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I need help with child support question

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stealth2

Under the Radar Member
i have no plans to have anymore kids im going to be taking the steps so that i cant have any more. And i have been looking in two finding a job i started looking the some week i had our 2 week old i know it sounds bad me trying to get a job right after having a baby but i have to do something right
No, it does not look bad - it actually puts you in a move favorable light (in my eyes anyway) - you are doing what you know needs to be done for your kids. That is right and proper, difficult though it is. And... perhaps your b/f should get himself snipped?

And no i dont receive child support from him because when i was with him he would hit me and call me everything but a human.
He should be helping support his child. Period.

And, umm..... if your b/f has not been *legally* determined to be the other two's father? He has neither rights nor responsibilities.
 


Bre262017

Junior Member
There are services that will assist you...Child care assistance and programs that will help you with GED/Job placement. It is in the states best interest to help you get a job and provide for your kids. Have you tried going to TANF (welfare)? By dropping out you created this problem. No education = poor/no choices.
I know of some of the programs like tanf but i dont know much about it and i didnt know that they have ged and job placement programs. I have always been told you have to pay for ged classes. I'll have to call and find out more information about them because at this point im willing to do anything.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
I know of some of the programs like tanf but i dont know much about it and i didnt know that they have ged and job placement programs. I have always been told you have to pay for ged classes. I'll have to call and find out more information about them because at this point im willing to do anything.
Call your local employment office and ask them about GED classes. They may have information about the programs there. Many places also have websites that you can locate and read. You need to educate yourself and take control of your own life. You need to not be ignorant about the choices out there. Educating yourself on ways of helping yourself (without depriving your boyfriend's legal children because yours are not legally his children)helps your children. But the first step is taking responsibility for your situation without blaming others and then moving forward.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
A thought (or two) regarding getting your GED. It will require commitment on your part. There are online programs, for starters. If they cost more than you can manage, you should be able to find the requirements for a GED in TN, and get study materials from the library. And then study your butt off. The test can be taken online, and you may be able to get the fee waived (you'd have to look into that).

Now, I am not one to generally suggest public assistance (not that I am necessarily against it), but if you are actively working (via getting your HS Equivalency) on improving things for yourself/your kids... It could be a stop-gap measure for you. Something to think about and research.
 

Bre262017

Junior Member
No, it does not look bad - it actually puts you in a move favorable light (in my eyes anyway) - you are doing what you know needs to be done for your kids. That is right and proper, difficult though it is. And... perhaps your b/f should get himself snipped?



He should be helping support his child. Period.

And, umm..... if your b/f has not been *legally* determined to be the other two's father? He has neither rights nor responsibilities.
I have told him he needs to get snipped many times but he always says no. No he hasnt but he acknowledge that they are his.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
I have told him he needs to get snipped many times but he always says no. No he hasnt but he acknowledge that they are his.
Legally he has NOT acknowledged that they are his. And you can't control him. You can only control yourself. So get yourself snipped.
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
A thought (or two) regarding getting your GED. It will require commitment on your part. There are online programs, for starters. If they cost more than you can manage, you should be able to find the requirements for a GED in TN, and get study materials from the library. And then study your butt off. The test can be taken online, and you may be able to get the fee waived (you'd have to look into that).

Now, I am not one to generally suggest public assistance (not that I am necessarily against it), but if you are actively working (via getting your HS Equivalency) on improving things for yourself/your kids... It could be a stop-gap measure for you. Something to think about and research.
Just posted the government website that has sites that are low-cost or free for the GED. She needs to read the whole thing. (The whole website that is)
 

Just Blue

Senior Member
I have told him he needs to get snipped many times but he always says no. No he hasnt but he acknowledge that they are his.
Personally ...I would dump his a$$. The "man" has four children he can't support. He has NO business making more. And his saying "their my children" means NOTHING LEGALLY. He has not legal rights/responsibility towards them.

Dump him. File for paternity/support. Better your life and your children's lives. Don't date again till you are strong and self-supportive.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
I have told him he needs to get snipped many times but he always says no.
And then you say no when he wants to get his groove on.

I'm figuring that if your oldest is 9 and you had him young, then you are mid20s at best. I don't think you want another child or two until you are able to support the ones you have, right? Until he is willing to LEGALLY acknowledge the children he has with you and do what he has to to support all of his kids? You should not be giving him the option of sex with you. Sorry.
 

Bre262017

Junior Member
Call your local employment office and ask them about GED classes. They may have information about the programs there. Many places also have websites that you can locate and read. You need to educate yourself and take control of your own life. You need to not be ignorant about the choices out there. Educating yourself on ways of helping yourself (without depriving your boyfriend's legal children because yours are not legally his children)helps your children. But the first step is taking responsibility for your situation without blaming others and then moving forward.
We have looked in to getting him put on the birth certificates and we would have to go to court to have it done because by law he could not sign the birth certificates. Thank you for the information
 

Just Blue

Senior Member
Just posted the government website that has sites that are low-cost or free for the GED. She needs to read the whole thing. (The whole website that is)
Thank You Darling for posting....You are a font of excellent information!!:cool::cool:
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
We have looked in to getting him put on the birth certificates and we would have to go to court to have it done because by law he could not sign the birth certificates. Thank you for the information
He would NEVER sign the birth certificates. He COULD however sign the affidavit of paternity for each child. So why hasn't he EVER done that? Are you married to someone else?
 

Bre262017

Junior Member
Personally ...I would dump his a$$. The "man" has four children he can't support. He has NO business making more. And his saying "their my children" means NOTHING LEGALLY. He has not legal rights/responsibility towards them.

Dump him. File for paternity/support. Better your life and your children's lives. Don't date again till you are strong and self-supportive.
I want lie i have been thinking about it. Because i havs tried to give him what advice i could about his where he stands in all of this and he did not listen and this is where we are now.
 

Bre262017

Junior Member
He would NEVER sign the birth certificates. He COULD however sign the affidavit of paternity for each child. So why hasn't he EVER done that? Are you married to someone else?
I didnt know about the affidavit of paternity where do you get one? I have been trying to get a divorce for four years now.
 

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