wantpeaceofmind
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What is the name of your state? Ohio
I was divorced 5 years ago, I have two children 7 and 9. In the current shared parenting plan I got every other weekend and one evening mid week. For the last 2-3 years I've actually been getting my kids a little more than 50-50, which I have documented in a spreadsheet, backed up by our email correspondence. It took the first few years to build up to this level, and I had to constant find ways to get them extra time, so that it became 'normal' for their mom. For the most part their mom and I get along reasonably well. I would like to modify the schedule officially to reflect what it has been the last few years. I have asked their mom, but she said she doesn't want to do that. So I have hired a lawyer to pursue this further, though she isn't aware of this yet.
I'm wondering what will the next steps be? The lawyer has had me fill out a financial disclosure form (DR1) and information for parenting proceeding affidavit (DR4) and I'm going to take them to him in a few days to move forward. But I want to make sure I'm prepared and aware of all my options and what will happen next. So I can manage my lawyer and make sure things move along smoothly and quickly. How and when will their mom be notified of this action?
Can someone please kindly explain the next steps, is there any kind of flow chart out there to go over everything? What are the expected timelines? Also, what are my chances of success? For what it's worth, their mom doesn't ever do their reading/homework, and we have to catch up every week, plus do the current weeks homework. Both are significantly behind at school, oldest is on an IEP and is at the end of 4th grade and still reads at a 1st grade level, our youngest is going to be tested for that next grade (his teachers gave him the option to repeat 1st grade). I have all this documented.
I'm not interested in modifying CS, though that is a substantial amount per month, I just want to make sure I have peace of mind that she won't decide to reduce my time with my children in the future, like I strongly suspect she may, when life is more convenient for her to parent them more.
I was divorced 5 years ago, I have two children 7 and 9. In the current shared parenting plan I got every other weekend and one evening mid week. For the last 2-3 years I've actually been getting my kids a little more than 50-50, which I have documented in a spreadsheet, backed up by our email correspondence. It took the first few years to build up to this level, and I had to constant find ways to get them extra time, so that it became 'normal' for their mom. For the most part their mom and I get along reasonably well. I would like to modify the schedule officially to reflect what it has been the last few years. I have asked their mom, but she said she doesn't want to do that. So I have hired a lawyer to pursue this further, though she isn't aware of this yet.
I'm wondering what will the next steps be? The lawyer has had me fill out a financial disclosure form (DR1) and information for parenting proceeding affidavit (DR4) and I'm going to take them to him in a few days to move forward. But I want to make sure I'm prepared and aware of all my options and what will happen next. So I can manage my lawyer and make sure things move along smoothly and quickly. How and when will their mom be notified of this action?
Can someone please kindly explain the next steps, is there any kind of flow chart out there to go over everything? What are the expected timelines? Also, what are my chances of success? For what it's worth, their mom doesn't ever do their reading/homework, and we have to catch up every week, plus do the current weeks homework. Both are significantly behind at school, oldest is on an IEP and is at the end of 4th grade and still reads at a 1st grade level, our youngest is going to be tested for that next grade (his teachers gave him the option to repeat 1st grade). I have all this documented.
I'm not interested in modifying CS, though that is a substantial amount per month, I just want to make sure I have peace of mind that she won't decide to reduce my time with my children in the future, like I strongly suspect she may, when life is more convenient for her to parent them more.
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