I currently pay child support, although i guess it isn't 'technically' child support without an order, by check and write child support in the 'memo' section of the check and save copies of the signed copies....I know when we do eventually go to court for an actual order that these checks may not be counted, or could even count against me(I pay more then i 'think' will be ordered).....But, i'm a father, my job is to support my daughter....Child support isn't optional for me.
This is the reason i also feel so strongly about medical care and coverage, just because daughters mother and I couldn't make it work does not mean i shouldn't be there 110% for our daughter, as a father, supporting a child is MUCH MUCH more then just giving the mother checks, i provide medical coverage, take our daughter to all doctors appointments, help with Extra curricular(i just signed up to be a co-leader for the girl scouts) and call EVERY SINGLE DAY to see how her day went and ask if i can come over and help with her homework, i've also restricted job searches to areas that would allow me to live in the same school district as our daughter....Our daughter is NOT going to feel like her father is missing in ANY part of her life if i can help it! I can't think of ANYTHING more important to a childs life then their father!