a dime and will chuckle. If the stbx-mil slips and falls inside my home, who gets sued? I am not saying you are wrong, I am saying this law is unjust. If I have the authority to allow or not allow passengers in my car, those same rules should apply to a home, which I am sure will never happen

The property is at least partially marital property. If the stbx-mil slips and falls, both of you could get sued. You chose to marry your wife. You chose to buy a house and be married. You chose said house to be the marital residence. Hence, your wife is entitled to have guests over to HER residence. Should I continue on with the ludicrousness of your argument? If the car is marital property, your wife gets to have passengers in that car.

 

[Isis1]

She did not bring the pooch with her this time. However the FIL is planning on coming over this Easter Sunday with the dog. I've been carry on about this for a week now because thats how long the MIL has been at my house. And now she won't leave at all unless I pay her the money. All i want to do is to come home to my daughter without being harassed by stbx and her vindictive mother. These laws need to change in regards to removing unwanted guest from their home. The person who is held responsible for all the household bills and mortgage should get the final say.

once again.....you are MARRIED. EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE. it is not more your responsibility than hers. this doesn't end until otherwise ordered.

yes, am i on your side? absolutely. i'm married with a FIL in my home that thinks i'm his live in servant. that will stay that way until he passes. you will eventually get rid of these people. and they won't have to die for it to happen.

but you have got to let go of that "mine mine mine" mentality.

 

[Bulldog1]

I know you guys are right about the stbx rights. I am just frustrated. If her mother refuses to leave and continues to harrass me about the money should I get an order of protection against her to vacate my home immediately? She's creating mental anguish, making verbal threats and is interfering with my parenting on a daily basis. I already have one police report against her

 

[Isis1]

I know you guys are right about the stbx rights. I am just frustrated. If her mother refuses to leave and continues to harrass me about the money should I get an order of protection against her to vacate my home immediately? She's creating mental anguish, making verbal threats and is interfering with my parenting on a daily basis. I already have one police report against her

earphones, dude. turn them down when your daughter is around...but the second that woman opens her mouth...turn them up and start singing. preferably that one song...by JoJo....."get out, right now".

 

[Bali Hai]

earphones, dude. turn them down when your daughter is around...but the second that woman opens her mouth...turn them up and start singing. preferably that one song...by JoJo....."get out, right now".

MIL might like that song. How about some hardcore rauncy rap?

 

[single317dad]

I know you guys are right about the stbx rights. I am just frustrated. If her mother refuses to leave and continues to harrass me about the money should I get an order of protection against her to vacate my home immediately? She's creating mental anguish, making verbal threats and is interfering with my parenting on a daily basis. I already have one police report against her

http://www.nycourts.gov/forms/familycourt/pdfs/8-2.pdf

Knock yourself out. You'll have to convince a judge that you need to be protected from her, and you'll be opening a can of worms by doing so, but that's your right if you feel the need.

 

[Bulldog1]

earphones, dude. turn them down when your daughter is around...but the second that woman opens her mouth...turn them up and start singing. preferably that one song...by JoJo....."get out, right now".

LOL! I'm really trying not to take matters into my own hands. That's what they want me to do to the point I violate the order of protection. She already tried to have me arrested once with false claims

 

[Bulldog1]

http://www.nycourts.gov/forms/familycourt/pdfs/8-2.pdf

Knock yourself out. You'll have to convince a judge that you need to be protected from her, and you'll be opening a can of worms by doing so, but that's your right if you feel the need.

This is what I am afraid of. What repercussion's can I expect given the stbxmil is a complete looney tune? All I want is for her to stay away from me and my home. She can visit my daughter at some other location. Is that too much to ask?

 

[Silverplum]

This is what I am afraid of. What repercussion's can I expect given the stbxmil is a complete looney tune? All I want is for her to stay away from me and my home. She can visit my daughter at some other location. Is that too much to ask?

Apparently, yes.

And, after 5 pages, I'm thinking the question has been thoroughly asked and answered.

 

[Bulldog1]

Update

Well as much as this thread is dragging on and on, I still have more to talk about. Now the stbxmil says she isn't leaving and has now invited the stbxfil and their german shepherd to stay over this weekend. I can't suck this up anymore than what I already have. Stbxmil is directly interfering with my quality time with my daughter. Given everything that has went on, do you guys feel that filing for an order of protection for the stbxmil to stay away from my home is justified? I do, but I am afraid of these can of worms that I may be opening up.

 

[catechismia]

Well as much as this thread is dragging on and on, I still have more to talk about. Now the stbxmil says she isn't leaving and has now invited the stbxfil and their german shepherd to stay over this weekend. I can't suck this up anymore than what I already have. Stbxmil is directly interfering with my quality time with my daughter. Given everything that has went on, do you guys feel that filing for an order of protection for the stbxmil to stay away from my home is justified? I do, but I am afraid of these can of worms that I may be opening up.

Right now, you have the advantage of them looking bad in court. If you try to get an order of protection just because they annoy you, it will start looking like both sides are in a tit for tat spite battle. It is not worth it.

But remember, you're also not the "victim" here. Your poor daughter is. I can only imagine how awful this is for her.